2006-11-29 03:54:04 · 12 answers · asked by runzwsizorz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
once a cheater always a cheater, why try to make it work?
2006-11-29 03:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wife was out of town for work and met up with an ex-boyfriend. As soon as she returned home, I sensed something was off. When I questioned her, she admitted to cheating. Went through the usual hurt, anger, pity, etc. range of motions. The thing is that when I stopped to look at the situation, it was an unusual circumstance that I don't feel will occur again. More importantly, I can honestly say that my wife is the one and only person with whom I have ever been in love, and was not ready to roll the dice on finding another 'once-in-a-lifetime' love. We have talked about the transgression, our lives, our marriage, and the people that each of us are. As a result, we are now closer than we have ever been in our marriage. More affectionate than we were even during dating. It struck me how incredible this turn of events was the other night when we were holding each other before falling asleep and my wufe said "you are awesome, I have never been this happy in my life." We've both been through divorces, know what a failed marriage feels like, and both feel that we are the one person in the world that the other was meant to be with.
2006-11-29 04:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Devoted Husband 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and my wife cheated on me and we are trying to make it work. My story goes even deeper because she is pregnant, most likely through the affair. Why have I decided to come back and try to work through this? Becuase I feel that there is still love there. I do not condone what has happen, but sometimes people really mess up and if you see the sorrows in her eyes and see that they are really apoligetic for what happen, then it is a personal chioce weather you want to continue your life with them. Yes trust is broken, but you need to decide if its worth trying to save.
2006-11-29 04:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by cheeks230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to define cheating a little. If you are not getting any sex at home, for a myriad of reasons, but you both still like each other and want to grow old together, is getting some on the side so bad. Prostitutes have said for millenia that they have saved more marriages than any number of marriage counselors. Also, some one about 2000 years ago said something about unconditional love. You are putting conditions on it.
2006-11-29 04:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why I try because every where i look there are lies she Say's let's try so I will. I will continue to try till the day i die and when that time comes its will seem to fly by to her she will know ..Because then i will have no choice but to go death till we part is how are vowels went so to be honest all my emotions are spent Trying to make this work but when you been abandoned and used ... you do what you can to make her happy but in the end she will be lonely just like me all that will be left is her and her conscience and how I cried and that she could never say that i didn't try I try because i love my wife with my heart and soul but to the world i look like a fool yes come to the Christmas party and look like a fool they don't know that you know so just be cool I won't go to the party I just cant be that type of person but i will try till the day i die to forgive and be the better person ...
2006-11-29 04:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married, but have been with this man for 9 years.. I was having problems with perimenopause and yelling and screaming a lot.. I was a witch... Just found out he visited a massage parlor complete with happy ending and has been on the internet at his work with porn sites and dating services... Swears its over.. I have problems with forgiveness right now... NEVER ever would have expected this.. Tolerated low testosterone problems in the past and never thought of cheating myself.. He said it was a mistake and will never happen again.. I have trust issues.. He is wonderful with my children and was generally a very stable person.,.. Help!!!
2006-11-29 04:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Its me!!! :) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I firmly believe that I do NOT deserve to have someone cheat on me. I don't nag, I do housework, love sex, love sports, and let a man hang out with his friends.
If he takes that freedom, though, and screws someone else, he's not even worth my time.
Any woman who has been cheated on doesn't deserve it, and neither does any man who has had a woman cheat on him. People who love each other, and I mean TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER, do NOT cheat. Period.
2006-11-29 04:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a single "once" cheating event is forgivable and not
worth dissolving the marriage over..
2006-11-29 03:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is a "deal breaker" for me. I would never trust him again and would be devastated that he chose to hurt and betray me.
2006-11-29 04:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married. My husband committed adultery 11yrs ago with a younger, thinner woman. I forgave him because Jesus forgave me long ago. It was difficult. But, HE, Jesus had committed no sin, I was not even born, I deserved to be punished. But, HE forgave me.
No, I am not Jesus. I just try to follow HIS lead.
May God continue to bless you.
2006-11-29 07:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by tamaralhill3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋