Okay my fiancee found some racy text messages b/t me and some exes of mine. I promised him I would tell them that I wouldn't talk to them anymore. Well, I didn't and he caught me 3 more times. The last time he told me to cut off all contact with them and to change my number and if I didn't do it this time that he would either start to cheat on me or he would leave me. I told him that when my job gave me my company phone that I would change the number. Well I called all my exes and cut off contact with them like he said So when I got my company phone the other day, he told me it's time to get my number changed but I don't want to change my number. He them told me to get out of the house and never contact him or our kids again!! I don't think he's being fair!!! I don't talk to or text my exes anymore that should be enough without me changing my number! What should I do??
2006-11-29 07:40:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously he doesn't trust you. Why should he? You did the text messages in the first place, then you lied to him about stopping. Change the number and straighted yourself out if you want to keep him.
Also, ask yourself this. How would I feel if HE were doing it??
2006-11-29 07:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u value your marriage, and love him, than change the number as he asks. u cheated on him, u lost his trust, so u need to do all u can do right now to save your marriage. he simply has not regained trust yet, and u must understand, if it will make him feel better about changing the number than do it. most men wouldn't give their wives a second chance, some wifes get left for alot less than u did. u hurt him why can't u see that u are the one who has to give in. u should be greatful he didn't file for divorce, or go out and cheat on u.
2006-11-29 20:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you broke his trust not once but 3 more times. it's a simple decision, change your number. i don't think he's asking too much of you. you have to see his point of view and think of how you would feel if he was doing the same thing to you.
keep the fiancee and kids, and change the phone number!
2006-11-29 15:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understand that you broke his trust, made a promise, and then broke it again, told him you would change the number, and then broke that promise.
I wouldn't trust you either.
It's also interesting that you had a husband in a question you posted a month ago.
2006-11-29 15:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being fair by expecting him to trust you when you have lied to him before. Change your number already, it's not that big of a deal. Is it really worth losing your family over?!
2006-11-29 15:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he should have done it after catching you the second or third time. You were caught 4 times.
He is hury and feels he can not trust you and that you value your racy connection with your ex more than him
If he was important to you, you would have stopped. After getting caught again, you should have done what he requested to try and earn his trust again
2006-11-29 15:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were in the wrong. Take your medicine. Just change the damn number.
2006-11-29 16:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which is more important, the father of your kids or keeping your same cell number?
Problem solved.....
2006-11-29 15:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change the number. Period.
2006-11-29 16:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you already screwed up. i can't blame him. but as far as the kids go....he can't do that. ever. you get your rear end to court and file for custody.
2006-11-29 15:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋