What would you do? Do you think she was right or wrong? (read on)?

Question

I had a friend come to me and ask if she was justified in calling CPS on her son's father. She told me that over the past 2 months or so that she noticed her 2 yr old son was playing with himself more than usual (of course she knows 2yr olds do that) and had several incidents where he actually looked like he attempted to have sex with someone (family members). She says that he has been going to stay every other wknd with his father and his new family (his girlfriend, her 3 children and 1 baby together) for about 5 1/2 months. She says that she called the father after the most recent incident and he basically blew off her concerns (abt what he's been letting her son see/do) w/an 'Okay' and hung up on her. So she called CPS and gave them the details of the situation and the living arrangements: 6 people in a 2BR (7 when her son's there).

Do you think she was right or wrong? What do you think she should have done? Thanks

She says that he went over there recently and came back with a bad case of diaper rash. He was there for 2 days, and the day she sent him over he was clear of any rashes.

Answer 1

Well let's see....2 year old don't just know how to mimic sex, they have to be exposed. I'd say that with that many people in one house he may have seen something that he shouldn't have. I think your friend did the right thing. If nothing else his father should be more responsible about who sees him having sex.

Answer 2

Calling CPS seems a bit harsh from the rather scanty information you supplied. Since she had been letting the boy go when she knew all along that 7 people were sharing a 2 bdrm all that time. She appears mad because the ex blew her off and hung up on her and that seems a bit petty to call CPS. I would say a little conversation with the boy as to where he learned this and who showed him this, would be more appropiate. I know little boys find a lot of facination with their privates, but not to the extent you describe, this goes beyond what appears to be normal and should be addressed quietly and quickly. And she should seek to limit visits with the father until he has a more appropiate living enviroment for the child and I would be in court seeking that ASAP in order to prevent any further tainting of my son, if indeed, that is where it is coming from. As a Foster Parent, I am allowed to have 2 children, same sex in a large bed, if there is no history of sexual abuse, otherwise, each child has their own bed, own dresser and sometimes their own room. In Jersey, I was restricted in how many people could live in a house based on number of bedrooms, sex of children, and famila relationship. I had a two bedroom and the combinations were as follows, 2 adults to each bedroom (no matter the sex) a female child could share a room with another female child and a male child could share a room with another male child. A female child could not share a room with another male child if either child was more than 4 years old. They then would each have to have their own rooms. For the purposes of summer rentals, the rules were much more relaxed, but that was for a week or two rental and not on a month to month or yearly basis. I suggest "your friend" insist her ex make suitable sleeping arrangements that will not endanger his boy and if he can't do that, I would seek to restrict his visits with his father till changes were made. She needs to talk to the judge and see what they have to say. Good luck!

Answer 3

To be concerned is certainly justifiable, but calling CPS I'm not so sure about. She should care enough about the son to want the father around. Calling CPS when the father could be innocent is a risk. So, I would've tried to talk to the father again, make visits to the house, etc... before getting authorities involved.

Answer 4

In the first place, it is inappropriate for her son to stay with his father in a home where his girlfriend lives. If they were married, it would be okay.

Children mimic what they see; it was not wrong of your friend to call CPS. They will investigate and help your friend find the best solution. In the meantime, all paternal visits should be supervised!

Answer 5

SHE IS 100% RIGHT!
I ALSO THINK THEY SHOULD INVESTIGATE FURTHER.FOLLOW UP WITH CPS & BE SURE THAT THEY TALK TO EVERY CHILD IN THE HOUSE.DO NOT LET THE FRIENDS CHILD GO THERE AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HAVE THE CHILD SEEN BY A DOCTOR & ASK HIM IF ANYONE HAS HURT HIM OR TOUCHED HIM HERE OR THERE.LISTEN CAREFULLY.HAVE THE CHILD DRAW PICTURES & OF A MAN & SEE IF THERE IS ANYTHING STRANGE IN THESE PICS.HAVE THE CHILD SEE A PROFESSIONAL.BE CERTAIN THAT CPS DOES A COMPLETE INVESTIGATION.IF THE MAN IS INNOCENT,,HE WILL HAVE NOTHING TO FEAR.EVEN HIS REACTION DOESNT SOUND RIGHT TO ME.I THINK HE IS A PEDOPHILE!!
THE CHILD HAD TO LEARN THESE THINGS FROM SOMEWHERE.COULD ALSO BE ONE OF THE OTHER CHILDREN.

Answer 6

If there is any reason for concern, it is totally justified to call in the authorities.

It is when authorities are not called and a problem is not stopped that major issues are faced later.

Better to error on the side of caution, and make the other person prove there is nothing going on.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Sounds like he's seen them having sex. Kids like to imitate. I'd say the call to CPS is not a call wasted. There's something wrong in that house.

Answer 9

Women have such a strong intuition about things and I firmly believe that if she feels like it could be happening, then there is a good chance it is!! Trust her and support her! In a situation like this it is ALWAYS better to be safe than sorry...or more sorry if it has already happend and she did nothing about it! Until that child gets old enough to be able to tell her, she could never have "real" proof

Answer 10

If the father has done nothing wrong and has nothing to hide..what's the problem, better safe then sorry. My mother physically and mentally abused me for ten years I wish some one had called the authorities on her!