We have been together for 2 years,he left a previous relationship to be with me.The thing is,he and the ex never really parted ways.He's a great guy but he just had issues but I fell in love and stayed anyway.Long story short,she ended up pregnant,lost the baby in her 8th month,had a funeral,but now she's using it against him as if the baby was still alive.I know he loves me and he made a mistake,he even proposed to me since then.She's playing on his sympathy,should I give up?What to do?!?!
2006-11-29 05:55:00 · 26 answers · asked by missraynell07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not really much you can do. It's up to him to grow up and decide who is best for him. If you pull him from one side and she pulls from one side, he's going to have trouble choosing. As hard as it will be, you should sit back and wait for him to decide. He has to grow up, be a man, and make the right decision for him and not let anyone influence him.
2006-11-29 06:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of the doubt, but make sure that the three of you are together when he tells her that all ties need to be severed. If he truly loves you then he will do this. Past relationships can tie us to another, but when it is no use carrying it on some people beleive in the hope that if we had something once then it can happen again. It's not always the case and the two of you need to have your own lives together and without her in the picture.
Good luck!
2006-11-29 14:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Boo Boo Head 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all that really sucks. If you really love him and you think he still does love you, then i would give him one more chance. The thing is though, you can't really put alot of trust in him now..at least not for awhile. Cheating on somebody you love is the a huge NO. I don't really see how somebody can do that to somebody they love. Hope things work out, good luck!
2006-11-29 14:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dustin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this girl friend....but once a cheater always a cheater. If you stay with him...you have to totally forgive him and wipe it out of your mind. You can't hold it against him the rest of his life and that is a hard thing to do. You also can't wonder every time he goes out if he is going out on a date. That is why when my husband cheated on me and got a woman pregnant....that was it! I let the next woman deal with his cheating heart. I figure if he loved me totally...there was NO WAY he would have been with an other woman!!!
Just think too....if he created a life....then he wasn't "protecting himself". Sounds like he just sticks it in anywhere it feels good. Just like I told my ex husband...if he created a child...he could have been bringing home STD's to me. FORGET THAT! I'm a Christian and I don't believe in divorce, but I don't believe in adultry either. I forgave him, but it is hard to forget!!!
2006-11-29 14:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tuff one! It would definently be hard to trust someone after all of that. But if you have (in some way) forgave him for what he has done to you then I would stick around. ( I could have never gotten over it to begin with but you did...and so you need to stick with it) I would not let her come around though...and if he even showed the SMALLEST bit of interest in what she has to say then I would leave his a.s.s. You deserve more than that. I am sure that it is hard for her....and I can see why she would lean on him...but if he truely loves you then he will not want anything to do with her. If he does decide to be with her then let him go.....you didn't ask for him to cheat on you and get her pregnant did you? Of course not....so don't take it!
2006-11-29 14:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by TNL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He made a "mistake"? Hmmm, I think it is you who is making a mistake here. He made a series of deliberate choices to lie to you and be unfaithful. If you expect him to act differently in the future - think again. If you stay with him, you will run into this type of situation over and over. Either accept it, or look elsewhere. Not all guys lie and cheat.
2006-11-29 13:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb. Once a cheater always a cheater. He's clearly either not over this woman or is unable to keep his zipper zipped. And do you really want the drama of this woman in your lives?
Moreover, not only was he unfaithful to you, he was apparently unfaithful without using a condom. Have you been tested for STDs?
2006-11-29 13:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok honestly that is really messed up but i see where your coming from... but the thing is if you love someone than you don't give up on them, cause i was in a relationship and we where together for 3 years and then he was going threw some things so we stopped dating but i never gave up on him and now we are back together and happier than ever.
2006-11-29 14:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he cheated on you with her you are the rebound girl. You should not marry someone that has ever cheated on you especially if he got her pregnant that's sick. You should probably end this relationship and move on. If he was in love with you he would cut all ties with her. They have no reason to keep talking.
2006-11-29 14:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? Should you forgive? Listen sweetie, sounds like you need to do alot of forgetting not forgiving-mistakes like that make a person not trustworthy anymore from my experience! You can do much better than have a bf with drama attached!!!! Go for the bigger better deal-their out there!!!!
2006-11-29 14:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by dodlydink 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋