i know (and feel for) a few wonderful people who have these issues and it all comes from the lack of love in the family. I also know a lot of great people with a beautiful family life but I hate this contrast so much. Like, I'll be talking to a lady in a store and wish I had a mom like that or something. How do you deal with the fact that you have a different reality (life) from others (the happy ones) and just accept it as your destiny.
if you know what I mean, you can write down your thoughts. (but please don't write about the attitude thing, it's a lie/fantasy. You've got what you got)
thanx
2006-11-29 07:00:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You learn to give yourself the things no one else gave you. Be your own Mommy if that's the case.
2006-11-29 07:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tziporrah B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean, some families are different than the others.
How do I deal with the reality I will never have what other families have, I think about what type of person I would be if I had a normal family then I think about what I would) and I have to admit that I wouldn't change it for anything.
I realized that everything I went through was necessary for becoming the person I am today and I stop regretting not having experiences like normal families.
2006-11-29 07:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Engel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I do.
I have a mom. I don't like her very much though. I used to wish I had a normal mom SO bad. The day that stopped was the day I just washed my hands of her altogether. I would love to have only love and support from my mother, but I've been dealt enough grief, misery, guilt, panic, distrust and let down to last a lifetime. I need to move on.
Now, I have a daughter I love her to bits. I look at other families, and wonder what kind of mom do I want to be for my daughter? I have a chance here to create my fantasy mom for her reality mom. Which is kind of cool.
I'm not sure I answered your question. But its a good question.
2006-11-29 07:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Oh, I see 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've felt like that for a long time. But after a while you start to do some serious thinking about what your life is and how it needs to be affected. You have to ask yourself if you really want to be like this for the rest of your time here. Is it really worth it?
And keep in mind that what you see on the outside isn't always what you get on the inside. Your case about the lady in the store. Just because she seems nice to you doesn't mean that she's always like that.
Everyone is their own person, and can't live someone else's life. No matter how grand it may be. Everyone has their own little voids, discrepencies, and distinguishable characteristics about them that makes them unique.
2006-11-29 07:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional voids. You mean that black hole that keeps swirling around inside you and and can't help but stare into it? Yeah, it's called depression and it has nothing to do with a "good" or a "bad" life. True, a bad life can intensify it, but it isn't the cause.
I've lived staring into the void all my life. Slipped in a few times. And I've basically had a good life: solid family, good friends, fairly decent jobs. Not perfect, but decent.
How do I survive? I just do. Am I happy? Of course not. No depressive is ever happy. But I deal.
2006-11-30 21:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is a mystery, we can never know it all. even those who believe in a god find consolation in this fact. to challenge to you my dear, you must try to accept the reality that you were born in, and make peace with it, if it becomes the preoccupation of your mind that you are from this family with defects of thier own, they ( they happy one ) do have thier defedcts also and eventually such though throughout yout reflection might push you to commit siucede which is worse for me thandealing with the problm head on. you must make the best out of life and do not become ignorant. i believe in you and you are veryt sincere. I wish you all the best for future.
2006-11-29 07:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, after I became Buddhist, it occurred to me, it is not getting what you want, but wanting what you've got. If you think about it , you realize that happiness is temporary, once you get what you want you only want more. I can't say that I never envy people anymore, I am still human, but my envy is brief and then I realize my life is enough for me.
2006-11-29 07:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋