From the age of ten to the age of fourteen i was a victim of some horrible molestering..The last time i ever let him touch me was at the age of fourteen..I was literally shaking for three days after the last time he had his fun wih me..He was five years older than me and one of my brothers friends and still is..I still have not said anything about it and i dont know how..I dont want him lying to me denying what he did to me.How much he destroyed me with touching me..I know till this very day that he is still molestering little boys and girls..Am i the only one that knows he is not a good person .He has pulled the wool over everyones eyes.They say oh david he's harmless and then i am speechless and powerless to say anything. They have been full on brain washed. and i dont think thee is anything i can do now because it has been so long..I will never forget what he did to me and i need justice..
2006-11-29 02:47:54 · 10 answers · asked by Danielle 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds as though you are in a difficult situation. Disclosing any type of information pertaining to abuse is difficult in that there is the possibility that others may find it hard to believe. The most important thing to remember is that you know in your heart that the events occurred. It is important to contact someone regarding the incident, not only for your justice but also for the justice of the others to which you know of it occurring. Find a trusted adult or social worker and disclose this information. Also it would be beneficial for you to speak with someone regarding mental health counseling. Receiving counseling does not mean that there is anything wrong with you, it is just helpful to have a trained professionals viewpoint of your situation so that they may provide you with strategies for coping with the pain. Again I know that it is difficult to discuss such private information, but in the long run it will be beneficial for you to talk about the situation.
2006-11-29 03:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jason H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Hazel,
I am sorry to hear what you have been through and I can tell you that you are far from alone.
It must be very painful for you to have still see the perpetrator of these crimes and to see your whole family thinking he is okay. People who molest children do tend to be masters of deception. They can pull the wool over everyones eyes and the vicitms are left wonderig just how blind the rest of the world is.
I know it feels like he has destroyed you, but he hasn't. See you are strong enough to write here and tell us about this and to ask for help. You have survived. You are a survivor. More that that you have lived beyond these hard experiences and you are still a caring, thoughtful person.
Justice is not something everyone can get. But that doesnt mean you shouldn't try. However before you embark on the journey of getting justice I suggest you find yourself a really good counsellor and get some caring, compassionate support for yourself. Going to a counsellor is a good way to feel supported through tough times. If the cost of counsellig is too high for you try ringing around some of the charity organisations and asking them where to go for counselling.
It has been a long time but there is always something you can do. A counsellor can help you discover the things you can do.
Hun keep your chin up and keep moving forward.. Remember this you are moving closer to healing every day.....
2006-11-29 07:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people I know were victims of rape and molestation and it is a hard burden to bear because regardless of how much you know, you still feel like you are somehow responsible. The first thing you need to do is tell someone you really trust, a friend, a family member, anyone who will get you counseling and get you help that you need. This boy is sick and he has no right to violate you like that. You need to get him arrested especially if he's doing this to other people. The girls I know said that they could never live with the burden of him hurting someone else because they didn't say anything, and many of them had endured that burden. Call the police, call your parents, call anyone you know who will get him in jail for a long long time. You will have to tell your story in court and it sounds like you are ready for that, but go out there and see that you DO get justice, because you deserve it.
2006-11-29 03:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of good advise already but I know following it can be hard. But here's something that will help a lot.
Call social services where you live. Tell them you want to report an abuser anonymously. Every jurisdiction in the United States, and probably many other places too, has laws requiring that social services not reveal in their investigation who did the telling.
They will follow up and investigate within 48 hours I think. This will begin the process of protecting other children. And you can feel great about that.
They will also offer you help. And if you are ready you can accept it at your own pace.
2006-11-29 17:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Avalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone now. If you think that he is molesting other children....do not let this go. You and only you can stop that from happening. Talk to a counselor if you do not have the courage to do this by yourself...BUT you have to tell the authorities.
No one else should have to go through this.
2006-11-29 02:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to the police with this .... I know it might be hard or kind of embarassing to admit all this, but it really is the best thing for you to do... if you were molested you need to tell someone.
2006-11-29 02:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no statue of limitations on rape or molestation go to the police and prosecute seek a counselor or psychologist to help you deal bless you I hope you get the closure you need
2006-11-29 04:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by wvgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Hazel
.Sorry my poor English...
.Certanly you need help.
.If you want justice, the police is the best way.
.You need find a doctor and explain your case.
.Remove this thinks into your mind, don't revival thats moments, change yours feelings and thinkins.
.You can happy and fun - try.
.Good look.
2006-11-29 04:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the police. They may be able to help you and if not they can question him. It's worth a shot.
2006-11-29 03:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old you are now.
Start with going to a counselor then go from there. "There", meaning, the police.
2006-11-29 02:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by naturegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋