I'm lost...I have no passion, no drive for life. I constantly question my purpose, I feel useless, any takers

Question

In my younger years, I had the drive and the motivation exemplary of a successful young woman. However now my inspiration, my drive, everything has been shattered. I have no desire to do anything. I'm completey immobile. What's my passion you ask?...I have none. I constantly cry myself to sleep because I can't tell you why I don't want to work hard or be anything useful. I just end up sitting and watching my life fall apart. My friendship, my work...it's all slipping, and I feel like I can only watch from afar. There's nothing that I can say or do to change things. I'm afraid of being a failure and so I don't try at all. It's this perpetual cycle of demise and destruction. Where do I go and what do I do...more than anything right now I need a sign from God.

Answer 1

Try Paxil.

It's a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor, prescribed by a doctor.

Serotonin is the chemical your brain naturally produces that makes you feel calm, happy and okay. If your brain gobbles it back up too fast, instead of letting it float around in there for longer, you'll feel exactly what you're feeling: depressed, no motivation, crying, feeling like theres no reason to be alive or do anything at all. Paxil makes your brain NOT gobble it back up so fast, so more of it floats around in your brain for longer. When that happens, the weight you're carrying on your shoulders goes away. The clouds clear. You feel "normal" again, like you did before.

Please talk to your doctor about this. You shouldn't have to suffer like this when one little pill a day could make everything feel right again. Depression is a physical illness of the brain, and it's easy to fix.

If Paxil doesn't work, try the other antidepressants until you find the one that works for your particular brain chemistry.

Answer 2

The symptoms your describing sound to me like the onslaught of depression, but there can be other medical problems
My honest advice, would be to visit your GP.
There is no shame in admitting one has depression, for five out of ten adults have suffered from what Winston Churchill called his "Black dog" days, and that is only those brave people who have admitted having depression, not to mention the many people who slog on in silence.
There, can be many causes of depression, some by stressful experiences (Bullying at work, berievement, lonelyness, financial worries etc etc) sometimes an underlining health problem or poor diet can agrevate the situation.
I can say that there is light at the end of this tunnel, so taking life day by day is the first step.
At the moment you are probably feeling very vunerable, so I would be careful not to plunge your self into any religion, for the sake of support, since it is probable that one can suffer even more disullsion, if the faith group do not reach your needs.
The old Hippy ideal of "learning to love thyself" might sound patronising now, yet to me, is one of many steps I took when times grew dark.
Have you ever thought of Yoga, there are many Yoga classes run around the country. It can be a means of relaxation and friendly support.
Some kind of sport (Cycling) can be very good in the fight against depression, for exercise and meeting other people in a none competive enviroment, can build up confidence and restore self estem. There are many more support groups than I can mention but one that might be useful is MIND, I'm sure they must have a website, where you could find help, in someone to talk to.
The simple fig (fresh or dried) most interesting ingrediant is Serotonin, a natural found chemical that stablises the emotions of the mind.
When Buddha sat under the Bodi tree and attained enlightenment, he ate the trees fruit, which happened to be a fig.
I hope for you, all the best and believe me, you can defeat our own shadows with help, so please find it and don't suffer alone.

Answer 3

I would like to begin that I know exactly what you are talking about....each day is exactly like the previous day, waking up some mornings unable to find a reason to even rise out of the bed, your mind reaching out for even the slightest shred of a direction but unable to take a grip of anything. I am 26 years old and as long as I have been alive I have had little ambition or interest in the personal gains and pursuits that most people seem to have, there were many times I felt just as you do just utterly and completely lost. Your stuck in a downward spiral and as impossible as it may seem to you there is a way out, while I dont share many of your commentors suggestions of failing into another downward spiral of prescription pharmacuticuals that in the end do little next to nothing to actually resolve the problem I do think that perhaps you should speak to someone. That person does not need be a doctor but it would be best that whoever you choose it be someone you feel comfortable with, someone you can connect with and share your pain because honestly I think thats what you need most the connection, from there it is simplest but not always so simple to organize each point of trouble into a list in a order you are most comfortable with then to takeon each hurdle by itself. This may not be a quick fix but I dont think you need one of those, you need a starting point to begin again. This response may not be the answer you were looking for nor may many people agree with me but it is my hope that in some way or form offered you at least the smallest bit of relief

P.s If you would like someone to talk to from time to time I would gladly offer my ear for whatever thats worth

My email: [e-mail] I am also on msn messenger

Answer 4

I do understand you. I know how it feels. It is depression.
Don't worry, it is curable. I suffered from depression as well, felt like nothing would ever change ... the only thing I was able to do was sleep , sleep , sleep or stare at the ceiling. But it is just a temporary state. You will get better, just go to your doctor and tell him/her all things that trouble you. It may take some time before you will feel a difference, but you must give it a try...

Take care

Answer 5

Deep depression. Every which way you turn seems to be the wrong way. I guess it's just best to stay put and wait for an opportunity to happen and seize the moment. Just remember life is like a roller coaster. You have to take the ups as well as the downs in stride. Right now you are on the downward ride, soon enough, you'll be on the upward ride again. Then back down again. And then back up again.

Answer 6

Although I understand your hope that God will give you a sign that your life will improve, I think that it's important that you first realise that you need a sign from within yourself more importantly. I'm not religious myself but I think that my own idea of God is that he will be there for you when you find the courage from within yourself to say "I am here and I will enjoy my life"; God is there for us all when we need him, but I think he understands that we need to help ourselves first. Go out and do something unusual for you maybe just get a new hair style or volunteer to walk dogs at the local shelter, volunteer in a charity shop for a day and don't forget that you arn't lost just slightly off course. Take some comfort in that fact that while I was writing this and contemplating God, it helped me realise that he must be around us. So you have already had a significant impact on my life today, just think what you can do tomorrow! Best of luck and enjoy yourself x

Answer 7

I had this same problem after a friend of mine died, and it turned out that I was suffering from clinical depression; I couldn't see a purpose, I didn't want to eat, I couldn't sleep without a sleep aid. I went to see a psychiatrist (something I had told myself I could never do previously) at the request of a few worried friends. It was a fantastic decision. Just being able to talk about thing or nothing at all to someone who just listens to you can be so helpful. You may figure out why you feel the way you do, or be able to figure out what it is that you want out of life.

Answer 8

depression.
it is something we all go through, it is the nature of our existence on earth.
Something bad happened to you, and has left you questioning your own existence.
you are wrong when you say that nothing you can say or do will change things. the only way things change is if they are pushed in a direction.
Well here is a push.
INSTEAD OF SPREADING YOUR MISERY TO OTHERS WHY DON'T YOU LEARN FROM THE PAIN?
NOW YOU KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO FEEL WORTHLESS WHY DON'T YOU HELP OTHERS TO NOT FEEL THE SAME WAY?
you have a lot of power to help or hurt other people.
every interaction you have with another person ends negatively or positively.
there is no failure when you have done your best.
good luck, and email me if you have more questions.

Answer 9

I felt like that last year, each day was the same with nothing to look forward to, when my friends or family rang I would pretend that everything was alright, I didn't want them to see me as someone who needed help, in fact I wasn't sure that they would give me any. Then I found a wonderful Church, with wonderful people in it, myself and my two children decided to give our lives to Christ, and as a family we haven't looked back, but on a personal level yes you are depressed I can say that because I know how you feel, but he says in his word when you are weak I am strong, He is carrying you right now, His arms are wrapped around you and shielding you from all the blows life wants you to feel, take comfort in him and in his word. You will get through this I and everyone who is a christian, that is reading this will keep you in our prays until you come out at the other end of the tunnel, stay blessed

Answer 10

What you need is a Doctor. It sounds like you are suffering from a deep depression. God does work through Doctors, believe it or not. Many deeply religious people don't believe that, but many more people do believe that. When any single negative thought come to your mind, turn it completely around. Best to you.