My boyfriend only has sex with me less then once a week. I seem to never be able to get him in the mood. When he gets home from work he falls asleep. I try putting on londray and kiss him on the neck but he rolls over and goes back to sleep. What could I do to get him to want to have sex with me more?
2006-11-29 04:37:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This same thing happened to me. It went on for about two months then one day I got really upset and asked him if he was still attracted to me (because, obviously, I felt like he wasn't). He was really surprised that I asked him that. Turns out he'd just been tired, sick, etc and felt like we were at a point in our relationship where sex wasn't the most important thing. Since I talked to him the sex is wonderful and regular. So my point is: talk to him. Ask him why he never seems to be in the mood. Good luck!
2006-11-29 04:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try subtle attempts at seduction, but when he's home or home early. Book an early date with him, cook a nice dinner, etc. Set the right atmosphere so that even if he is tired he just can't let the opportunity pass. Be irresistable.
If that doesn't work, talk to him. Men are a lot more sensitive than they let on. He could even be thinking that YOU might be too tired and doesn't want to pressure you.
If all else fails, hump on even if he's half asleep. The little head has a mind of its own. That sort of 'control' sex is exciting for change.
2006-11-29 12:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange that a guy would turn down sex so often.
Is he on drugs? (I'm asking this seriously)
I only ask that, because of his "exhaustion".... very strange.
It's a possibility that he's just not into sex as much as you are.
My suggestion would be to talk to him about it. I would ask him "what can I do" to turn you on more? What can I do, to make sex more desirable to you. Obviously, take note of his answers...and then only do the things that you're comfortable with. (he may ask for a 3 some...and that's just not healthy, and you might not want that).
It's very important to communicate your needs to him, and find out what his needs are.
Good luck
2006-11-29 12:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, sweetie.
Perhaps he's having problems with something at work, or elsewhere, that's interfering with his ability to relax when home.
Don't be judgemental.....hear him out, without suggesting ways to solve it. If he asks for your help, fine....offer. But don't force the issue. That can push him away from you in the long run (men think they are the problem solvers, and hate being told....even if you don't say it outright....that they need help). Simply offer your understanding and love, and it will probably work right on out.
Good luck , Sweetie!!
2006-11-29 12:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Critter Lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to try to be alittle creative and you can decide for yourself what that means to you. if that doesnt work maybe you need to talk about it with him and do it in a very delicate way. men have egos that are very sensitive! let him know how attractive he is and that you just cant get enough of him. tell him how he drives you crazy with desire. let him know that you need him more but not in a critical way. then give him alittle time and start coming on to him more. hopefully that works, if not maybe there is some underlying issue he is dealing with.
2006-11-29 12:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men like sex in the morning.... You can try waking him up with a little rubbing action....
Good luck
2006-11-29 12:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sleep naked. when he's watching t.v. give him a ********. he must be very tired ..work can be tiring & want to just come home and sleep or if he shows no interest in you, he's with another person, but not really, i don't have sex with my hubby and i'm not with no other person.
2006-11-29 12:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a relationship, I honestly don't think you should be asking anyone on here. You should be comfrotable talking to him about those things, and my sugestion if you're not, is to think about what you're going to say to him, and then say it. You should be able to talk to him, and get an answer. Goodluck.
2006-11-29 12:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by c a t c h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to him. Communcation is the key. Don't have an additiude though when you mention it. My man likes it in the morning...So try it then
2006-11-29 13:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key!
2006-11-29 12:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋