My mother is a hateful, bitter, depressing woman. She never likes who I am dating,or any of my friends. She wants me to come to her home for holidays, but doesn't want anyone else around, or complains about it if I do invite someone the next day. She says hateful things to me, like why don't you and your son just stay the **** away from me. The chick is nutts I tell ya, she says don't stand on the porch smoking a cigarette the people will talk, oh don't speak to her the people will talk, tell that person to go away I dont wanna talk, she has completely lost her mind. Mind you I am not a child I am over 30, I have my own home, a career and I am a graduate student. I am always buying stuff for my mom and trying to please her and win her affection by getting rid of boyfriends because she says they are loosers, or getting rid of friends until I noticed that that was everyone that I ever datedor knew. I had enough, she said stay away and this time I am tempted to just leave her alone.
2006-11-29 07:17:34 · 5 answers · asked by Jazz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You won't change her behavior, she has to do that herself. I suggest you get her out of your life as no matter what you do, she won't be happy with it. Let her wallow in her own misery. You don't need to wallow in it with her as you are doing now.
2006-11-29 07:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by expatmt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For someone who claims to be oh so independent you certainally seem to kaotow to her alot. Quite frankly it seems to me that you're a sucker for punishment. You seem quite cognizant of the fact that your mother is driving you up the wall so why not just make a clean break? What's the problem here? Other than you appear to be part of it.
Make the move. Then address any new issues that come up after that. Like when she'll call you 20 times a day to ask you when you're coming by. because you know that's next on the list right?
2006-11-29 15:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is depressed. But don't let her blackmail you. Sit down and tell your concerned for her and ask her not to cut you down any more. Say that unless she gets help and changes the way she treats you, then you will not be part of the holidays. We had the same problem with my mom, and had to set boundaries: no more staying at her house (hotels only), only come for small amounts of time, and if she says bad stuff to make me feel bad, we leave. It's done wonders.
2006-11-29 15:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom is obviously not a happy person. why are you trying so hard to please her?
leave her alone until she can respect and treat you as an adult. i hope that happens for you..
2006-11-29 15:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by mama dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a really stupid ignorant, racist ****** i read one of you answers,
CONSIDER YOUR ACCOUNT HISTORY MY SISTER
2006-11-29 21:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by diablo b 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋