He never used to do this to me ,Ive done a lot of bad things to him in the past but this is getting out of hand,Ive had enough,he beat me up a couple of hours ago and the cops came, he took off,he hit me very hard.I dint press charges on him,the cop asked me why, he was very upset at me for not doing so ,and now that I think about it so am I ,I feel sorry for him though he wasnt like that before he was on drugs,what should I do ?I dont want to hurt him but I think I need to press charges Im very hurt right now Phisicly thatis1
2006-11-29 04:44:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you keep caling the cops and not pressing charges they will ..with you...a real man never ever hits his lady or children..one day it might go to far and you will be in a casket..
2006-11-29 04:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before he kills you. Call the police and press charges. If he hurt you to the point where you need medical attention, if you press charges he has to pay your medical expenses. If you don't, you're on your own. That's just a side tid bit to the more important issue, by the way. It starts with a slap, then some bruises, next comes a broken bone, and you have let him get away with it, so now he thinks he can. I speak from personal experience. I left by the way. Please leave and press charges right now. Take care.
2006-11-29 04:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, this is just not right...The only reason why your "boyfriend" or "ex" beats you up is because you allow him to do so. So, why do you think it is okay for your boyfriend to hit you??? Once is enough to send a person walking out of the door, so why do you keep on tolerating it???
Yes, you need to press charges and if I were you I would also get a restraining order, this guy needs help. You might need some counseling too, to help you get over the trauma of having an abusive boyfriend and to help you not to repeat the same mistakes again.
I wish you the best, I really do.
2006-11-29 04:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by luv 4 dogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to press charges on him and get a retraining order.I have been in this situation.Matter a fact almost identical, and if you stick around waiting for him to get off the drugs then you could end up dead!If he really loves you then he is the one who needs to make the effort.In the mean time being separated is the best thing for your safety.Remember this...he is not himself right now... and all drug users are unaware of their actions until it is to late! Better safe than sorry.God bless and I hope you do the right thing.
2006-11-29 05:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, tell them you changed your mind. Press charges- I am surprised the state where you live isn't pressing charges. They do that because women like you are afraid to press charges.
All I can say is pity will not help you or your boyfriend. Be strong, and know you are worth having a relationship that does not involve violence.
2006-11-29 04:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did say ex-boyfriend... why are you having anything to do with him??? You can't fix him or help him by letting him continue this behaviour and not taking the punishment for the crime......
H e keeps getting away with it, why wouldn't he continue after this??? You need to call him on this and call the station and file a complaint and have him charged... also ....get a peace bond issued, so he can't come near you. You have taught him how he "CAN" treat you.. you have let sympathy for him get in the way of your own common sense... You need to go and see a professional for counselling and get back on your feet emotionally. This is degrading and so hurtful to your spirit... You do not deserve to be hit... it doesn't matter what you have done in the past... You deserve to be safe.. You need to start respecting yourself... Get back to church and find your inner spirit and power.... and move into a new way of life with peace and happiness.
2006-11-29 04:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRESS CHARGES!! Get a restraining order. Stay as far away from him as possible. I was a human punching bag to a man for years. It only happened when he was drunk and he said he was SO Sorry the next day. He also said he didn't remember hitting me.He Loved Me? BULL!! He had me against the wall ,off my feet choking me to death when someone came in and stopped him.The memories of that alone give me nightmares. RUN don't walk away from him. There are alot of wonderful men out there.
2006-11-29 04:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to press charges, if you really love him you need to take the tough love approach. He needs to be accountable for his actions. He will not stop if he is not held accountable. Next time you may end up dead. Please honey, press charges. He can not and will not get the help he needs if you dont force is hand. If you really love him. Make him get help. Make him realize life cant go on like this. It is in your best interest as well as his. Dont hesitate. Do it now.
2006-11-29 04:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever let him do that agian, press charges and break up with him. Dont feel sorry for him, and dont blame it on the drugs the drugs are not the one that punched you. You need to get rid of that loser asap. call the cops and then get him out of your life!
2006-11-29 04:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Press charges.
2. Walk away from him forever. He will never change. It will always be your fault and never his. And apparently you’ve already started to buy into that psychosis. Keep buying into it and soon or later your family will be buying your coffin.
3. Seek counseling to discover why you have such low self esteem that you think you should feel sorry for someone who beat you up. That, my dear, is not normal. You should hate/loathe/fear a person who hurts you, not defend him. If you have any emotions other than hatred or fear, you need counseling to discover why you feel that way and for the future: to learn to stop choosing such horrible men for boyfriends.
2006-11-29 04:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋