now she is complaining and mitching off school as school annoys her and so does being at home as she had to look after the baby!!
what should i say to her if anyting ?
2006-11-29 06:09:08 · 17 answers · asked by ciaran91 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You can only support her mentally right now, as a friend. She has dug herself a hole that she was not ready for and unfortunately running away too. It's a shame.Does her mom take care of this child full time, if so maybe your friend ought to give up her right and become a sister instead of mom. She also should get a Norplant so this won't happen again.It's good for 5 years. Not everybody want to be a mom, it's a very hard job, if you do it right that is. Remember she wanted to have sex without consequences. This child's welfare needs to come first whoever is gonna raise this baby. good luck, because I doubt she is gonna listen to anybody, because she sounds mad at herself.
2006-11-29 06:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by mdzevolveddammit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not mature enough for the responsibility of being a parent.
She wants the freedom she'd had before the baby came along,and she sees her friends going out and about and she's jealous.
Why on earth did her mother let her have the baby in the first place.It may seem like a good idea having a child young,but doesn't she realise that her life is ruined.
Somebody needs to have a serious talk with your friend,and really find out what she wants to do.
Whatever her decision,she needs the backing of her friends and family.
I know your concerns as my niece was just 16 when she had her little boy.
Trouble is my sister encouraged her,and she's never been a proper role model herself.
Talk to your friend,she could be showing signs of post-natal depression,and for that she'll need a doctors help.
As long as she has good friends like you,she may be able to sort things out.
2006-11-29 06:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by nicky dakiamadnat600bugmunchsqig 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She should definitely consider adoption. I'm no expert by any means but if she's resentful towards the child now in the baby's critical years of development, that will hurt both of them A LOT! I know a few children who's mother neglected and resented them and they are sooo messed up! The boy is 10 now and has been sent away to a hospital because he's crazy! His latest is pulling his hair out and eating it. The girl is now 12 and she's battling depression and has to take pills.
There are options where she may have the baby adopted by a family and she can still see pictures of the baby and eventually have contact. I know a girl who in our junior year of high school did that and she doesn't have one regret even after 16 years. Its hard but she needs to do something! She's way too young and this is very destructive for the two of them.
2006-11-29 06:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by SandyPants 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The way she is feeling is normal considering she did what she did underage, and produced a baby that obviously was unplanned. The bottom line is - she has to grow up and face up to her responsibilities. She needs to finish school so she can get some form of employment and look after the innocent baby that deserves at least some kind of a standard of living. The fact she dislikes school just shows that irrespective of the fact that she now has a human being to take care of, she still has not grown up and grasped the enormousity of the situation that she now finds herself in. She can't and won't have the freedom that she desires for the next few years until at least the baby is in a nursery. I know a lot of people have suggested she gives the baby up for adoption, but just like she now has regrets about having the child, if she gives the baby up for adoption, that will haunt her later on in life once she is grown and realises what she'd done. She needs to grow up and do the decent thing of working and paying for that child. The price she pays for playing with boys instead of toys.
2006-11-29 06:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her to STAY in school! She has to complete college--and quite frankly, college or tech school as well--in order to give herself and her child a good life in the future. It's her responsibility to support her baby in the future, and she can't do that without a good education. It's vital that she stay in school and get the best grades she can.
2006-11-29 15:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by DiAnne 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that she decided to have sex, decided to go through with the pregnancy, decided to keep the baby. Now she should travel down the road she choose over a year ago to go down on.
If she wants to complain, tell her adoption.
2006-11-29 09:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she choose to have the baby she should be hhappy and grateful she can have children many people try for years to be told they will never be able to have a child i was 16 when i got pregnant now 3 yrs on we are very very happy has been hard but well worth it
2006-12-02 22:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u shud advice ur friend to talk to the doc as it sounds lik she has the baby blues this is not un commen and he can help
2006-11-29 07:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by catznolan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont say anything. You dont know what shes going through. people may have said mean things to her. you dont know how she feels.ask her whats wrong. be a good friend and help her get through this mess. dont judge her.
xoxo
2006-11-29 08:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by princesslilmamii10 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
if its bothering her that much...maybe you should tell your friend that she can always give her baby up for adoption.Not only will your friend be able to get on with her life, but her baby will have a better chance at life as well.
2006-11-29 08:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by April B 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋