I need someone's advice ..please?

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I need someone's advice ..please?
So this guy that i was seeing got me pregnant and we already discussed about me getting the abortion, he said he'd be there to take care of me because i was taking medical pill abortion option. so i would go through pain like a miscarriag,. he hasn't been there for me and has been ignoring my phone calls...first excuse was that he got a DUI so he has to do community service, pay 5 grand and then he calls me later and tells me to call him tommorow and that he will be there to come hang out with me and take care of me. So i call him and he doesnnt pick up and never calls me back........he seems nervous lately.
he owes me half of the money that i paid for the abortion. which is only 300 . he said he'd pay me back. i figured it's not a big deal since hes quite wealthy.
I DON'T know what is wrong with him though.
what should i do?
did he just like freak out all of the sudden?

THANK YOU
for reading this.

Answer 1

Why do you still bother on calling this guy? If he wasnt man enough to take kare of a resposibility, what makes you think he is man enough to care? Dont even bother and i hope you dont go back with him.... If he is wealthy, he should have paid for the whole abortion, period, who got you pregnat in the first place? Trojans, $2.99... Abortion... $300, Not man enough to be there for you.... It's priceless.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you're in a situation like this. It is clear that he does not care about you. If he did he would find some way to help you when you need him the most. He thinks that b/c you got an abortion, you are no longer his responsibility...he's off the hook. If I were you I would threaten to tell all his friends and his parents if he doesn't pay back his part of the money...once you're paid back be done with him...but I would warn every girl you know about this loser so they don't end up in the same situation. Good luck girl!

Answer 3

Well if you are serious about having a baby, dont take abortion. You have to make up your mind soon. I wish you luck on that. He might have just got you for booty call. Sorry to say it, but guys are freekin jerks. He might be busy, but from what it seems, its over between yall. He might have gotten scared. I mean he has a right to, but hes not ganna be there for you like he said, and hes a loser. You have the option,
Honey, he is not worth your time or effort. If he wasn't there for you and isn't there for you now, why bother with him?
ignore him. Move on. Do what you need to do for you.
But time is precious, and you shouldn't waste anymore on him since he doesn't have the time to be responsible.
And the fact that he is getting in trouble so much should also tell you what kind of person he is. Do you really want to spend any more time thinking about someone like him?
Take care of yourself. Sometimes, having an abortion can have emotional consequences, so focus on you!

Answer 4

Question 1: How old are you? Question 2: How old is he? I'm not being nosy, but the answer will help further answers for your delimma. The reason he's acting this way could be different reasons. One could be that he's not emotionally old enought to be there for you and to fully grasp what's going on. Remember women naturally mature befroe men. Another reason is that he does grasp the reality of the situation and he's avoiding you on purpose. The last reason that I can think of is that he does grasp the reality and he's stuggelling with it. Aborting his child and seeing you go through the pain of it. This is a big deal, remember that. Try to get to the bottom of it. It's easier for most men to be open over the phone, so try that. Good luck with this. You have to realize that he might not be there for you and thatyou have to do this and other tough things in life by yourself. Try to be independant and if he's there, good, if not, you're independant enough to handle this on your own.

Answer 5

Honey, he is not worth your time or effort. If he wasn't there for you and isn't there for you now, why bother with him?

Ignore him. Move on. Do what you need to do for you.

But time is precious, and you shouldn't waste anymore on him since he doesn't have the time to be responsible.

And the fact that he is getting in trouble so much should also tell you what kind of person he is. Do you really want to spend any more time thinking about someone like him?

Take care of yourself. Sometimes, having an abortion can have emotional consequences, so focus on you!

Answer 6

I think hes trying to get out of the whole situation..Now that he knows you have the medication and are serious about terminating your pregnancy he is a free man..no baby..no woman..nothing so what does he have to lose?? Maybe he was so worried about becoming a father if you wanted to keep the baby that he doesn't want to put himself in that situation if he can help it..I would say screw him!! No guy is worth it if they can't step up to the plate and take responsibility!! You can do better..as for the excuses I am pretty sure they were his lame way of avoiding you and seeing the pain you may be encountering!! Good luck and don't worry~

Answer 7

This has been a lesson well learned for you. Learn from your mistakes and move on. He seems to be extremely insecure and not really worth the effort to try to figure him out.
Tomorrow is a new day and make the best of it. Live for yourself and look for someone who cares.

Answer 8

aww.. sweetie I am sorry.. it sounds like he is dodging you for whatever reason.. what a jerk!!! I think you should chalk up the $300 and just forget about him.. it sounds like he is pretty un responsible, and I think you need to rid yourself of him.. If the money is really important, go to his parents in a mature manner. Write them a letter, or call them and explain your situation. Im sure they will give you the $...

Answer 9

I agree with Chad and Brit. If you are going to keep the kid, great...if not great. Their are some pigs who only want to hide their sausage, sure they are fun. But you deserve a prince. Drop him and find the one you deserve, stop at nothing until you get it.

Answer 10

This guy is a user and a loser. The sooner you dump him, the better off you'll be. Forget the $300.00 it's a cheap lesson.