my friend (my boss and manager @ the place we work) is going out with the vice-president who is married and have kids. i told her im against cuz she wont gain nothing from that, he wont gonna leave his wife for her, prolly shes not the only one he is and that she gotta worth & respect herself more cuz she's cute, smart and have a very nice position at work. At the first she was crying after me told to her all that but i was just being supEr honest. Yesterday it was crazy cuz one of his best friends (whom always had told her to stop that- she could get a big problem) he told her that he was sleeping another girls from the same workplace! she got schocked and i felt sad for her. today it was even more crazier cuz he told her that the vice- president's wife knows every lil thing about her and not just that but that she made a pregnancy test too. my friend totally freaked out and now she wants to rid off this man. how can she make that in a mature and polite way? shes afraid and need help
2006-11-29 03:09:31 · 17 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
to run away and find a new job ... that is not the best idea but she must faced and tell him No More playing with her feeling and she must put limits for him ( business relations and communication ) and threaten him that she will tell his wife and kids about every thing - i hope it will not reach this point -
2006-11-29 03:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by lol_as4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "POLITE" way to end a relationship. The "MATURE" thing to do is "STOP" all intimate contact with this boss. As far as her being smart ,sorry this was not one of her shining moments. She had every thing to lose here and nothing to gain from this type of affair. She needs to look around if she can for another job and not get involved like this again. It only leads to heartache for so many involved. Personally I have "NO" respect for a man who beds his employees. In today's society it is considered a type of Sexual harassment.
2006-11-29 03:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "friend" needs to get her head on straight and realize that she is way to good for that kind of relationship. If someone (male or female) starts to cheat and even if they get caught and state that it will never happen again will always cheat. A leopard never changes its spots, once a cheat always a cheat . Work place romances are the worst, because when things go wrong it usually means the job suffers as well and if shes making good money shes going to suffer both emotionally and financially. What she needs to do is sit down with this guy and tell him that she wants to end it NOW!!!! and she needs to stick to it. He needs to she that she is strong and an adult regarding her decision. If things get to difficult for her to handle its up to you to tell her you are a true friend and will be a shoulder for her if and when needed. Be an ear for her to. But stay away from the I told you so's. And we all should hope that she sees the error of her ways and stay away from married men.
2006-11-29 03:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by hell_bent_grumpy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she does need help, because it is down right ignorant to sleep with a married man that can lead to the break up of a marriage that children are involved. Did she ever think of the children of this man she was sleeping with and how she could hurt them and effect their lives forever, no she was being selfish. She can break it off with him if she wants but she needs let him know she may be pregnant with his child if it's his cause girls like her tend to have many sleeping partners. She is a adult in the real world, time to start acting like one. She made her bed. I f I were you I'd find another friend cause she could try sleep with your husband or boyfriend one day.
2006-11-29 03:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by SHEILA N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Can you say water-cooler drama?
Probably the only real solution is to give her notice and get out. No matter how "polite and mature" she tries to be, it just won't work out.
1. Don't sleep with your boss!
2. Especially if he's married!
3. Hang on it's gonna get even bumpier!
2006-11-29 03:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by KJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to talk to him, and tell him that whatever they had is over. She needs to tell him that she didn't intend for the situation to get so troublesome and no longer wants to be a part of it.
Simply talking to him and telling him where she stands is very mature, and if the right tone is used, very polite also. Hopefully, your friend can use this experiance as an example and learn from it in the future.
2006-11-29 03:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has to just tell him. NO MORE> It's way too much drama for one person, and especially in a workplace.
She just needs to stand up to him, tell him she never wants to see him again and that she is cutting off all ties with him. It will be more diffucult seeing that she works with him but it will get easier with time.
Good luck to your friend. Avoid drama... its too hard on a person.
2006-11-29 03:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u being in a position as a friend should tell her.. in a polite way of course lol
she should have never got invovled with a married man and that it is goin to b hard to stop this nonsense but tell her to tell him enough is enough and she cant put herself in the predictament anymore cas its not right
2006-11-29 03:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by thuggababy15 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first she the one that gotta find a way to get out of it Cuz she the one that was sleeping with him and if she leaves him I'm 99% that he will make her life miserable or fire her one of the two.
2006-11-29 03:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Loka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your "friend" sounds like a very easy lay! why else would she want to be with someone who is married? she needs to get some morals and make her life right! then she can devote herself to a man that will appreciate her and not use her for his own gratification!
2006-11-29 03:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋