Love is not enough?

Question

What would you think if your spouse said to you, "I love you, but sometimes, love is not enough."

Answer 1

What your spouse is telling you that you have stop doing the things that made them fall in love with you. It is like a flower, you have to give it sunshine, water and fertilizer so that it can grow more beautiful and healthy. Same thing with your relationship. Get back to doing those things you use to do with each other and fall in love all over again.

People can fall out of love easily, and they can fall deeper in love even easier with the small things that you do. Pump it up with something that is romantic and tickles the sense. Pull all the stops out, because if you don't someone else will for sure.

Answer 2

Well now... there are many responses I can think of to that one. The first one being, if Love is not enough... what planet do you live on? The second being, just how conceited are you? The third one, Ok, we need to sit down & talk about this so you can explain to me exactly what you mean by "sometimes, love is not enough". Talking to your spouse about it may open a whole huge can of worms, but it's better to know where your relationship is headed in order to come up with a plan to deal with it. It also depends on the response as to what your spouse is implying. If it has to do with money, then a career change is due... if it's having children, then kids are due... however after having said that, the issue still needs to be resolved before moving in any direction. It also could be that your spouse is tired of dealing with every day problems & is wanting you to change. At any rate, sit down & talk with him to find out just where he's coming from & then resolve the issues.... one at a time.

Answer 3

I'd think that I screwed up really badly in some way.

I don't argue the validity of this statement either. Sometimes love isn't enough. Sometimes, things we do hurt out significant others so badly, that love isn't enough to repair the damage that's already been done.

If your spouse said this to you.. I would start asking questions to find out what else is going on. It's a huge red flag.

Answer 4

If my husband told me that he loves me but sometimes love isnt enough, I'd ask him "what is enough"? If he made the commitment of marrying you then, he made the commitment to work at being your spouse. Marriage isnt easy but you took your vows and made an oath to work through thick or thin, that should be enough.

Answer 5

I believe that when any person starts to feel that way it means that somewhere along the way they lost the passion and magical feelings that was once there. They start to feel just like friend/roommate love for the person for the time they've shared together. Sometimes time apart can cure this but not always. best of luck.

Answer 6

I would say that he is either cheating or getting ready to. He loves you but he wants out. The time is NOW. If you are going to do something about it, like counselling, call today. Your relationship needs help. Those words are a sure sign. Good Luck

Answer 7

they need support, not only love they need some to take care of them and said everything is going to be okay, help your spouse with they goals in live they need support,said to your spouse they you there for her or him what ever the case is...... if is financial the case get to work Honey!!!! and help you spouse.....but you give her a HUG and said everything is fine.... she will be please on this issue....

Answer 8

I would agree. Romantic love in the usual sense of the word is not enough.

Answer 9

Stop taking a bath like the other Islamic woman. Maybe if you stink like him, he will love you more. Or maybe your not smart enuf? Or maybe your not dumb enuf for him? Maybe you being American intimidates him as a man from Islamic world? Are you dumb, deaf & blind? If you are American, than he obviously knows that he is limited to his cultural ways because he knows the way he really wants to treat you is illegal in America. So he F*cks with your mind by telling you that he loves you but now he needs to F*ck around. You are simply not enuf for him.....

Answer 10

then i would be worried. you have to keep things exciting. go on adventures, keep it interesting in the bedroom. some people look at things financially, such as being supportive. who knows, sounds llike you two should sit down and talk this one over.