Who should i be with?

Question

The one that i love right now and vulnerable to, we clash a lot on our differences, so we get into big fights from time to time. He loves me a lot as well so that is why we can't let go of each other. It is a strenuous relationship that we both have to work hard at and a lot of compromises. It's a roller coaster ride. When we are good, we can see us getting married and be very happy together. When we get into fights, we don't see a future

The other one has been like a soulmate to me. We are like best friends and we understand each other real well. There is some attraction, but I always see him as a friend/companion that I confide with but will never be with since he was an ex of another close friend of mine, so I will try hard to respect that. Recently, he confessed that i am the one for him and he has tried very hard to stay away from me, but couldn't, and that he will wait for me. On many levels, we are very alike, think in the same wavelength, and have great respect for each othe

Answer 1

You should be with the one you are soulmates with.

Answer 2

I think that you should stop waisting your time with this boyfriend and get a relationship started with this other guy, You said that you confide in him and you can talk to him on many levels, yes you want to respect the fact that he was with some one that you know , but at the same time this man has confessed to you how much he loves you and that he will wait for you. This guy is a dream come true, think long and hard about the way you are feeling toward your current and about your best friend ,( I think if you can talk to someone about anything and you feel good about being around this person then he is your best friend) and then let your heart guide you to the right one. Think about your future and about your happiness because you want to make sure that the person that you chose to be with is the right one and the one that you let go you shouldn't have any regrets about. I wish you all the best and I hope that you end up with the one that will treat you right and that will always respect you.

Answer 3

Hi. :)

I think that you should take time to really examine who you really love and would want to spend the rest of your life with... it's important that you are very sure of your feelings because we're already talking about marriage and all... if you don't see him as someone who would make you very happy then that's not good... if you are unsure of how it will turn out then i guess you have to really pray hard and ask God's guidance about your big decision...i think it really doesn't matter whether you have lots of differences or similarities as long as you try to understand each other... as long as it isn't something that you will fight about... some happy couples have opposite attitude while others have more similarities... it doesn't matter :)
i believe that if you love someone, you can share everything with him and he'll always be there for you not just during happy times but during bad times as well... who do you look for when you are sad? he's d one who is truly dear to you & d one you truly love... it's important that you understand each other... I can see that your best friend is better than your boyfriend... i mean, i think you should be with him...
i guess there is really nothing wrong with having a relationship with your best friend even though he was an ex of your close friend... as long as you also talk to his ex, who is your close friend... i guess that's fine... what's important is that you love each other... don't think of what others might say... this is your life... you're doing nothing wrong... don't let others dictate what you should do... do what you feel like doing as long as you are not hurting anyone...

good luck! all the best :)

Answer 4

Take it from someone who's been around for 52 yrs., go for the one you have most in common with, who understands you and you undertand. It's very important to have things and likes in comon or you won't blend. A little difference is nice, but alot of diference is a problem. You said it best when you said he was an ex of your best freind! Ex means no-longer hers and available! Never go for the up and down rollercoaster ride 'cause it will allways take you for a ride! He sounds like he likes you a lot, and willing to wait, that's deffinately a plus! Respect is necessary, attraction is definately good, and soulmate is the best! Good luck and go for it!!!

Answer 5

No 2, u don't realy know him, being friends and being couple is two different things. U realy know better who is making u more happy. The second one is going to show what the relationship will look like within 3-4 mounths afterbeing together.
But if u choose the second, don't go back to first if it doesn't work.Ur decision must be clear, if u are moving on u are realy moving on for a better life, better relationship it can be no.2 or someone new.

Answer 6

Your soulmate is supposed to be all of the things you just described so you answered your own question. Dont waste anymore time with the other guy you never know how long you and your soulmate have together. make the leap one friends lose is another friends gain

Answer 7

Tough question. If there are more fights than romance with the one your with now, I would suggest you move along to the one you are most compatible with. It's your happiness you must consider. If this guy is an ex of a friend, and the friend has moved on, why should it matter any more?

Good Luck...

Answer 8

Try developing a romantic relationship with the soulmate guy. Life is too short to keep trying with a relationship that even has you in doubt.

Answer 9

Choose Bachelor #2.

Longevity, love will grow and mature, grow old together.

Bach #1 will remain exciting for a while, until the years pass, and these cute little tiffs will become sores of irritation, anger and possible hate.

Opposites attract, but soul mates bond.

Answer 10

Neither, the First one you really love but are scared to marry him, the second you don't have that real thirsty love for. You really just like him as friend, don't break his heart.

Answer 11

I see you're confused. This is a tough one, but the bottom line is that you're not satisfied with all of either of them, and my advice is to hold out for someone who is both your soul mate and your romantic partner!