My friends husband cheated
2006-11-29 06:55:52 · 32 answers · asked by poppyma B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't know the answer to that. It works on faith honey. Truth is we are all responsible for our own behavior and no one can ever say what they wouldn't do...
2006-11-29 06:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is something you may have wanted to think about BEFORE you got married. Alas, since you're already married, the way you feel will tell you if he "loves" you enough.
Remember that love is something we actually do. It isn't a thing that just stays there static. It takes creativity and a response from deep within.
Don't torture yourself by comparing your marriage to your friend's. Her husband cheated, why would yours? Ask yourself if somewhere in the back of your mind, you want him to do so. It may sound ludicrous but every action serves a purpose. Our thoughts create our realities. If you are obsessing or simply mildly dwelling on whether or not he's cheating on you, that is what you will create in your life.
You need to be asking yourself: How much do I love my partner? You are in your marriage as well and you play your part.
Try not to stress and try to create a loving environment, ie. love yourself and your husband will not even think about going some place else because he will be so attracted to your inner radiance it won't be an issue.
Good luck.
2006-11-29 07:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying that cheating is okay but there is always a reason why people cheat. If you think that your partner is going to cheat then you don't trust your partner. If there is no trust then how do you have a relationship a honest relationship with this person?? You can't compare yourself to what your friend went through you don't know the situation. If anything you can be honest with your partner and tell them what you fear and how you feel.
2006-11-29 07:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think cheating has to do with the amount of love the person has for you, it has to be with the persons wants and needs.
If your partner has needs and you're just not giving them, they will go elsewhere.
But than again, I love my boyfriend very much and no matter what I would never cheat...but I also don't have a penis attached, so I actually think about my actions before doing them.
2006-11-29 07:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
cheating does not mean that your partner does not love u
sometimes it can be just lust
or insecurities
or there is a problem with the relationship
or that the woman nags alot (and alot of us do nag our partners
its the truth)
and men don't like nagging
their brains are much simpler than ours
so they take things much easier than us
or it can just be that he was drunk
the answer is basically that there are no guarantees on love
2006-12-02 13:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Cheating has nothing to do with love and everything to do with sex. Make sure the partner is totally satisfied at home and they will have no reason to stray.
2006-11-29 06:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by tigress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing has little to do with the other. Sorry. This is true, even if you don't believe it. Cheating is about an unfulfilled need. True Love is unconditional. Reality is somewhere in between.
2006-11-29 10:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him like a blind person make him feel that u trust ur partner he/she will feel guilty and u will know the truth, if he is cheating he will repent and will never cheat in life
2006-11-29 06:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by chirag s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no "love enough" you either do or you don't. when your partner does anything and everything he says he's going to do. calls you when he says he will, shows up when he says he will. makes time to spend with only you.
threatening to kill him if he ever cheated on you also helps.
2006-11-29 07:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not test his love for you just make sure you give him no reason to cheat
ie: don't be home late when out with friends. say you love him and will always love him surprise him with little gifts keep the relationship buzzing and all will be fine.
and i hop you have a good man there so please do not feel insecure untill absolutely nessecary
2006-11-29 08:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by areyou_looking_atme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first response. If you REALLY want to know, test your partner with an attractive, seductive person.
Otherwise, you will never truly know. That's the beauty of trust!
2006-11-29 07:14:53 · answer #11 · answered by * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋