Analyze this profile?

Question

I'm a 24 Christian woman that lives with my parents. I have a 9 year old son. I go to college, but haven't held a job for more than 3 months. I only have one close friend. I don't date. I stay at home as much as possible. What does this profile psychologicaly say about me?

Answer 1

PROFILE ANALISIS:
Just from what you wrote you seem to be a young woman who is ashamed of what she did (bearing a child). Whether it was accidentally, planned or not your fault it happened. Not only do I see shame, I see confusion and fear. These feelings/emotions occur when young females have children. There may be other reasons for your behaviors but at this time I cannot pin point a specific reason.

If you only have one close friend that tends to say you have trust issues. These trust issues most likely came about when you were younger. Maybe the guy that fathered your child did something bad to you and that is why you no longer date. Trust is a hard thing to gain especially when you have been hurt over and over again.

Some college kids do not hold jobs, but the majority of them do. It sounds to me as if you do not have responsibility in your life, especially when you still live at home with your parents. Being a mother at 15 is hard, but if you have not learned much in the 9 years, something is wrong. You need to talk to someone about your problems because keeping them inside will hurt you and eventually your child.

It is very unfortunate you are like this. I wish I was there to help.

Have a wonderful holiday and God Bless!

Answer 2

This is what I think, though I am no proffessional.
If you are 24 now and have a nine year old son you had a child when you were 15.
If you have only one friend you have trouble trusting or opening up to people.
Not dating: you don't trust men.
If you stay at home as much as possible it could be you are afraid of something.
Not being able to hold a job could be because it is stressful to be around people.
I sounds like you were raped when you were 15 and that is the cause of everything you said.

Answer 3

The profile you supplied is not a psychological one, so its difficult to guage your mind thru it. However, its clear that you have been sheltered overly much, that you had a child far too early, and that your experience of the world has suffered as a result of your early upbringing both religiously and practically. I would say that in order to get your life into gear, you would have to move out of your parents house where your growth is stifled, get and HOLD a job by sheer determination, and start increasing your awareness of the world outside your narrow experience.

As long as you stay in the safety/comfort of the home and as long as you cling to religious and family structure as a replacement for actual living, nothing will change and you will remain frozen and unfulfilled. It's time to break the nice, warm, furry chains you've allowed those around you to bind you with.

Answer 4

I'm just curious.

If you're looking at an assessment of yourself, wouldn't it make more sense to seek a professional one? Rather than from (possible) amateurs who may actually be making wrong ones that could affect you adversely.

But if this is not about you and is just an exercise to check out general public reaction to a question like this then, well, i suppose you must have had fun :)

Answer 5

the main severe disadvantage to the "information age" and availability of information is that the quantity of information overwhelms companies' qualifications to confirm it. except an employer replaced into finding at a particular guy or woman, it could be just about impossible to confirm lots of something on a heavily trafficked internet site which includes Yahoo.

Answer 6

there's still hope for you! you just need to get out a bit more, go places, see people. @ least you're not still struggling with nappies and screaming babies so you don't have to worry about your son constantly...talk 2 ur parents and friend about it see wot they suggest

Answer 7

It is my OPINION, that this profile shows a person who is rebellious, self centered, and immature. A person that I would stay away from.

:O)
Jerry

Answer 8

Borderline PD with enmeshed parents.

Answer 9

It probably means you interrupted your maturing when you had the little boy. People aren't really finished even physically maturing (brains, bones) until their mid-twenties. There is also emotional and mental maturing that needs to go between 15 and about 22 or so, and this process was probably interrupted and maybe postponed for you as well. At the same time, you were probably also robbed of a certain amount of youthfulness by becoming a mother.

I'm think you may have been someone who became a Christian after some years of being a little on the "lost" side as a teenager. Its nice (and normal) for a young woman to have one close friend. Not dating doesn't necessarily mean anything. Maybe you haven't met anyone who interests you.

Maybe, too, after having a baby as young as you did you have kind of come around to thinking that dating may get people into giant problems (when in reality it isn't the dating but the choice to be careless). Maybe because you're a mother you aren't entirely comfortable with the idea of dating, and that if that's the case it would be a sign that you may be a more conscientious mother than those who bring a string of boyfriends around their children.

I would guess you may want a good job, and maybe you have trouble taking the crummier jobs available to students. If your life isn't what you want it you could be stressed out or unhappy enough to have trouble concentrating or dealing with yet more additional crap that can occur at crummier jobs. (Cortisol levels rise under stress. Under too much stress for too long you can "run out of juices" and get exhaution, which makes it almost impossible to do what it takes to deal with something like a job.)

With a nine-year-old son and your age of 24 I would guess you're thinking your life isn't together the way it should be. Maybe you think about how usually most people graduate college at 22. Having a child that old may make you feel older than you really are.

Maybe going to college (aside from what it could do for your future prospects jobs-wise) gives you a chance to have the "student thing" you may not have previously gotten to have.

Knowing that you have your son, you may be reasonably content to stay at home with him. Going to school can be tiring, so maybe you just don't have a lot of motivation to be looking to go out more than a little. You may actually be reasonably content with some parts of how your life is right now.

If you don't have a job I'm assuming you're getting some kind of money from someone. Maybe your income is on the low side, which makes going out and spending money less appealing.

You're probably proud to say you're in college, and maybe you're not all that proud to say you have a child that old. Maybe you wish you could could all established in life and kind of let the age of your child go into the background. Maybe, though, you would hope people will see you as a single mother who has ambitions anyway, rather than the single welfare mother without ambitions. You may feel as if you'd like to prove to others and yourself that just because you were a "screw-up" when you were younger it doesn't mean you are now.

You may be in some way a little proud that you don't date. You may see that as being a kind of solid mother, and it may make you feel that nobody will think you're "guy crazy" in spite of the fact that you had a baby so young. You may also feel that by not dating it will keep your life as simple as possible.

With a child and school and being as young as you still are you may feel kind of overwhelmed and not able to take on a job too. You may, though, feel a little guilty or wonder if there's something wrong with you for not working.

You've probably found that people in your church are nice people and have been a good influence on you. Your close friend is probably also someone involved with your church.

You probably (particularly since you've asked this question) worry a little (or a lot) about what people think of you. Maybe at this point you hope people will see you as a super-squeaky-clean young woman who is doing the very proper and wise thing of getting an education (and not dating). You may gain some kind of comfort or reassurance when you think about how you stay home a good part of the time because you may have previously gotten a message that going out all the time must equal being a little irresponsible or even wild. You may have even been given the message that dating can sometimes equal (in some way) being a little wild. You may not have emotionally "registered" that "getting serious" with a boy at 15 is one thing, while dating a nice guy at 24 is another and isn't necessarily "wild".

You probably want to be a good example for your son. You probably feel, too, that your parents are watching and judging the kind of mother you are to your son.

You may not be all that confident in your own judgment, and by not dating and being involved with the church you may feel it helps eliminate any "opportunities" to make bad decisions. You may feel that being around just your parents (who were probably wonderful when you were going through the whole pregnancy and baby thing even though there may have been a lot of awkward moments), your friend, and church people keep you insulated; and because you aren't all that sure about your ability to make resist certain temptations or make bad decisions this arrangement makes you feel safe for now.

You may think that if you had a job too you could be completely proud of your accomplishments, and you may even be proud to be able to tell people you're also a mother; but not having a job is probably wearing away at your ego and self-confidence because you may be worrying that people are imagining how you'll "never grow up".

I think there's the chance that right now you're doing what you think you ought to be doing even if you may really wish you could be doing something else.

I think you secretly feel alone a good part of the time even though you may enjoy and appreciate the people around you.


Those are my guesses, but I'm not a psychologist - so who knows how close my guesses will be....

Hang in there. You're younger than you realize. Deal with worrying about working after you've finished school (or at least on breaks). People are probably not judging you as much as you may imagine they are. At the same time, people may not be admiring your attending college as much as you think they should.

Answer 10

u are living up in your head allot