Husband keeps threatening me to make me love him but I don't love him anymore. He threatens to kill me if I don't tell him or change my lifestyle thinks I'm cheating on him consistently.
2006-11-29 03:29:11 · 13 answers · asked by csdqop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seek help from a women's group. They can help you leave him safely, without endangering the children.
2006-11-29 03:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Uncommon Sense 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, so he is an abusive, control freak. You should call a lawyer and discuss the divorce process. Call the police and have this guy removed and a restraining order enforced. Next time your husband says he will do something bad to you, just tell him that if he says another threatening word to you, you cut his b@lls off in the middle of the night. The main point here is to not let yourself become a victim. You've got to take control and go on the offensive. There are local agencies that can help you.
2006-11-29 11:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah the ol' I Love You don't leave or I'll kill you routine. Makes a whole lotta sense. Well as soon as you can, pack up you and your 3 kids and when hes not there LEAVE!!!!! like when hes at work pack away the stuff he wont notice, bring over some of you Friends and have them help. Make yourself happy, GET OUT. File for an order of protection because of the threats and file for a divorce ASAP !!
2006-11-29 11:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by hell_bent_grumpy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont love him then the relationship isnt really good for either one of you. i would be very careful with what you say to him as he sounds unstable. I would exit the marriage quietly for your safety and file for a restraining order asap! the cheating issue is probably whats pushing him over the edge emotionally. whether or not its happening in reality he feels it is in his mind. If you are truely out of love with him then both of you are better off apart. One day he will realize that by ending the marriage you also did him a favor. Things like this take time and lots of patience to get through. Think through every decision you make very carefully before you do it and get emotional support for you and your kids.
2006-11-29 11:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you are in the midst of an extremely abusive relationship. Please contact your local womens shelter and speak to a counselor so you can start making a plan to leave. Please do this for yourself and any children you have. A woman is at her most vulnerable when leaving an abusive relationship. A lot of men will then claim to get help, change, learned their lesson, miss you SOOOOOOO much, will do anything and if you go back, will have a "honeymoon" and revert right back to their old ways and usually escalate their abusive behavior! Please, please, do this asap, it is imperative you protect yourself and your children. But talking with a counselor can help to advise you of help thats available, securing documents before leaving, assets and so on. If he is physically abusing you, please don't wait, leave and file a restraining order. Just get help. I hope this helps you. Good luck!
2006-11-29 11:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to contact the domestic abuse hot line to get help on getting away from his safely. Because he should know by now that you can't make someone love you. It just doesn't work like that.
2006-11-29 11:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to your local courthouse, file for a protective order, and then find a lawyer and file for divorce. You nor your kids deserve this kind of treatment!
2006-11-29 11:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do whats best for you. If you dont think things will change, take the kids and leave,or file 4 a divorce ,and make him go.do whats best for you . good luck!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-29 11:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For kids u have to live like tht or get divorce.!
2006-11-29 11:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GET OUT I HAVE 3 KIDS AND I LEFT MY EX-HUSBAND AFTER 13 YEARS YEA IT'S HARD BUT NOT ONLY DID I FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF BUT MY KIDS WERE HAPPIER TOO.
2006-11-29 11:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by shannon c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋