I'm 52, he's 57 kids are grown we've been seeing each other for over 2 years . he moved into his own apartment almost one year ago. Today , he's going to divorce court at 8:30 am . He seemed so stressed out last night. Married for 38 years but has been totally unhappy for around 10 years and told me he's in love with me for the first time and has never known such bliss.Says he's NEVER been with another woman besides me and his wife if you know what I mean and as shy as he is, I totally believe him.
Question is: Its 10:00 am and I haven't heard from him. Should I be concerned? Please don't answer unless you've been there also. Serious inquiries only. Don't throw rocks please.
2006-11-29 02:56:31 · 19 answers · asked by CryBaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Its only 10. I was in court half the day, waiting on other poor saps who had to go over a laundry list of financials. I'm sure he is missing you and wanting to hurry up and get out of court, to come rock your world. :)
2006-11-29 03:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, it's only 10 in the morning? you said it's "10:00 am" -and he went to court at 8:30. He may not have even had his case heard yet.
If you meant 10pm, then I'd maybe worry a bit. Does he have a cellphone? Regardless of how people feel about a person, that's a long time to have had a marriage. It's possible that after this "ending," he needed some time alone. Divorces are never easy - well, rarely are they easy. My first marriage - when I was ready, I was *ready.* But we were only married for 3 years.
It may have been a difficult time in the court. His ex may have said some things, whatever.
Don't assume that anything's *wrong," per se. Be patient. You'll hear from him. Peace.
2006-11-29 03:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dont be concerned, im not your age, but ive been divorced, and i can understand the situation at hand.. realize that although it was an unhappy marriage for the last 10 years, u cant be with someone that long , have children and not care about them or feel saddened by the end of a relationship even if ur the one wanting out of it.. u'd have to be cold hearted not to have some kind of remorse .. if the court proceedings started at 830 and thats only if they started exactly at that time, he could very well still be in court.. or if he's out , he could just need alittle time to just deal with what has just happened, thats a very long chapter to close in ones life and may just need alittle time to himself to sort things out within himself.. so i wouldnt be concerned..
2006-11-29 03:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the others have said court can take a very long time so don't stress out. I would find something to do to take your mind off things (I know easier said than done). If it goes into lunch time and he doesn't call don't stress, he might be out with his lawyer talking things over. Also make sure when he does call or come see you, you let him know you are available but understand if he needs some time alone (yes you want to be there, yes you want to know what's going through his head, but don't push him, this is a sensitive time). He doesn't love her any more and doesn't want to be with her but even with that said he has 38 years vested in something that is ending, officially ending, and effects more than just him, his family all has to now make adjustments. Give him time and know it will be okay.
Good Luck and have a GREAT day!
2006-11-29 03:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Court could take quite awhile if there were other cases ahead of his. He may also need some "me" time this morning. If he loved her or not for the past 10 years, failing at a 38 year marriage has to be tough! That is most of his life that he devoted and now that is gone. It is just an adjustment, it doesn't diminish what you have with him. He will need lots of TLC especially during the Holidays. Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-29 03:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes normal.. he is there at 8:30 and could have to set there for 30 to 45 minutes before getting in... then another 10 minutes waiting for the judge to get ready.. then about an hour worth of fighting and discussing the matters if not an hour an a half.... the another 15 minutes usually waiting on the papers to be processed so they can have thier copies... then how ever long it takes him to get home... So plz don't worry everything is ok.. and he will call as soon as he gets home and congrats on the new romance.
2006-11-29 03:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because his time was 8:30 doesn't mean he will actually see the judge at 8:30. That's like making a doctor's appointment and still sitting there for an hour before you get to see them. Plus, he may want some time after wards just to let it sink in. Just be there when he is ready to talk about it.
2006-11-29 03:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jon O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Court starts at 8:30, but his case may not be heard until much later. Don't worry.
2006-11-29 03:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Family court can take all day sometimes. Especially if he does not have an attorney. Or sometimes a judge does not come in and the other courts get overloaded. It happens.....don't worry about it.
2006-11-29 03:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey it is divorce court? He could be there all day. Sounds too me like you aren't so sure about this relationship and his feelings for his ex-wife. I think I would be asking why it took him so long to file for divorce? Obviously he has had some serious doubts about ending the marriage.
2006-11-29 03:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋