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Question

what can i do to be less nervous? am always nervous... i no smokin helps but its bad for you health and i dont wanna go down that road!!

Answer 1

Many situations can elicit feelings of nervousness. It is important for you to discover what types of situations elicit feelings of nervousness in you. If you are anxious in most situations, it may be beneficial to discuss your situation with a mental health professional in order to determine if you may suffer from some type of anxiety disorder. In not, however, it is beneficial to learn various techniques of relaxation to help cope with feelings of nervousness.

Answer 2

Nervousness can be caused by a number of things and often the causes are numerous and difficult to narrow down. However, you have already started the first step to finding a way out... you have recognized it in yourself.

No one can be nervous all the time without giving into exhaustion. Smoking gives you something to do with your hands and the nicotine makes you feel good (hence its addictiveness... but caffeine is even more addictive). But it will not really help you with your nervousness.

First you need to recognize your degrees of nervousness. Are their times when you are calmer? times when you are wound even more tight? times when you immediately become more nervous? times when you don't notice your nervousness as much (even though it might still be there)? Is your nervousness normally more intense in the morning or in the evening? Are there certain people / places / things that make you more nervous.

What I suggest is to keep a short journal of your reactions and feelings for a week or two. It does not have to be detailed but should just be a notebook where you can jot down your feelings and what you think might have caused them. You can treat it like a personal journal (aka diary), making entries once a day about the happenings of your day and your reactions, feelings, etc. Or you can treat it like a daily diary (aka planner/schedule) and make notes for various times of teh day, jotting down information at the moment that it occurs.

Find a method that is suitable for you and try it for a week. At the end of the week, review your notes. See if patterns emerge or if there are things that you deliberately left unwritten/unrecorded and think about why you were not comfortable with those things. Chances are that you might be able to identify at least a few things that both make you feel more relaxed and comfortable and the things that make your nervousness peak.

From there you have to make a plan how to either avoid those things that make you nervous (only initially... eventually you will need to confront them or you will allow them to have too much power over you) or to 'adjust' the situation or your reaction to them.

No matter what you end up doing, it will take time, patience and consistency in order to combat your nervousness. Don't give up hope. You might find the process more interesting than you might think. Good luck!

Answer 3

What are you nervous about? Did you have something traumatic happen? If so, you may need counseling from a person a faith or a doctor.

Do people make you nervous?
Just keep telling yourself that in a hundred years nothing you ever said or did will really even matter. And also, remember that humans are pretty self-centered (not in a bad way, but people really only ever know what THEY see, THEY hear, THEY feel, and what THEY think.)
Most people are too caught up in their world to care that much about your world. (If your world affects their world profoundly, then they will take more note of you, but only so long as your affect on them is occuring.) For example, as soon as I click on another question, I'll forget about your question. Of course, if you pick this as the best answer, I'll give your question another thought---but not enough of a thought for you to make a decision based on that, since that thought will only last a few minutes and then I am off to my little world again.

Are you nervous about your life or future?
There really is not much to be nervous about, just take charge of your life and make it happen instead of letting it happen to you.

Answer 4

Smoking doesn't help with nerves, that is false.

Look at what you eat and drink daily. Do you drink caffienated things? Do you eat healthy?

What do you do to relax at the end of the day? A nice bath with lavender oil helps. Massage does wonders. Meditation of some sort which focuses your mind and relaxes your body. Deep, slow breathing anytime helps to slow down your heart rate and scattered thoughts.

It's a mind game. Control your thoughts and you control everything. Ask yourself, what you have to be nervous about. The answer? Nothing! God is in control. Perhaps tapping into that is the key for you.

Answer 5

One thing that helps is yoga. It helps you learn how to center your body and your mind and no stress out about the things that you can't control. Also, chewing sugar free gum is really good for you too. That way your mouth is always doing something. Another thing that helps with nerves is always doing something with your hands, whether it's typing or picking your nails, or any number of things, you need to have something to do. If you can keep your mind off the things that make you so nervous you won't be as nervous.

Answer 6

I am not a psychologist but i am a qualified care manager and i work with children and adults with disabilities who are often very nervous!! Try to plan your day, if you have a battle plan it helps to know what your doing next. If you know what makes you nervous look into the subject, what is it that makes you nervous? people, animals, subjects at school, teachers answering questions, reading anything, you cant help yourself if your not sure, remember that your a unique individual and everybody gets nervous, that includes films stars, presidents and even teachers!!!! (and care managers i assure you!!)

Answer 7

First try to relax more and have a positive outlook on life, get motivated into acheiving some goals you may have in mind and do something positive towards that goal each day.you will feel so much better in yourself that soon the nervousness will be a thing of the past.remember you only get out of life what you put into it.

Answer 8

Breathing i find is a good way of calming nerves also try and relax at the same time this normally helps me since i get nervous going out at night and that's what calms my nerves :)

Answer 9

I think you should make meditation a part of your routine. Also, you should pick one activity that brings you joy. I know that sounds corny, but if you could find something to do that gives you a sense of joy while you are doing it, then I think you might feel better and less nervous.

Answer 10

Cut out the caffeine ( it makes things worse ) .
Get enough sleep
Get some exercise
Get hypnotized
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