why do i have such a temper?

Question

what can be used to stop me from getting so angry

Answer 1

The biggest thing to remember is that you do have control over your own emotions. Others cannot elicit a response of anger from you unless you interpret in such a manner that it allows you to become angry. The best strategy for coping with anger is to learn what events trigger your anger. Learning what situations elicit feelings of anger is useful in that you are better equipped to recognize when you may become angry and can remove yourself from the situation. Contact a local mental health agency to learn about anger management courses. It is important for you to learn what triggers your anger so that you can develop strategies to cope with anger (Such as removing yourself from the situation until you are calm).

Answer 2

Being Angry is your choice!! You choose to be mad and that is not a good sign! Think about what makes you mad and try to let it go. Think about being happy and try harder each day. Think about all the evil in this world! Why on earth would you want to add to it by being such an angry person. A lot of times you grow up around an angry household and that's how you learn to deal with things, through anger. You need to get counseling or when you get mad stop and think about what it solves!!! Nothing!!!! So why be Mad? The main person who gets really miserable is you! Also making someone else miserable is horrible too! They may resent you later for making them feel so bad along with you. I feel that there is always a solution to every problem so just deal with it and move on in your life. For every minute you are mad you are missing out on a lot of wonderful happy minutes and what a wonderful happy person you could be. So please get some help or think about what I have written here. Hope this helps you to get thinking in a different direction. Good Luck to you.

Answer 3

You choose to be angry so it is up to you to have some control in your life if you look at the times you lose your temper it is when it will be around someone that will take the temper fit that you throw,,,Think about it I am sure in a control envirement you do not lose your temper we all have a choice and a mate{{beats his wife }}when there is no one around just an example if he has control when there is someone that would call him on that he never loses control so people do have control also maybe you need some professional help,

Answer 4

I do not know how angry you get, but I have a pretty aweful temper sometimes too. And it did not slow down until I had kids. Know I realize that they are looking up to me constantly and I do not want to raise beasts.
I guess you just need to realize when you are getting mad and walk away from it. Best solution ever.

Answer 5

If you know what it is that triggers your anger, try to avoid the situation. If it's preventable, try to prevent it whatever it is that causes you to get angry.

I've actually lost my temper a lot more since I've had children, and I HATE that. I really try to remain calm and count to ten (or more) before I say anything I might regret. I also try to give myself "timeouts" and remove myself from the situation until I've cooled off.

Answer 6

You definitely need some advice from an expert.
I'm getting psychotherapy and I'm realizing that the person I have the anger for is the one I least suspect each time.
You usually scream and fight with the ones you know will tolerate with it.
But the "problem" lies elsewhere...
It's very good to recognize it though, and now you have ways to solve it!

Answer 7

try an anger management class or counceling...you need to get to the bottom of what is actually making you angry...there has to be some sort of underlying problem or something you have not truly dealt with that is causing your anger...good luck.

Answer 8

Anger management counseling. You need to understand where this is coming from and how to control it. I suggest you contact an anger management counselor or group.

Answer 9

You must consciously be in control of yourself. Try not to lose that control or else your temper will go with it.

Answer 10

a true promise to urself,that u will remain calm,no matter what comes.& if u break it,remember that time & again.if anything irritates u,simply laugh away,keep smiling always,there i can see a smile on ur face!!!!