I'm gay but?

Question

I'm with my fiance" (girl) but I dream about having sex with guys what should I do?????? tell her or keep it in and ignore my feelings?????

Answer 1

how can youignore your feelings & thoughts? thats like ignoring thefacts & living a lie, would you like to continue doing that? better yet would you like for your mate (male or female) to keep you in the dark about whats really going on & continue in a relationship with you knowing tht their mind ,body & heart were all in three different directions?? You are able to answer this without any help from anyone just put yourself on the other end( DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU).. GOOD LUCK, & DONT DENY YOURSELF THE PRIVILEDGE OF KNOWING LOVING & UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRUE SELF..

Answer 2

Just because you dream about men doesn't mean that you're gay. There is more to that than that. Ask yourself if you love your fiance. If the answer is yes then I wouldn't break it off. Plus I believe that you are born gay and therefor you would know that something is wrong ever since you were little.

Good luck

Answer 3

To be honest once ur in a relationship ur in it for each other u should tell her how u feel b4 u go and something so crazy that you'll regret.Even though u love somebody it is possible for you to have sexual dreams about someone else its not right but u cant help that.So if u feel comfortable talking to her about then do it don't keep it bottled up inside because the worse thing u can do is keep secrets from the one you love.

Answer 4

you're no longer born gay, so as that meana you may go with whether or no longer you may choose to be gay. there is isn't a diverse answer. If that's what you go with then decide for it, if no longer, then do no longer undertaking approximately it.

Answer 5

Go for the guys!! It sounds like your not gay to me. Sounds like you might be confused or are you bi? You shoud NEVER ingorne your feelings. How can you have a fiance when gay marriage is not legal?? Do you live in massachusettes or something?

Answer 6

Sex with men is sick.

Seriously, it sounds like you have some issues you need to resolve. Talk to a friend, but maybe your girl shouldn't be the first one you tell.

Answer 7

Stephanie, honey...
I'd like to give you some useful advice....
Talk with her about it...
Don't call anything off just yet...
You need to work out these feelings, and the best way to do that is through talking with your fiance­­é, discussing how you feel, and possibly giving you time to mull over your personal life before rushing forward...

It took me years to come to accept who I am fully, and each time I doubted, I came up with excuses for not being myself.
Don't make the same mistake, just take time, and communicate with her, if she truly cares about you, she won't mind talking with you about it.

Answer 8

Be honest, you may be just curious or bisexual. It is fine. You need some serious "you" time to figure this out.

For those of you that asked, he is a guy, engaged to a woman, having fantasies about men.

Answer 9

Doesn't it seem somewhat of an oxymoron to be homosexual but desire to have sex with people of the opposite sex?

Telling her is up to you...but if you do tell her, be sure you let her know you have no intention of acting on it (at least while you two are together).

Answer 10

be open and honest maybe its not really the guys you are missing but the guys tool and there are toys for that. and who knows maybe she might feel the same and be open for you two to share a guy never know but couples are supose to be able to work threw things as long as no ones been unfaithful so just open up to her