2006-11-29 04:16:52 · 14 answers · asked by lwag 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a parent to my son, although he is my partners biological son.
I love him like my own son and have brought him up since a he was 1 and a half. He is now 4 and a half.
My parents dad suddenly has got annoyed at this. The fact that im his other parent.
He had a big shout out at me.
now im left feeling a upset as, all i have done is good for his granson.
2006-11-29 04:35:53 · update #1
You love your partner and you love your son. I know you care about what the grandparents say, but hey, this right here, right now, is your life. Their shot at life was during their time, do what makes you happy and complete. Love your kid and help him have a great childhood. He may have some crazy kids make fun at him in school, but when he grows older and mature, he will thank you for being the mom that you are. Just be yourself and show as much love a parent can.
2006-11-29 05:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was in college I was a nanny for a little girl who had a Mommy and a Momma! I don't think there is anything wrong with it, as long as the parents do give the child some exposure to men in a positive way. The little girl I was a nanny for spent a lot of time with her grandpa and her best friend was a boy in her preschool, so I'm sure she'll be fine. I did feel a little sad when she would ask about my dad, but I would just tell her that everyone's family is different, some people just have one mom, or just one dad, or two moms or two dads! She lives in a pretty liberal area so I don't think she will be harassed much when kids at school realize that her moms are lesbians. The only thing that weirded me out about her family is how one mom was really controlling and nasty to the other one. I thought that two women in a relationship would likely want to be more equal with eachother, but not these two. The birth mom worked long hours and made all the money, yet was very submissive and controlled by the other mom. I felt really bad for her. But the kid was fine!!
2006-11-29 18:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Julia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it bother you. It is their problem not yours if they cannot cope with the situation. Congratulations on being a parent. I am one too and it is not an easy task. Fortunately my son is now 32 years old and he loves his gay dad to bits. It sounds as if you and your partner are providing a loving family environment for your son so keep up the good work and don't let others upset you. It's a pity more kids don't have loving parents like you.
2006-11-29 13:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No big deal, parents are parents. Thats better than a child growing up in an abusive home or on the streets, providing the parents are good people.
So.....no big deal. I don't think two Lez parents could have raised me I see how much I depend on my dad but thats my life and thats got nothing to do with today so I say go for it.
2006-11-29 12:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the grandparents reaction is just one more opinion. the chances are that the kid will be brought up in a tolerating environment and will form the next new generation of laid back folk who care more about pollution etc than something as unimportant as sexual orientation.
i take my tea with milk and two sugars, anybody want to form an opinion about this i wonder? lol. it's just a persuasion/preference at the end of the day, and there's good and bad in virtually everyone regardless of orientation.
all we need is love.
2006-11-29 12:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by swot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mum is a lesbian with a great partner, ive been brought up for 21 years with no problems. being lesbian or straight has nothing to do with parenting skills. after all gays r ppl too.
2006-11-29 15:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think lesbian parents are ok. As long as they care for the kids, and give them the love and support the need.
2006-11-29 12:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey this life you chose wasn't going to be approved by everyone you knew and you still chose.
So stuff this wimpy attitude. Just be a good parent.
2006-11-29 13:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what about us?
Oh, and that idiot who says it's biologically impossible: Let's not have to rehash this argument again shall we?
Everyone knows two of the same gender cannot become parents without outside assistance, this is a known fact.
BUT it does not mean that one partner cannot biologically become a parent WITH outside assistance. DUH!
I'm the BIOLOGICAL parent of my SEVENTEEN YEAR OLD SON! My partner is the PSYCHOLOGICAL PARENT!
We're still BOTH parents, regardless of biology.
2006-11-29 12:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Wayyyyyyy too many unfit straight parents......Lesbians would make wonderful mothers.....I wish I had Lesbian parents...mine were abusive and total alcoholics....life sucked as a child =(
2006-11-29 12:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋