Should we get married or stay single for ever? At the end, is love what keeps people together right?
2006-11-29 07:06:42 · 27 answers · asked by Carmen R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wrong. Love grows stronger and weaker as time goes on, it's commitment that keeps you together and causes you to work through the times you don't love each other.
That's what marriage is. You stand up in front of (as the saying goes) "God and everybody" and you swear to take care of each other. That's why so many of these modern "vows" which go something like, "I love you, you're great, I'm glad we're getting married," don't sit well with me. You're not promising anyone anything. At my wedding, I promised to care for my wife, putting her needs before my own, providing for her and our family together, as long as we both shall live. I promised her, but I also promised all my family and friends that were present. If I break that, I'm a liar, not just to her, but to my family and friends as well.
2006-11-29 07:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay single until you find someone you truly want to marry and share your life with. If you don't find someone, it's OK. Do what's best for you.
I met the right guy when I was 25 - I never thought I'd get married because I had a really hard time committing to anyone in my early 20s and liked the idea of dating a lot. But all of a sudden I met a great guy and all my thoughts changed - we went ring shopping 1 month into dating and 3 months later he proposed. We've been married over a year now and together for a total of 3 years so anything is possible!
2006-11-29 07:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if it isn't right for you. I want to get married, but I wouldn't die if it didn't happen. I'd be disappointed though.
I hear a lot of guys complain that marriage is pretty much the end of life. I genuinely hope those guys never get into long-term relationships.
I think love, respect, trust, companionship, and friendship keep people together. My parents have been together for 35 years, and they get along better now than they ever have. It's beautiful really.
But I don't think marriage changes a good, solid, healthy relationship. So, it's not necessary.
2006-11-29 07:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Right! But if you are going to have children it would be better for their well being to get married. Also when one of you is in the hospital or needs medical attention the Boyfriend/Girlfriend has no say and maybe can not even visit them.
So you are right unmarried people can stay together forever but you have limitations placed on you by law!
2006-11-29 07:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's "necessary". I personally wouldn't want to stay single forever, I really enjoy the companionship and the comfort marriage provides. If your question refers to marriage vs. simply living together - I choose marriage for practical reasons, it makes the couple's life easier in the long run.
2006-11-29 07:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage is an act of pledging your love for that person in front of everyone,to god, and yourselves.It is the deepest form of love to pledge your life to that person for all the world to see.
Is that so bad? If you are single and with someone for a long time,yes there might be love there,but at any point you can just say the hell with it and leave that person with little fanfare and with no responsibility. What scares people about marriage is that it takes work and the word and act of marriage conveys more responsibiliy which we in this society are losing our grip on.
2006-11-29 07:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by godzilla99s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married ASAP!
Don;t waste your TIME with a man who does NOT know what to do with his life and your life.
It is illogical to stay more than two years with a guy as a 'Boyfriend'.
The Women have very LIMITED period to make a family and have children; while, men even at age 80 or 90 can marry and have Children.
This is a fact that MOST of girls they don't consider and in SUDDEN they found themselves in situation with NO Children in their rest of LIFE.
SO, if I were you, I would TALK with HIM seriously and demanding the CLEAR answer for the following Questions:
Do you marry me?
Give answer with "Yes" or "NO"!
IF NO! then Go to the Hell!
IF YES; WHEN, WHEN, WHEN! Clearly!?
On year from now, Two years from now...
is meaning NO answer !
2006-11-29 07:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay single forever!! Why?
"The key to happiness and sanity for women could be as simple as staying single, according to a new British survey.
The study found single women have fewer mental health issues than their married counterparts."
CBS News, NEW YORK, Dec. 23, 2003
2006-11-29 07:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by murkglider 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is not always enough to keep a relationship strong. Sometimes the commitment will last longer than the love. If you truly love someone, you will have a kind of respect for them forever. Even past the "being in love" stage.
2006-11-29 07:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Calli G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is ment to last forever, so if your not into being faithful to one person your whole life, don't even think of marriage. Stay single and play the field.
2006-11-29 07:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋