How many of you out there want to experience swinging but won't bring it up because of fear over how your partner might react? If your partner was interested would you try it?
2006-11-29 07:31:52 · 23 answers · asked by open_phunguy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hubby and i have been swinging for 10 years now. the most important things people have to have in a swinging relationship is honesty and communication. if they don't have this, it just won't work. most couples that we know have "rules and regulations", meaning we can all talk about what we can and can't do. what people have to remember is when you go out to have sex with other couples, it's just sex. if feelings get involved, then you really shouln't be in a swinging lifestyle.
2006-11-29 09:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by mj_jll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swinging rocks.. Its about having the right partner. It cannot be done with a shakey insecure relationship. Both people need to know that each other is what matters not any people you are with. The rumor is that it's people shreiking in and out of other peoples beds but the reality is its a very careful selection process to decide as a couple who you are going to bring into your bed. There is also many rules to it. 1/2 a couple will not be accepted if the other 1/2 isnt into it or has indicated its ok. You have to be selective there is a lot of weirdos out there.
2006-11-29 15:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by ice_princess 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first, I don't want to experience it, nor does my girlfriend. We're happy with each other, and we don't need other people to supplement our relationship sexually.
I'm not saying swinging is bad, sick, gross or anything childish like that. Swinging is a part of some people's lives. If they can find happiness doing it, then good for them.
As far as being a swinger. The biggest problems I've heard with swinging, are a lack of respect, lack of communication, and insecurity. Think about it. You're letting your significant other, have intercourse with other people. You may, or may not be watching, or participating. The guy she's with, may please her better than you do. The girl he's with, may give better head than you do. He/she may not only enjoy someone else more, but may fantasize about being with them again, or may pursue being with them again in the future. It's not a life for the general population.
You may find this appealing... but you have to do two things. Be completely ok with your significant other doing these things with other people. And you have to find a significant other, that's willing, good at communication, and doesn't get insecure or jealous. Good luck.
2006-11-29 15:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been swinging for several years and we've not only had a great time, our relationship is even better than it was, and it was pretty dang good before we got into it.
We had no problem bringing it up because we are both open and honest with each other because we accept each other for who we are and do not judge each other for our thoughts and feelings. That in of itself is a great feeling in a relationship
It has always baffled me that people will be more honest and open with strangers than with the one person that should accept us uneqivicolally: our spouse.
2006-11-29 15:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No desire to experiment, thus no fear. I know my partner, he would not suggest it. And I would definitely NOT try it for ANY reason. If one wants that kind of excitement in their life, then they deserve to 'swing' alone.
2006-11-29 15:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been doing it for years. It works great if both partners are into swinging and they are very open and honest with each other.
2006-11-29 15:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I like s e x but I have to draw limits somewhere. Bringing other people into that is something you can't ever take back. I'd prefer not to do that & I HOPE my bf would say the same!
2006-11-29 15:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't want to do it and if my spouse suggested it, I'd suggest a divorce.
My opinion is that swinging is just a way to cheat. I'm sure that some couples can do it and still look at each other with respect, but I wouldn't be able to.
2006-11-29 15:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would love to experience swinging, but I don't think my wife could handle seeing me with another woman. You can e-mail me if you want to discuss this in more detail. pistolpaulyr2@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 15:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many pros and cons to say yes or no. Swinging is not your everyday average 3sum!
2006-11-29 15:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋