I think alot of ladies say that they would love a man secure enough to let his wife's career take the lead but it seems that many of these relationships fall apart. From my expierence it is that the wife stops respecting the husband. When he protests feeling emasculated he is being sensitive and insecure but if he bears it in silence he is seen as passive. Do you guys think that this is why some men try to not let thier wives careers supass thier own? It seems as if the husband is now in "competition" with his professional wife for her respect. Is this right? Is this happening? is it normal?
2006-11-29 04:02:26 · 9 answers · asked by Magnus01 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why should women have the option to decide not to be a *significant* provider in the relationship?
Most men have a Taliban style demand that they WILL provide or spend the rest of thier lives single and disgraced.
Is it equitable to give women a choice when men often have no choice or his level is work is determined by what his wife is willing to do. If she decides that she no longer wants to work and he can't support her he is a loser. If she wants to take 3 years off to write a book and he needs her income to support the household he is weak. What would be fair. Should society force ALL wives to provide for thier families like men. Society already forces men to do it so it's not that big of a stretch? What are your thoughts?
2006-11-29 08:26:46 · update #1
I think it's fine. If someone makes enough money to support the family, I think it's important to have a rock at home. Children do better with the stability and it seems the family home in general runs much smoother with one person at home. If the man in the family wants to be that rock, i think its great. I respect men and women who realize the importance of that job.
Unfortunately, it takes two incomes to support a family now. It's a very lucky family that can afford to have one parent at home.
2006-11-29 04:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by tarita 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am speaking on behalf of my husband who stays home while I go outside of the house and make the money. I have all the respect for him because I know how hard his job is taking care of the house and the kids. You need to realize that it's not for everyone. Some men have a problem with their own selves and think they should make more money. I prefer for my man not to work and we have the best relationship. It wasn't our choice in the beginning, but it's the choice we have chosen since and it works great for both of us. He isn't at all upset because he isn't bringing in the money. He knows what he does is very important and shapes who our kids are. I am grateful for him and lucky to be able to provide for our whole family. Thank you.
2006-11-29 04:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know. I never aspired to be a provider; I have a job that I enjoy, but I'm not a "career woman" by any means, and don't have a strong desire to bust my a** day and night to make enough money to support the whole family. I'm quite content to leave this to my husband.
2006-11-29 04:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hit the nail on the head. seems like a no win for man any longer. the women are doing every thing they dont want the man to be doing. get what i am say n?
2006-11-29 04:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We did it for awhile until we moved. I loved it. It was very empowering to me which I used in the bedroom as well and it was probably the best time in our relationship. Its nice to know..a man can actually pour a bowl of cereal or cook for a change!
2006-11-29 04:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
we did it for a while until we moved out of town. i was not okay with it though because i felt like it should have been me at home with the kids. but my husband was more successful then me, he just could afford to stay at home. we did not have a problem with though
2006-11-29 04:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a man that stays home and lets his wife work to support his lazy dumb a s s is a wuss.
2006-11-29 04:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmm I thnik it depends..
2006-11-29 04:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO!
2006-11-29 04:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkle 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋