I have been with my man for the last 8yrs. i love him very much but right now we are seperated because he is incarcerated for 2yrs. for something stupid but I am getting lonely and sexually frustrated. An the other day a girl i know wanted to introduce me to a friend i said no but I was a little hesitant at first to say no. I feel really bad about it
2006-11-29 05:45:25 · 37 answers · asked by ladycaramel06302003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't ask us, ask your husband. He was a dumb azz for landing himself in jail, and thus not being able to take care of you. I think he should give his permission for you to have a sex partner, but under the undrestanding that once he is out, that it will end.
2006-11-29 05:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never stated why he was incarcerated. If it was for something serious or physically hurting someone that must be taken into consideration. The bottom line is be honest. If you truly love the guy, you should wait for him. If you want to meet other people you should be honest with him. You stated you loved him very much. Two years is not along time for someone that you truly love. People in the armed forces who are married go longer, but the bond and trust is still there.
2006-11-29 05:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by hank 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your man did something stupid, and is going to be in the joint for the next two years. You're sexually frustrated, and need a solution
Here are your choices:
1) Masturbate - take care of your own sexual needs yourself and be loyal to your man until he comes home from the penitentiary.
2) Get another boyfriend, and dump him when your man comes back from the big house
3) Get another boyfriend, stay with him, and dump your incarcerated boyfriend.
It's really up to you, but if you want to stay true to your man, and not hurt the feelings of any guys you meet while he's away, your best bet might be option 1 - masturbate, and take care of your own sexual needs until your man comes home from jail.
Also, if you stay with your man, GET HIM TESTED FOR HIV AND OTHER SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS when he comes home from jail.
I'm dead serious about that!
Make sure you don't have unprotected sex with him for the first 90 days after he comes home and on the 91st day take him to the clinic to get tested for HIV 1, HIV 2, Gonorehea, Syphilis, Herpes and Hepatitis C.
Most men are sexually active with other men while they are in jail (and they lie to their girlfriends about it) - so better safe than sorry.
You should also think about that when you make your decision - you may be celibate while your boyfriend is in jail, but you can bet he is NOT celibate, and is currently sexually active with his male cellmates! [Among prisoners this is NOT considered gay, for some stupid reason]
2006-11-29 05:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be introduced to the friend but keep it at ONLY FRIENDS. I don't think you're husband would appreciate anything more. Sometimes the jails may let people out on Huber privileges (if the incarcerated person is good) to go to work or to find work so there may be hope that your man can get out on huber, but he will have to be back at the jail at a certain time. And if he breaks the law while out on his huber privivileges then he'll lose them. Or if he is really good then they may let him out on probation with special rules/regulations to follow until he's off of probation.
2006-11-29 05:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your man, stay loyal to him. Only consider other men if you chose to leave your man. Dating should be for the single.
loneliness and sexual frustration can be very difficult to deal with, but love is about sacrifice...if you really love him, this is your chance to prove it.
I am a little worried about him being incarcerated....
anywho, you seem like you are trying so keep up the "good work"
2006-11-29 06:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by xwho123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have been with your man for eight years? Are you married? If not then eight years is a long time to be with someone without a true commitment and now he is in jail? Sounds like you should move on to someone who will value you and really make you happy. Good luck in whatever you decide. As you have seen there are a lot of fish in the sea....
2006-11-29 05:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Girl V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should break up with him. For one, he didnt marry you in the 8 yrs he was with you! WHY?? hell i dont know but there is no good excuse for that girl! Two: now he is in jail and after 2 years what if it doesnt work out for you and him? I mean, really. You probably will have to support him anyways... YOU DESERVE A FINE, SEXY, SMART MAN, WHO CAN TREAT YOU LIKE A REAL WOMAN! Not a felon, who waisted 8 yrs first and then landed in jail!!!! HELL NO!
2006-11-29 06:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by JULIA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on getting back with him when he gets out? If you are, then I wouldnt, just talk to your girlfriends to help with the lonliness and buy an adult toy to help with the sexual frustration. Listen to your heart, if you really are in love with your man (there is a difference in being in love and just caring deeply for someone) then dont be unfaithful to him because you will end up regretting it. Have you tried talking to your man? Tell him what your thinking, after all he needs to know.
2006-11-29 05:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by cici101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a bad decision that put him in jail for two years; he is suffering the consequences of his actions. One of those consequences is that he may lose you. End the relationship and start a new life, but give yourself a couple of years before you commit again. Maybe the two of you will get back together, maybe not. But why waste two years of your life because of his bad choices? You are worth much more than that!
2006-11-29 06:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he should know that you cant wait for him while he is in jail for 2 yrs. You are not even married to him. Dont get into a serious relationship with another guy, just go out and have fun!!! Dont be frustrating yourself from not dating other guys. The sea is full os fishes!!!!!!!!
2006-11-29 05:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by marcela r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the worse thing to come home to from being locked up. If you love him maybe you should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel the next time you get a chance to talk to him. But if you dont want to risk it, use your fingers for a while, thats all i can say. Good Luck
2006-11-29 05:50:15 · answer #11 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋