Do you always have feelings for an ex spouse?

Question

I am dating someone who has a kid and an ex wife I was wondering if he will always have feelings for his ex because they were married or does it just depend n the relationship,

Answer 1

I agree with Bella...I am waiting for my ex to burn. I have been divorced for 2 1/2 years and have 2 daughters and there are absolutley no well intentioned feelings...But my marriage and divorce was rotten. I would think if the marriage was okay and if the divorce wasn't too terrible, perhaps some feelings of a friendship. I wouldn't worry about the ex-wife. He divorced her for a reason and he is with you now. If you obsess over the past...it won't ever go away.

Answer 2

Although people are usually not thrilled to hear this, it is very true. Despite the fact that his relationship as a husband of ex wife has ended, his roles as dad will continue for a lifetime. Children function best when they are able to have a nurturing, supportive relationship with both parents. But his feeling for the ex wife depends on so many factor that is hard to say, some are friends, some are enemies, some just do not care either way.

Answer 3

I think it all depends on the person and the relationship. My dad still loves my mom after all these years. They divorced when I was 2 - I am now 24 and both have been re-married. My dad has a younger wife and had a daughter with her - but he will always love my mom. You will always have a bond with the other spouse because of the children. It may not be a "special" bond, but none the less, it's a bond. As for feelings, you can always have those feelings about wanting them to be happy and stuff. As for love feelings - it's always more like a friend's love

Good luck girl! I hope this helps

Answer 4

I happen to have a great friendship with my ex who is the father of my two teenage boys. Granted it wasn't always a happy blissful friendship. Just like thousands of relationships when they first break up is when the fire is at its hottest, as time goes by the flame starts to burn out and things start to chill and in time many couples, including myself, start to understand that communication mixed in with keeping things relaxed is really whats best for the kids. If your kids are the most important thing in your life, then you will do what it takes to be a parental friend with your ex. Lastly, feelings for my ex, yes I still love the man, do I want to hop in the sack with him? NO! However I do love him & how could ya not? you had kids with the guy, he was their holding your hand when times were bad, good and with this had many laughs together. If you find people on here who claim that after having years of marriage together, throw in a few kids & these people claim to have no love for their ex, well the answer for them is simple, they never loved the person from the start.

Answer 5

Depends on what you mean by "feelings". One will always acknowledge the ex-spouse, and remember certain aspects of their relationship - but there's no danger in it if one had truly "moved on".

Answer 6

The only feeling I have for my X is that the X would make a good target for practice.... ifyouknowwhatimean....

Believe me, you will know right away if there are any "good" feelings toward the ex-wife and if there are- move on... if there are not any good feelings now, there never will be!

Answer 7

NO. You don't always have to have feeling for the ex even if there are children involved. It really depends on the people invovled.

Answer 8

everyone is different, of course. but, in my experience, you'll always have "feelings" for an ex spouse, you got married to them right? isn't it nice to know that you are with a caring man who did take the time to commit to a woman and have a child with her? he obviously doesn't want to be with her anymore, please don't worry about that, but i'm sure he respects his ex wife, she is the mother of his child who is first in his book.

Answer 9

I really dont think that you will no longer feel anything for you ex spouse at zero rate, its a matter of ignoring or caring.

Answer 10

Depends on the relationship & how it ended. I'm sure he will always care about her as she is the mother of his child, but if he's with you. I'm sure the past is just that the past. Try not to worry about it.