im tryin to find a girl firend but dont know how can u help me.
i haven't had and girlfirend befor and im 18
2006-11-29 06:10:13 · 19 answers · asked by Alvis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the secret is to quit trying.
instead of looking for love, look for friendship. you do this by talking to girls like they are human beings (just like your male friends). most girls appreciate a guy that doesn't stalk them or talk to them like they're idiots and/or aliens.
if you can't figure out what to say, here's some tips on how to get a conversation started with ANYBODY, ANYWHERE, and at ANYTIME:
(1) comment on something that just happened that you both witnessed. ("did you freakin' see that?!")
(2) comment on something that you both were just involved in. ("yawn! were you as bored as i was?")
trust me- the physical stuff gets OLD if you don't genuinely like the person you're with. so just talk to girls until you find one that has something interesting to say.
another thing is wardrobe. if you're going to class in a scruffy graphic tee (particularly the ones with stupid/crude jokes), hair sticking everywhichaway, have a 5 o'clock shadow at 8 a.m., haven't bathed in a few days, or you're wearing something that doesn't fit right, then you will get no booty. No booty at all.
invest in a couple of solid color or striped polo tees, get a haircut. throw those banged up converses in the trash and get you some Timberlands (or a similar shoe). if the jeans have big holes, are too loose or too tight, are too short or too long- then they need to go. why? because a cute butt does matter. i don't care how many girls deny it, they have at some point in their life stared at some dude's behind. medium to medium-dark stonewash jeans or light khakis work just fine. if you have any piercings that are flattering, leave them in. a good looking eyebrow or ear piercing can be an asset.
don't worry about meeting someone. you will. and when you meet the right girl, you'll just know.
2006-11-29 06:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound desperate. I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 20. It just wasn't important to me. The first one was ok. The 2nd was a loser. The 3rd was awesome and we were actually engaged but we were both too young and didn't really know what we wanted so it ended after 6 years. Then I went through so many women I'm not sure I remeber them all. Then I found the women I married. We knew each other for 5 years, dated for 1, engaged for another and have been married for 17. My point is this: you need to get into situations where you find people with similar interests and likes. When you hang out together, you be exposed to others. When you find someone your interested in, ask her out on a date. If it goes well, ask for another date and so on and so forth. If it doesn't go well, move on to another. Just don't jump and grab the first thing you see in desperation. Be cool and treat them right. Good luck!
2006-11-29 06:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by lbuajlw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a "Have to" have a Gf...just relax and if there is someone out there made for you... then it will happen...
or if you like someone, then say it before its too late! be caring and show the feelings you hold for her...
Id say i never belive in this GF/BF buisness i think if it happens then it does.... but if i wer u... id sit back and relax coz ur only 18 and have a long way yet and have plenty of time to find ur miss perfect...lol i hope this is helpfull and i do aploigse to any other that mite think my answer is offending...take care n good luck!
2006-11-29 23:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Paki~Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be patient and be a friend to the girl you like, if she's upset, give her a hanky and a shoulder to cry on, if she's having a bad hair day, say it looks nice, if she's having a rant, let her rant a girl appreciates a guy that compliments her and is good at listening. love can't be hurried, it takes time to find and grow into something beautiful, so just start of as a freind and then eventually, you'll find a girlfriend and take things slow.
2006-11-29 22:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by tribalgirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17. I was one of my boyfriends first girlfriend and he was 22. Don't act desperate. I had a friend who would jump on every guy she saw. She was needy and clingy (yes guys can be those too), which was a total turn off. Relax. Don't think about it. Don't look for it too hard. The more you try, the worse it gets.
2006-11-29 06:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. first you have to make a special bond with you and a girl.. start off being friends and get to know her really well then if u like her and her personality.. start to tell her how u feel... then start to make her fall for you.. then let her know that u have a clean intension.. then surely she'll fall for you... but if she says that she's not ready then tell her you'll wait this shows how patient u r... but if u want a quick way u can juz hook up wid some women... but u will not have any serious relationship wid anyone...
2006-11-29 06:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by dudez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably might not want to hear this maybe its just not time for you to start dating yet go on with your life and enjoy educating and progress in life and before you know it you will be mature enough to handle a relationship and the right one will just show up when you least expect .
Be Blessed
2006-11-29 06:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by evan g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as 'a girlfriend'. Meet people, and if you find you like the look of one of the women, only THEN can you say you would like THAT girl to be your friend. Anything else is desperate.
2006-11-29 06:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big deal Sam. Join the club.(Sam's Club) I am 55 and haven't had a girlfriend in two years now. But who cares, I'm happy as I am.
2006-11-29 06:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your probably trying too hard. if you treat a girl like a friend it will take the pressure off of you and become good friends and go out and get wasted with her and you will probably hook up and then act like it is no big deal, girls love challenges!
2006-11-29 06:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋