Annoyed at work?

Question

I find myself easily annoyed by people at work, and I have been written up for it in the past. I need suggestions on how to not be so annoyed when faced with people not using common sense, or miscommunications, or repeat e mails on the same issues. I try to do good everyday, but I inevitiably come off sounding annoyed and quite frankly "bitchy" Does anyone have anything that I can do to help??

Answer 1

Amen Sista...

I have left more jobs in the past rather than come across as "Bitchy" for all of the above reasons... until I realized... People generally know "what" they do when they do it to you, and there is usually a "why" not too far off behind it. You sound like I used to be and certain kinds of people like to feed and feast off that kind of energy, taking you from a strong, secure intelligent women, reduced in one failed swoop to being the office bit*ch...

That is not fair, but the way to counter it, is to always know a thing when you see it. If someone is trying to goad out your worst character traits... it's them being smart by being stupid. Try being smarter by seeing it and countering it by giving them no response what so ever.

The workplace is basically a well organized kindergarten class...

Watch and observe children and you'll see things from a more innocent and obvious frame of reference. It is essentially the same thing. People are turds! That's why I don't work... It gets the best of all of us eventually.

The only solution... is to yank out your own buttons, giving them nothing what so ever to push!

Good luck sweetie! I feel for you and relate completely!

I have a little pokket type book for you to run out and buy that will help you immensly!

It is called "The Art of Worldly Wisdom." It is by a Gregorian Monk by the name of Balthsar Gracian. You can get it at Borders... Read it, and in it's pages learn the how's and the why's and maybe even learn a thing or two about yourself and your own condition in the process... It is the best gift you will ever buy yourself! and will function as a distraction away from the idiots!

Happy Holidays!

Answer 2

well, this is when great acting skills come into play. you will really have to up it a few notches and "act" cheery & happy. it becomes almost like an acting job. i suggest this sort of a stance on the whole thing because you are annoyed & if you see it as putting on an act, then it will be easier to do.

also, you have to learn to appologize in a sincere-sounding way-- even if you don't mean it. applogizing for mis-communication and any other sort of problem can make a huge difference. you also have to watch your facial gestures and your breathing. all of this can show signs of being bitchy.

you also have to think before you speak. learning to bite your tongue and also rephrasing words can be really helpful.

i would actually suggest asking a co-worker or boss for more specific ways you show such behaviors-- if you feel comfortable. they will be impressed by the fact that you do really care & want to work on your skills. in addition, they can help point out specific things that you may be unaware of.

smiling helps a lot-- even when you get annoyed. it is all about hiding your annoyance because you ARE going to be annoyed. its just life!

Answer 3

I get annoyed as well most of the time but not to the point of being written up.

Don't let them get the best of you. Don't take it so seriously. My attitude is 'it's just a job'. I'm thankful for it but the job is not my life. I'm only there to keep gas in the car, the mortgage paid and food in my belly. :-D

If need be, think about things that you'd like to strive for or save up for - a promotion or a career change to a new company. Look at this current position as the stepping stone giving you experience to something better. Or think about a vacation you'd like to take and how your paycheck will fund it.

If its okay at your job - bring music and listen to it throughout the day to ease your mind. If you can use headphones - that's even better.

Just don't keep getting written up. Work on the attitude and think about things that make you happy. Put yout game face on. I know its hard - but it has to be done.

Answer 4

I hear ya!! And I found out the best way to deal with it was to leave...find a job where I wasn't surrounded by morons or lazy people. If you're bitching, it's because you are unhappy and caught between those that are causing you problems and those that won't help you with the problems but think you have a problem. It's a no-win situation. You are obviously intelligent and don't need those energy vampires sucking you dry. Find a job where you are appreciated and can work with other intelligent people, a place where you can be the person you want to be...a person with dignity, calm energy, and excellent skills.

One other thing....how is the rest of your life going? If you have issues outside of the job that could be causing you to lose patience at work, you will need to get those straightened out before you can solve your work problems. Some people bring their work home with them...others bring their home with them to work. If you find you have similar problems outside of work and feel bitchy with friends or family too, then I suggest you talk to someone...a counselor, close friend, relative, doctor.

I hope you resolve your problem at work before they ask you to leave. It's better to leave on your own, with your head held high, than to leave because of politics. You deserve better!!!

Answer 5

I am the exact same way. I have little tolerance for people who ask 'dumb' questions (I know, I know there are NO dumb questions). I have no tolerance for annoying people and there are little things that just irk me. I have never been written up, and I usually keep it to myself..but I will tell others (not co wokers) about my annoyences. And then one day I realized that it just wasn't nice to do that. I tell myself that everyone is different, and everyone does things different. You just have to keep telling yourself that. You don't have to be friends with these people or see them outside of work, so while you're there just try and deal with it. That's about all you can do, because you'll probably feel the same way at another job too.

Answer 6

Your probably lack patience. Is it just in work or in general? Maybe you should try and remember that everybody makes mistakes and that you have probably sent repeat emails but are not aware that you have because nobody has told you. Everytime someone does something to annoy you try and think how you would like if you did that aswell and how you would like people to react.