CONFUSED!?! I think im wanting my ex-husband back even though im in a realationship?

Question

I have been divorced since march but i found out that my ex has a new girlfriend which never bothered me before but he says he wants to be serious with her! In that same sentence he says that if i dropped my current realationship he would drop his to be together! He has aked for me back numerous times and i said no! Im okay where im @ my new BF treats me like a queen but he is broke! Me and my ex do have a child together am i just missing the family together? Obvously I divorced him for a reason so why do I feel like i want him back now?

Answer 1

Like you said you divorced him for a reason ,,,, Better re-examine those reasons and do another evaluation ,,,, It might be that he's taken a girlfriend to use her as a tool to get you to reconsider ,,,, Especially if he's told you that he'd drop her if you drop him ,,,, Getting back with him would be good for the child if the two of you can resolve the issues between you ,,,, Your child should be your first consideration anyway ,,,, Nothing ventured nothing gained ,,,, You can always find another boyfriend again later on if things don't work between you two a second time ,,,, I don't think it would hurt to give it a try ,,,,,

Answer 2

Sounds like my story. I feel everything has a way to work out. The truth is you have to want it from both sides. This is what i'm going thru she chose a different path which is bad for the childrens sake. I believe if you decide to have a large family don't put the cost on the tax payers to support the low income created by the seperation from the other spouse. I think they need to change the laws of marriage if you have children involved then you must atleast go thru a program to try an reconcile the marriage before allowed to proceed with divorce. My opinion only.

Answer 3

NEVER TRY A PERSON that YOU TRIED BEFORE!

This is a Persian advice too that ONLY FOOL making TWICE the same mistake!

YOU were living with your Ex-husband for a while and YOU had REASONS for divorce.

WHY do you want to try it again!

DO YOU think that 'GOD' is going to let you have a chance to be AGAIN 15 years old 'girl' or 'twenty'! NO! It has passed!

SO, try this man, or other, and if they were not treat you well change them.

FURTHER, when you DIVORCED it is NOT proper and Ethical to have contact with your Ex-husband; and have talks like that...

This is CHEATING against this guy that 'treats you like a queen'!

SO, if you want to become a MOTHER, the first 'STEP" is to be CLEAN and HONEST that your child become Good Children for you!
SO, when your are with a 'guy' just stay with him only "faithfully!

Answer 4

you are an idiot lady,did the whole get married get divorced thing totally escape you. Read your question again you sound like a high schooler, i don't know your age maybe you still are. but then again maybe you deserve him and he you, both of you are obviously shallow to be treating the people your with so crappy.How do you think your bf would feel if he read this? about about your ex's new gf? just because you had a kid with the guy does not make it a family. I swear people these days don't have any respect for marriage and common courtesy.

Answer 5

Once you fall in love and truly love someone it is hard to say you don't love them anymore. I truly believe that if you loved someone you will always love them. The problem is you start getting board with your relationship and take it for granted and sometimes abuse it to the point you feel there is no other alternative but divorce.

If you love this man then work on your relationship with him or you will regret it for the rest of your life. These feelings you have for him don't go away they just linger and you learn to deal with them. If you choose to ignore them there will always be that thought in the back of your mind that you think What if we had? You will also have a hard time settling down with new relationships if you still love or care for someone else. The other problem is you will never be able to cut of complete contact with this man because he is the father of your child. If you love him act on it.

Answer 6

Never return to the crime scene, just remember why you divorced his sorry *** to start with. If you think he changed for the better you are so wrong. If you get back together he'll throw up everything you ever did and that man your going with now, your life will be a living hell. He'll accuse you of things you never thought about doing.

Answer 7

You don't really want him back, you just feel anxiety, depression and some jealousy because he has moved on. You admit that you have a good relationship now, so why would you want to go back to something you know won't work? Yes, you feel a little nostalgic for the old times, but they are gone now and you need to live in the present.

Answer 8

WOMAN LIKE YOU MAKE ME SICK!!!....And Men like your ex make me sick too! First you decide you dont want the marriage anemore and you throw it out the window, so months later you have gotten other innocent by-standers as boyfriends & girlfriends, and because you now realize you F*cked up when divorced, You want to be together again and F*ck the other people who have come into your life to heal your pain. You 2 deserve each other, And i hope that if you get back together "your miserable again!"

Answer 9

You want him back because you're in real danger of losing him for good. This is the first time you may not have the option of taking him back. Think about why you divorced him and let him go. And dump your BF unless he gets a job.

Answer 10

Seperation Anxiety