My g/f don't trust me talking to anyone so when we have problems I have no one to vent to what should I do????? I love her and want to marry her but this has to stop. What should I do?
2006-11-29 05:19:22 · 22 answers · asked by Stephanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like she's insecure and therefore has trouble truly trusting you. Just remember, this is NOT your fault.
So, what do you do? Simply say "I love you, I have chosen you to be with and I want to marry you but you MUST learn to trust me or we will never have a solid relationship."
The boat you are in is not as easy one, she's got to learn to love herself before YOU can love her...she finds it hard to accept your love because of her insecurity.
Best of luck honey, Lynn
2006-11-29 05:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust you don't have a relationship. Find out what is at the root of it (like being cheated on in the past) and try to work through that by assuring her that you are not like that, etc. You have to have someone to vent to. Maybe a counselor or pastor? Do NOT get married until this problem is resolved. It will only get worse as time passes by unless it is addressed and put behind you. I hope this helps. God bless!
2006-11-29 05:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 How long have you been togetter? 2 Why does she not trust you? 3 Does she talk to other people?
1 If it is more then a year she has to grow up and tell her just like that
2 Did you cheat? No then she has nothing to worry about. Yes you will not get that trust back
3 if so tell her a realationship is 50/50 if she wants to put all these rules on you and she doesnot follow then the realationship will not work
If you are going to marry thiswoman you have to fix this problem now or it will never get fix.
-BH
2006-11-29 05:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by brownhornet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Say you need friends. Eveyone should be able to have someone to vent to other than their spouse, or significant other. Ask her why she doesnt trust you. Where do her feelings come from? Tell her it is driving you away. Even if you want to be with her, I know it would drive me away. Maybe try and meet people together. So she knows the person she will feel less threatened. Good luck.
2006-11-29 05:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sophiegreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it, tell her how you feel. When it comes time, you should vent to her... not get others involved in the relationship because it will cause many many problems. I learned that the hard way from a very recent experience. Maybe she doesn't know how to act or control herself. Just talk to her calm. If she isn't willing to talk to you and listen though and only you listen to her, then maybe both of you shouldn't be together.
2006-11-29 05:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight i the eye how much you love her and you thinking about your long term plans and future together..
Then tell her what's bothering you.., she not trusting you. Tell her that the relationship cannnot work if it continues this way.
A few days later... if she starts questioning you again on who you talked to ... just joke with her that you were talking to an extremely attractive female, who didn't have that jeolous problem. Tell the similar jokes every time she questions you.. after a while, she might get fedup with your jokes and stop bothering you.
2006-11-29 05:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by terencework 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think undesirable for you, i rather do. i'm clinically determined with BPD and likewise have a boyfriend and that i comprehend there are situations the position I force him rather loopy. regrettably between the major problems with BPD is that we've very black or white wondering and our perspectives on people (rather people we've romantic relationships with) can replace interior minutes. in case you comprehend for a incontrovertible fact that she has BPD then i assume that she has seen/is seeing a therapist. it really is rather all she will be able of do, it must be very not difficulty-free to handle and ought to in certain situations take years earlier people are extra powerful. What it rather comes right down to is do you or do you not desire a relationship inclusive of her. in case you do not experience like she is the only then i ought to leave, move on. in case you rather favor to be inclusive of her then you definitely in simple terms ought to stick it out and study some tricks to assist deal with the problem. First confirm she is actively going to treatment and taking her meds, 2d, do not yell or scream decrease back at the same time as she has a in good structure over not something. i comprehend that it's not difficulty-free yet have self belief me this is going to easily make issues worse. you also favor to set barriers, enable her comprehend you adore her and could be there for her yet when she will do issues that are unnaccepetable to then you definitely there'll be consequences. Do your analyze, seek for suggestion from a healthcare professional in case you may and discover out as a lot about the affliction as you may. this is an particularly crippling psychological ailment and also you sir are a saint in case you may deal with it.
2016-11-27 21:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by marcy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that trust is the foundation of any good relationship and her jealousy is poisoning yours. It is mentally abusive to prohibit your partner from communicating with others. Give her a chance to change after your talk, but if it doesn't stop, you have to end it. You will not be happy.
2006-11-29 05:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tara P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you sit her down...and tell her straight! You need to let her know that if the relationship is going to work out, that she needs to trust you! and if it doesn't then maybe it's not suppose to work out. I know you want to marry her, but isn't the person you marry, suppose to love you and trust you? Why would you want a relationship that is that rocky? Just tell her that she needs to trust you, and not have to worry.
2006-11-29 05:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by tomwlglvr5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why she's being insecure. Did someone hurt her in the past?? If not you have to tell her to stop being so insecure. And show her in your own special way the you are not after any one else.
2006-11-29 05:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by lovah992000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋