Should I allow my Black daughter to date a White man?

Question

I am not racist at all and believe all people are equal. I just don't really agree with interacial love relationships. Maybe I am old fashioned but that is my stance and I am not going to change it. It seems my daughter for some reason is only interested in White men now. She is young so that may change in the future. What is your viewpoint on interacial relationships? I have always grown up thinking Black should be with Black, White with White, and so on.

Answer 1

if you have a problem with your daughter dating a white man then you ARE a racist.you just don't have the balls to admit it.

Answer 2

Well I think that if the white man is a nice guy, I don't see what is wrong with it. I would not go out seeking someone of another race, but if I met someone of another race who was a decent man, then I would probably pursue a relationship with him. I think that in this day and age, that there is not the stigma attached to interracial couples that there used to be. Maybe there is and I just don't see it. That could all depend on the part of the country you live in too.

Also if you object, then she may do it just to upset you. I am sure that you don't want that. I would just teach her to date only men who treat her well and respect her, and if a man, white or black acts like a jerk, then he is a waste of her time.

Answer 3

I don't think we choose whom to be attracted to...we just choose when to act on it...I am a white female and although I've never dated a black man, I would if I met one that I was attracted to (who was attracted to me).

Look inward and think about why you don't agree with interractial dating/marriages. Not just because you are old fashioned and it's how you were raised but why do YOU think it is not a good thing? What negative results can come from it? Why is it a bad thing for people of differing races to date? We have to share this planet we live on, we have to get along to some degree...why draw the line at being civil...or friendship is okay, dating is not?

If you cannot come up with any real serious reason why interractial relationships are bad and harmful to people, then my advice is to let your daughter follow her heart.

One reason the races have issues with each other, is because so many do think people should only associate with those of their own race...it causes issues between the races when they are forced to relate for whatever reason...the people who think it's not okay clash with those who believe it's fine...

We're all part of the HUMAN race...isn't that good enough?

Answer 4

I think that is dumb ! black with blacks only and so forth, I think they would have the cuttest babies I love black and white babies they just come out soo cute! You should get over that who cares if there i love then there should be no problem! A black guy might miss treat her and the white guy gives her everything are you still going to pick the black guy just couse he is black! forget about that, that was back in the days girl please **** if there is love than good love comes first, respect how he treats her. I think that black people are the most racist people even though you said no it's true they are racist even and most to there own race,. for your info I am latina!

Answer 5

hi i am a black man and first i would like to say you are not a racist because you have some concerns about your daughter dating out side of her race . i have three daughters and when i was young i dated outside of my race and one of my daughters married a white guy so as you can see i do have some experance in this matter . in a perfict world we should be able to marrie who ever we want but we don,t live in a perfict world .your daughter is going to do what she wants to do weather you like it or not so don,t drive your self crazy about who she dates just give her all the facts about her people and her self and about the other race and let her make the choice for her self . i,m going to keep it real with you it wont last any way i just hope she does not grow up and hate her self for dating out side like i did good luck

Answer 6

I share your views, but those are our views.In some ways the mixing of races is good,the young people of today seem to realize how different we are but admire some of those differences.Music seems to be the factor in bringing young people together,and it has for years.I would tell you to let your daughter date whom ever she wants to date.I would say keep an open dialog with her and allow her to experience life and it's joys and complications.These choices really are hers to make and all choices have benefits and consequences,so let her learn what her choices will bring,at least you are alive to guide her and you can't guide her if she's sneaking.Apples don't fall from the tree and she is your daughter so,she won't stray far and you just smile and guide and things will be good as long as she is comfortable talking to you about this,make sure she knows you will listen and help even if you don't agree,that's what your child expects.I have 5 daughters who are grown now,so I have been through it all.Breathe and you will be fine.

Answer 7

You should be proud of your daughter for the fact she doesn't see color the way you do and that she is capable of making her own decisions. Let your daughter be who she wants to be. Her dating a white doesn't affect you unless you let it. What if the guys parents didn't want him dating your daughter because she is black, think about how that would make you feel as a parent and how hurt your daughter would be.

Answer 8

Yes you are a racist ... lets be honest here ... if you weren't racist you wouldn't point out Color restrictions!! Haven't we had enough segregation?? People all bleed the same color blood, we all have the same brains and we all have the same internal organs!!

My view on ALL relationships is this ... Love knows no color boundries and for those who have married interacially have shown that the boundries are gone ... your daughter should be free to love who she wants and you should get over your racism and learn that people are people no matter what!!

Answer 9

aww...but your daughter seems to have grown up differently. my sister, (half sister, i just never refer to her as anything but sister) is half black, half mexican) she dates only white guys. she would never date a hispanic or a black man. so she says. i date only hispanics. not on purpose, i just never had a person of any other race even bother to ask me out when i wasn't in a relationship. btw...if will smith or denzel were single....omg. not to be creepy, but my stepfather looks like a cross between the two of them. very good looking.
i believe love should be with love. plain and simple. according to my heritage, being with someone non mexican is interacial. my grandparents are rolling in their graves as i type because my husband is salvadorean.

Answer 10

Unless it really bothers you, you should let her do it, depending on her age she should be able to make her own decisions.

I somewhat agree with the white with white, black with black because I'm old fashioned, but my boyfriend thinks differently..so this is likely a thing I'll have to deal with once I have children dating, but honestly unless he's hurting your daughter or putting her in with a bad crowd, just let her try the relationship, maybe she will want a black guy after the white guy. who knows!

Answer 11

There is no feasable reason for you to discourage your child to not date or like certain people because of their race. Instead of worrying what the person looks like make sure the person is respectful and intelligent. It may be "old fashioned" and "custom" but it doesn't mean it's right. Saying you don't want someone to date another becuase of their race is racism.