Am I too young to have a baby?

Question

My husband and I are trying to conceive our first child. If I got pregnant this month the baby would be born 1 month before my 24th birthday, my husband will be 26 and a half.

We have been together for 5 years and married for 2. We own a 3 bedroom house, I have a college degree, money and we have stable careers. We have no debt other than our mortgage. We are homebodies and we were never into partying.

I get a lot of crap from my mother's friends because they became mothers after 30. They think I am too young to be a mom in my mid 20's.

I don't feel too young to have a baby, in fact I feel a lot older than my age, but I want to know what you think. Why would my mother's friends feel a 24 year old woman is too young to be a mother?

Am I too young?

Answer 1

In my opinion, they are jealous because you probably have a more stable life than they did at your age. I wouldn't even bother caring what they thought. All that matters is what you and your husband want and if that is children then so be it. Don't let other people make you feel like you're too young. You're plenty old enough and married. I don't see the problem. It's your life, your body, your decision. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

My first thought was: this girl is too young (after reading the first paragraph). I am 24 and I consider myself too young to have one but my situation is very different from yours! After a bit more reading, i realize that you are not too young to be having a baby.
You seemed mature, you and your husband are financially stable and you seemed to be at a point in your life where a baby would be a good idea. There is not a perfect age to have a baby. Most women today wait until their 30s to have one for career reasons. You know, you would have more energy in your 20s so it's easier to keep up with your kids then when you're older.
To sum it all up, i don't think you are too young. Just do what you heart tells you. I think your mother's friends want you to think the whole thing through because it's a life commitment! If you feel ready, then you are!
Good luck and don't worry about what everyone says!

Answer 3

No, you are not to young. And you both are very stable in your careers. You have a house, and money, you also sound like you are ready to get pregnant, so go for it!!! Don't worry about what other people say, I was also very young when I had my children, I was 21, when I had my first child. I had been going out with my husband for 2 1/2 years and we were planning our wedding when I found out that I was pregnant. Yes, I was on all the birth control in the world, and even used a condom. But I still got pregnant. That was totally fine with me, we had a house, and we were getting married anyway. I love having my children before I was 30, because I know I will still be young enough to go and do things with them as they get older. And I feel that you have more patience when you are young the older you get the less patience you have. You are at a great age, you need to decide when you are ready, sounds like you are, but you are worried about what they will think. DON"T!!! They will come around when you do get pregnant and they will be happy for you. Good Luck with whatever you choose to do!!! I say go for it!!!

Answer 4

Absolutely not! You are not too young to have a child. It seems that you and your husband are both very smart and responsible people to have earned the things that you now have. Don't mind your mothers' friends. I too feel that they are a bit jealous, and perhaps even ashamed that they were not able to have earned what you have at your age. If you and your husband feel emotionally ready to have a child, then go for it! You have already covered the other area of preparing for children. I will be 24 next month, and my husband and I have 4 beatiful sons together. You have already acheived a lot, so now you can have a child, and get to feel the thrills of motherhood! I dont even know you, but I am very proud of you!
Good luck, and do exactly what it is that you want to do.
mamaofthesweetest4

Answer 5

The decision to become parents is strictly between you and your husband and requires no approval or permission from anyone else. Every family and every couple is different. If both of you feel like you are in a place where beginning a family is what you want then you should go ahead. I would suggest that you and your husband discuss your plans and don't share them with anyone else unless you know they will be supportive of you. Everyone has their own opinions about things and are entitled to them, but you don't have to listen to them. I was married at 18 and had my first baby when I was 20. I am now 48, have been married for 29 years and we have 4 kids, ages 27, 25, 22, and 9. I do not regret my life in anyway in regards to my family.

Answer 6

i wish i was 24 when i had my first baby i was 20 and was not as well off as you . i don't think you are to young and as far as being 30 that mean you will be 35 when he or she starts school you will be 40 when he or she turns 10 and so on when you want to slow down you won/t be able not just that but these kids are even wiser then i was back in the day and i and only 33 i am have a hard time with the 3 year old i did have at 30 he is nothing like the 13 year old

Answer 7

I was 20 when I had my first, and I am so glad I did.

The older you get, the more complications you could have. If you are financially, emotionally, and physically ready, go for it! Not many people have the choice to conceive when the time is right for THEM.

Never mind what the others say. Would you rather have an 18 year old when you are 42, or 52?

My children will all be 18 by the time I am 41, and I wouldn't want it ANY other way.

Answer 8

Like Petunia stated, you really don't need anyone's permission or involvement in a decision of this nature. It is strictly between your husband and yourself however; I have always been led to believe that when someone asks a question like this - they already have an idea of what they want to do - just looking for coersion or agreement. So, I'll add my two cents. I was older when I first conceived. 33 to be exact. I wanted children at an earlier age, but I had a very strenous singing career and was always on the road. It was not the time - and I am glad somebody BIGGER than you and I knew better than me. I waited until my career began to slow down and I was basically singing in the church, teaching and living a very close to the home lifestyle. Like you, I was never much of a partier. When I did conceive, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spititually ready for this baby. I stress - spiritually because I have come to the realization that all the money in the world, all the comforts of homes and cars and every good and perfect gift that you can provide for your child will never, ever usurp the spiritual gift of love that will be planted in your body and that you will love, nourish, cherish and give life to. I was so ready for this child. I thank God for her life and all that she has been to me for the past 20 years. She was and is everything I could have ever asked for. I know it's not right to brag on your child, but she was never in trouble, always kind and gracious to people, young and old- never says a mean word about anyone - is caring to the elderly, loves children, reads well,is very gifted, loves the Lord and has been a very mature and important example for the young people in the world today. She has been the light of my life and I am proud to have been honored and blessed to be her Mother. I say all this to you for one reason - you and your husband will have a lifetime of memories and love and gifts to offer the seed you bring into the world - the little person who will look like both of you - the person whom you will love and care for, cherish, teach, train and open many doors for - the child who might even hurt you one day - unintentionally, but your child nonetheless. If you are ready to provide, love and care, direct this life for 18 years, comfort, keep, and devote your all, expose to the world and teach in such a way that they will not be jaded in the end, but loving of all people - then you are ready. And I pray for your health, your strength and that of your husbands' because it is a great responsibility to bring a life into the world and to maintain positive standards of teaching, loving and giving for this little person. Bless you in your endeavors, peace and lots of joy.

Answer 9

Not at all. My mom had me when she was 23, and I turned out just fine with a great loving childhood. As long as you and your husband feel ready for the responsibilities and needs of a child, then that is all that matters. Age doesn't really determine whether or not you're ready to become a parent. Matter of fact, our bodies are at the peak of their childbearing abilities in your early 20's- 30's. What matters is if you feel ready at that age.

Parents always go by what they have experienced. My friend is 29, and still childless (by option-she's in law school). And her mom, who started giving birth at age 20, thinks she's too old now to have healthy kids. Which of course, is not true. Parents naturally go by what they have experienced when they give advice to you. They only want what's best for you, but it may not always be what's right for you.

As long as both you and your husband are ready to start a family, then you're definitely not too young. You're at the right time in your life. Good luck!

Answer 10

I think you're old enough to make your own decisions. You are, after all over 18 and married...living with your husband, I assume. The way I see it, you and your husband need to make that decision, not anyone else. If you both feel like you're ready, then go for it. You may want to read up on any risks that can occur in pregnancies for older women, including difficult pregnancies. That way, you are better informed the next time your mother or her friends offer you some advise on when to start a family.