ive been bisexual for 14 months, im 16, and my parents are catholic, and they make homophobic remarks alot, i dont know if i should tell them, but i just hate feeling like im hiding....
also, could anyone tell me about thier experiences with coming out
2006-11-29 05:04:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Luke, you know who this is. You should tell your parents. If they don't like it it's not your problem, you are who you are. I hate telling my parents things but my friends tell them everything. When I first started talking to you I had to come out and tell them and my friends because they knew I was acting different. Hiding things is hard, but you do what you think is right.
2006-12-01 08:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Totally bisexual? Or you've got the feeling that you are transitioning into being gay?
Bisexuals have it easy coming out, parents hold on to this "chance" that you'll find the right girl someday and it's just a phase. Gays have it worse, because parents will onlylook at the tone of finality that it's over, they've been bad parents and and they've lost their kid to evil.
Just tell them how you feel towards both genders and let them stew on the idea for a while. They may act like horse's a** at the start, but in the end, they will still love you anyway.
Don't worry, christians always have the "love the sinner, hate the sin" mantra that they brandish around. It would be a shame to let that down on their own kid.
2006-11-29 06:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of homosexual friends who will tell me one thing: their parents aren't fans. Coming out isn't an easy decision, and not an easy process either.
Unfortunately, if you don't say anything... it's dishonest. I had a couple friends confess their sexuality to me after a year of hiding it, and the part that bothered me most about this was not that they were gay--but just the feeling of having been lied to. The longer you try to hide a secret, the harder it becomes to tell the truth--and simultaneously, the necessity for truth increases.
I think you should tell them; just do your best to make them understand that it doesn't change who you are. There's likely to be initial shock but they may hold some respect for you for at least having the courage to tell the truth.
2006-11-29 05:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Pazu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me coming out was easy, I did it at 14 -- you have always been bisexual if you are bisexual by the way. Having sex with another boy doesn't make you bisexual, unless you find males sexually attractive. If you do, then you are bisexual if you find them AND girls sexually exciting, and gay if you find only males sexually attractive.
In any event. You know what you are. I would tell my friends first in your position, so that I knew I had good support -- and tell my parents when I was ready, and probably not until after 18 -- especially if you have a boyfriend that they could stop you seeing if they knew.
In the meanwhile you are WONDERFUL just as you are. No matter what that is.
Believe in yourself. *hug*
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believienyou24@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 06:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you tell them ? Did they ask ? I looked at your profile. It says your 18 and have a boyfriend. What's the point of telling your parents something that is just not an issue ? If it's just so they will know I would suggest you wait. Tell them only when and if there is a reason to.
2016-05-23 02:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question... what made you become bisexual because you said you have been bisexual for 14 months... or were you born that way? I'm just asking because I'm curious to if it is genetics or a choice. Well, I say look within yourself first and make sure that you are what you say you are, then tell your parents... if they love you they will be supportive.
2006-11-29 05:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by bettyboop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, never be ashamed of who you are.
However, based on your family's religious affiliations it might be better to not tell them for the time being. It will cause a lot of fighting and upset. Sure they'd know the truth, but at what cost?
My advice would be to hold off until you need to tell them (i.e. you're in a serious relationship, etc). Don't lie about it (if they ask be honest) but just hold off for now. Or, if you think it's really important, wait until you're financially independent and living on your own.
2006-11-29 05:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until the next big party which should be Christmas and tell everyone in your family as a surprise. There is nothing they can do about it. You should respect your parents house and do what you do out, but let them know that you still love them and regadless of what they think you will still be their son. Good Luck!!
2006-11-29 05:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to tell them? What somebody does sexually is really nobody else's business. If you hate their homophobic remarks, just tell them. Of course, if you really want to tell them, make like Nike and Just Do It.
2006-11-29 05:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until there is little choice.
If you start living with a guy, when you are in a very serious relationship with a guy, then that's a good time.
Right now, considering how you make them sound, you could lose your family.
2006-11-29 05:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋