Do men who cheat on their wives cheat on their girlfriends, as well?

Question

That is, if you're the "other woman," should you expect he has yet another woman -- and I don't mean his wife? What I'm wanting to know is if faithless husbands are simultaneously so. Thanks.

Answer 1

If he does it with you, he'll do it to you. Don't know why any woman would think that her lying, cheating married man is going to be "faithful" to her when he's already cheating on his wife.

Answer 2

I do not agree with the once a cheater, always a cheater (Simplistic) answer to this question. In most circumstances the answer would be no. There are those of us men who have an imtimacy issue or find it difficult or impossible to make a comittment to one woman for any given legnth of time. Those types of males are a rarity. HOWEVER, the media and society today have labled most men (In general) as unable to love, cherish, and commit to women for long periods of time as well as placing that sticker on Women (In general) as just the same. I have done many studies on this issue and have come to believe that in Marriage, infidelity is actually a symtom of the real issue in the relationship. Whether it be an intimacy issue, a commitment issue, a lack of respect, or maybe neither of the so called "Partners" are not "Partners" at all. Hence living together for the kids, or maybe they were married for the wrong reasons in the first place and were never in love to begin with. There are hundreds, if not thousands of scenarios we could play over and over prodding several different factors and/or facts to prove our point or make our case or even to prove someone else is wrong. I usually answer questions half hearted, with a slice of skepticism and a dash of sarcasm, however once in awhile a question pushes a button, or touches my heart. This question has done both. I have cheated in the past, doing everything I could do to tell her without "Telling" her right off the bat. I have since divorced, I have become a better Father, Daddy, and Dad to my children than I ever was. I was so unhappy in my marriage, I was in it just for the kids' sake for the last three or four years of the marriage and I guess this was my way of ending the Marriage without "Manning-up." I do understand this was a very "Cowardly" way of ending the Marriage and do very much regret the way I handled ending the Marriage. I was and am able to look back and see the path I took and the destruction it caused and have since then made amends with my ex. I know this is long and may be boring to most, however, I know for a fact that I will NEVER in my life pull that kind of S*#@ again. I have since met another Woman who I respect, cherish, love, honor, (Sometimes even obey :) and she is the one I have been waiting for all my life. I could NEVER even consider thinking of being with another Woman. I did what I did for my own reasons, that does not mean that I will repeat that mistake again. I never knew in all my life that I would make that mistake and would take it back in a seconed if I could, yet I cant. This means that there are many many men in this world as well as women who make horrible mistakes one time and never make them again. Why label them? I think that if you are the "Other" woman, you need to come clean with yourself and others because you are part of the "Cheating" process. The relationship you are in will most likely never last due to the fact the the relationship is based on cheating, not on discovering eachother slowly and falling in love over time, thus developing a true romance that will last a lifetime. If you are the Wife, then She will get what she deserves as well as your Husband. I hope you all find happiness somewhere in you lives and stop hurting eachother in these ways. Take it from someone who paved that road, drove on it and wishes he had never done so. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I look at it like this...a wife is the one special person the husband devotes himself to, most of all guaranteeing her his fidelity (the vows)...so if a husband can't commit to the woman he declared to love most of all, then cheating on the girlfriend(s) seems to be a given or highly possible.
The "other woman" enters the relationship already knowing that HER boyfriend is cheating just to be with her...so in other words, she is engaging in a relationship with a man who can't be faithful. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" it doesn't matter which girl.
However, a man may not cheat but just leave the girlfriend and start anew with a different girl...(perhaps some men can only handle 2 women at a time...he has enough lies and "stories" to worry about)

Answer 4

Most people say "Once a cheater always a cheater". I hate to admit it but yeah, it's true... Men like that develop a mentality that makes them "always lack" something in a relationship no matter how "perfect" a relationship is. In the back of their minds they feel like they are "missing" something- "It's greener on the other side" so to speak. It's not that they don't care about you but it truly isn't a way to be loved!!! NO ONE DESERVES THAT!!! People develop habits over their lives that become a part of them. Take abusive relationships. The person abusing the other person might care about them, and some points be good for them...But they always seem to get back in that "mentality" that makes them repeat bad habits!!! The person getting this abuse on the other hand also develops a mentality but this mentality states that "Oh, it won't happen again, he loves me. He just needs more love, more this, more that, until you, ONE DAY REALIZE , IT WON'T CHANGE and it's NOT YOUR FAULT ! I would honestly consider finding someone else... But like I said, you probably won't. MOST people in your situation asks advice hoping not to hear the thing that you ALREADY KNOW and when you hear a CONFIRMATION...you block it out. It's sad but your emotions play more of a part in your life than your LOGICAL MIND!!! Realize that you don't need ANYONE, and THEN you will obtain the ability to choose the RIGHT relationships!!! [e-mail]

Answer 5

There's not enough hours in the day for him to cheat on his wife with his gf with his gf with his gf (you get the idea)...but the fact that he thinks cheating is okay should be enough of a deterrent. Also, if he's lying and cheating on his wife, chances are he's lying to his gf too (whether or not he's "cheating" on her with yet a 3rd woman).

However, if he's stepping out, there's no reason why he might not be doing it with several women...depends on the guy really...I wouldn't trust him to tell any of the women he's cheating with about the others...some don't even make known they are married...

What goes around, comes around...to the cheaters and to those they cheat with (that participate knowingly)...I wouldn't want that karma...

Answer 6

Unless he's taking Viagra, it's unlikely that the average guy has enough energy for three women. However, some guys get off only on the thrill of the forbidden and as the other woman you might be too tame for him now.

If you're worried, why not dump him? Surely there are other married men whose marriages you can ruin.

Answer 7

Men who cheat see sex as a conquest sorta like a point system notches in a belt and things of that nature. It sounds as if he might be a habitual cheater and if that's the case he will probably remain one until he himself is cheated on and he realizes the damage it does to someone and even then he might continue. So to best answer your question yes he probably is cheating on more then you and his wife. It is highly unlikely that he will ever leave his wife and be with you and be faithful to you. hope that helps good luck!

Answer 8

I know exactly what your going through. It is different in so many cases. You can never be sure. I was the "other woman" but i met him way b4 they got together, and i am still with him today. and i still have my trust issues from time to time but i know that he loves me and his relationship with her wasnt serious and it wasnt something he wanted long term. My best advise is to talk to him about it. Tell him about your insecurities and how you feel see how he reacts. If he gets mad and aggressive like your accusing him of something, then you should question his fidelity, if he is understanding, and tires to make the situation better then put a little faith in him. It is very hard and i know it is first hand, but you just gotta follow your heart and gut instinct with this one!
Good Luck

Answer 9

Of course you should expect that he might have another woman, if the guy is going to cheat on his wife, what would stop him from cheating on his mitress

Answer 10

Cheaters are cheaters. If they cheat on their wife with you and then leave her for you they will eventually cheat on you too. Unless they are just head over heals in love with you but majority of the time that's not the case.