I have been friends with the people I rent my house from for about 3 years. They are like family to me. Well, their nephew moved in about 6 months ago after going through a nasty divorce, so I felt really bad for him and decided to be his friend. I have always been there for him and we hung out regularly. We got to be pretty close friends and then he said I was his best friend. Here lately he has been getting pretty possesive of me and getting mad if I don't hang out with me. He texts me about 20 times a day and wants me to call him all the time. I told him that I felt smothered and overwhelmed and to chill out, but he didn't listen. On Saturday night he kept calling me and I didn't answer, so the next morning I had 9 voice mails on my phone. They were really creepy and obsessive like messages. So, on Sunday I went over to his house and explained that I thought that was wierd and now he is mad at me and is being malicious...
2006-11-29 04:39:03 · 5 answers · asked by hbunch11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
now he is telling my friends that I have been saying things about him. He keeps calling and asking for things he gave to me back. Now one of my other friends said she didn't want to take sides and this was all childish, but I have been civil about this whole thing. I just choose to not answer his phone calls and I am the bad guy, so it seems. I didn't want our friendship to be ruined because I asked for space, but I am not sure what to do. I don't think I did anything wrong by asking for space.
2006-11-29 04:42:59 · update #1
Do what you have to do. Maintain respect for all that are involved and stay on the path that you know is right.
2006-11-29 04:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by First L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend has feelings for you and was hoping that the friendship would evolve into something else but is upset that it has not. Let him know that he has to get over his anger if he wants to continue the friendship. This sounds like there are some codependancy issues going on as well, especially since he has recently been divorced. I wouldn't say stop being friends with him b/c it sounds like he may need you for emotional support. For now just pray for him and keep your distance, so he has time to put everything into perspective as far as the friendship. He will come around
2006-11-29 04:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by freida1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block his number from your phone. You've explained everything to him. He just needs to understand that you are serious. Good luck!
2006-11-29 04:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and strop pittying yourself. Apparently your friend is loney and needs someone in his life right now!
2006-11-29 04:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jack Knauf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him hes gagin you
2006-11-29 04:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by malcolm_crpntr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋