my alcoholic boyfriend of 3 years went in2 rehab met a heroin addict and moved in with her straight away,he told me over the fone and then wouldnt except my calls.its been 3 months now and i still think about him everyday,i was more of his carer than anything else,we did have some good times but a lot of bad,i have 3 kids who thought of him as there step dad,he hasnt even spoken to them.ive heard since that hes really ill and drinking more than ever.i still cant get my head around how cold he has been to us,2 days b4 he went in to rehab he was talking about marriage.i feel so lost.
2006-11-29 05:53:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whenever you think of him and miss him, think of how cold he treated you. Of course you can't let go. You never had closure as you never actually talked about this face to face. It makes it that much harder.
If he is now drinking more, then remind yourself, that you do not need this kind of trouble in your live. You have kids to raise and yourself to take care of. He has problems and is not in a position to give to anyone. When he talked about marriage it was probably what he thought he would do, in a perfect world. Off drink. It sounds like he was not strong enough to give up drink and it was easier to shack up with someone who is in no position to ask anything of him, so he can just continue in his ways. You probably remind him of his shortcomings. This does not mean you should go and pick him up of the floor now!!!
Try to forget him and concentrate on yourself and your children.
2006-11-29 06:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has you still hung up on this guy? He made his choice and did you a huge favor in the process, cut your losses and forget about him. Yeah I know people will say you should try to help him, but you cant save everyone and he is the one who moved in knowingly with a heroin addict and you dont need that in your life...and neither do your kids
2006-11-29 13:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by rufnready 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a doctor.
You say you cannot. Think about the children, if he comes back per your wish and does something in your home, you will be responsible and you can loose your children.
Count your blessing that he is done and pray and hope it is for good.
Just get on with your life.
DO SOCIAL SERVICE AT CENTRE BUT DO NOT LET THEM IN YOUR HOUSE, FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN.
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2006-11-29 14:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treasure all the memories you have had with him and remember some of the things that were nice from time to time but we all make our own choices in life and not all of us make the right ones. Be there for your kids and yourself and the right Man will come along.
2006-11-29 14:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes life really sucks. but you are wasting time finding your own happiness by dewelling on the past good times. he left you he didn't kill you. live your life in the present.
2006-11-29 14:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by goatfingers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he chose booze and drugs over you, realize that you are better off with out him and move on
2006-11-29 14:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to let go and move on
2006-11-29 13:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
meditate and study recite bhag.gita
2006-11-29 13:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by doctor asho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-11-29 15:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let him go and really move on
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2006-11-29 13:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋