My soon to be ex husband was telling people that he moved out because I was a bad mother. When I told him, "OK, fine, you can have the kids and I will see them on every other weekend" he says that he didn't mean that. He is now angry with me because I have told the same people that the real reason that he moved was to be with another woman, who he invited to his birthday party (of course I didn't attend and neither did the kids). He is now angry because I exposed his deeds and he has lostythe respect of some of his friends. I say, can't pay, don't play. He apparently had no respect for me when he invited his "woman" to party that included mutual friends. He says that no one would have known that she was other than a friend if I hadn't said something. Am I missing something here?
2006-11-29 02:56:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he sounds too selfish and immature to be taken seriously. I am sorry this is the person you will need to co-parent with.
2006-11-29 03:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are such a bad mother then he is a bad father for not taking them the majority of the time to get them out of the "bad" situation. RIGHT!! I would be soooooo angry about a stab at my parenting. As if a parent doesnt already question their skills. It is a hard job with no manual.
As for him bringing another woman to his birthday party, so what! Why were you going in the first place. Sounds like you are not friends. The friends that know him and you will see through his vail. You are missing the fact that he is your ex and if you are not friends and he spread bull**** about you then stay away from him!!
2006-11-29 11:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Men behave like this because of their hormonal problems. Their androgens cause them to really believe that they are -
more intelligent
more important
you need them they do not need you
they pay for everything
only women have hormonal problems and over
react when they are told to contribute by
doing the housework
you are required to provide them with sex
whenever they want it
and you want it whenever they do
they are his children
and you are a bad mother.
Men with hormonal problems have no respect for anyone other than themselves. Don't take it personally, feel sorry for him, he has problems. How long do you think his new romance is going to last ? He will treat all women the same way.
Your children will of course suffer. But that of course will be "your fault". "You made him angry", "...if only you could be as perfect as he is !"
HE DOES HAVE the right to be angry, "perfect women are so hard to find nowadays." YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO TURN YOUR BACK ON HIM AND WALK AWAY.
2006-11-29 11:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Aunty Wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing his game. He wants everyone to think you were the reason he left and now you have changed that story around on him. Your husband's friends aren't as stupid as he would like them to think. I'm sure you didn't need to tell them she was the other woman due to how he brought her there while you both were seperated. I wouldn't worry to much about him being angry due to he doesn't respect you or your children. The only thing you are missing is a video camera to video him acting like a big baby. The nerve of that man leaving you for another woman and then trying to get you to play his game with him. Good luck.
2006-11-29 11:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When there are kids involved you should always be afraid of them finding out what you said. I would never of done that .You will cause the divorce between you two to escalate and your children will have no respect for either of you...
2006-11-29 11:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why didn't the children attend? why do you feel you need to tell mutual friends your truth? i"m sure you are speaking the truth. in time all cards in this matter will be revealed. keep your chin up and let him fall all by his self. great respect steven.
2006-11-29 11:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by explorer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he doesn't have a right to be upset, especially after trying to make you the scape goat.
He shouldn't be mad that you told the truth.
2006-11-29 11:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just mad because you busted him out to your friends and family. Shame is a hard thing to deal with but he was wrong and needs to deal with it. Sorry he is trying to make you his excuse for leaving your marriage. He is being a weak human being for that. He needs to stand up and admit that he has moved on and its not your fault. Even if he doesn't admit it, you know its not your fault.
2006-11-29 11:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
he has no right to be mad ...the way u made it sound is that he wants you as a side family and doesn't want to hurt his name but at the same time he is trashing yours ...LET him be ur ex husband ...no man will ever come between you and your kinds...YOU LEAVE
2006-11-29 11:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha he got what he deserved girlie! You cannot help what he did, people should know the truth..
2006-11-29 11:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by sweetcheeks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋