Dont get me wrong, I love my man. But when we're having sex, he just doesnt last. I mean its rough...I find myself faking just to keep him happy. But to be honest I'm sick of faking, I want the real deal!!! How do I keep him going??? I know we both work long days and are tired when we get home at night but sheesh give a girl a chance! What should I do????
2006-11-29 07:17:25 · 4 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's a valid complaint, don't feel bad about it.
Instead of saying what's wrong, try talking about what would be better. You know, not "You don't last," but "I like it when you do X," where X is some kind of foreplay or something that works for you. Sure guys can be selfish, but they also like it when a woman tells them specifically what she wants them to do. Hopefully he'll look at it like that, not like an inconvenience for him.
You can also stop him when he seems too "into it" and say you want to change position.
If you use condoms, they also have "climax control" ones that have a little numbing agent in them to slow guys down. They have lubes like that, too. Examples are Trojan Extended Pleasure and Durex Performax. That might be a little harder of a topic to broach, but you could always say you just want to try it to see what it's like if you slow things down--or that you want to challenge him to see just how much staying power he really has in him.
You're partly to blame for your own problem--you've been faking, so he probably has no idea there's anything wrong! You have to have honest communication if you want things to work out.
2006-11-29 07:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try some foreplay first and then try playing with him telling him to do this and that in a slow sexy way. That will work him up. Maybe try being on top. If that doesn't work try talking to him but be gentle not o damage his ego.
2006-11-29 07:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to masturbate a 30 minutes before you two have sex. He should be able to last a little longer if he does.
2006-11-29 07:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk with him
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2006-11-29 07:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋