whats the best make to restart a whole new life?

Question

im in debt have no friends and now no fiance and very little support from my family how do i restart my life?

Answer 1

What your doing now is already the start of a great future for your self, simply by acknowledging, that you have these burning issues in your life is enough to start the ball rolling in the right direction,
Do some simple things first of all, like change your rooms around, and get rid of old clutter, that should help you wake each morning with a fresh feel about you.
Also go to the CAB (Citizens Advice Bureau) about your debts, at the very least it will make you feel a bit more positive about it all, as your doing something towards eradicating them from your life.
As for friends, you will find many new friends very easily, just by being your self and smiling, you have already found one new friend today!
Don't dwell on the past and what you had, look to the future and visualise what you will have!
Take care,
Love n light xx x
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Answer 2

I think you might want to list what are the good things, the positive things and begin to focus on them:

there are always people that have it worse off than you... you probably have a little money, a friend or two, and more support from your family than many others.......

I guess the question is: where do you want to go? I don't mean moving away but where do you want to go in your life? Back to school? Get another job? move into an apartment? etc.

what went wrong? did you make some foolish mistakes? charge too much on a credit card? did you leave your friends or did they leave you? It is sometimes good just to recognize: yeh, I really blew cause I did this and this and this....

But remember: God never closes one door witrhout opening up at least a window....

Maybe God wants to move you into a different phase, a new direction in your life. Maybe all the bad stuff that has happened is just His way of getting your attention and something new and different - something you haven't even imagined yet - is just around the corner!

I would not make any hasty big decisions. I would talk to someone, a trusted family friend, a minister, a school counsellor, etc. share your feelings with them...

and ask God for help. He is a "present help in time of trouble". He loves us so much and wants to help us in our lives.... Learn to pray. not nice polite prayers but prayers from your heart. Pour out your heart to Him and He will begin to work all things in your life together for good..... He is a great life-restarter!!!

God bless!!

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Answer 3

Get a job, get some money make some work mates then go and seek a finance ad-visor, found in Yellow Pages, or Thompsons, or the net and see how you can repay your debts minimal with out taking all your wages. There is always a way if you want to do it. If no support from family, do it by yourself. It will make you stronger and more independent and in control of your life. Good luck.

Answer 4

As harsh as this may sound, you need to pick yourself and start again. See you bank or building society about your financial status or you could call up a loan company to consolidate the outstanding value and reduce your repayments. Start arranging nights out with people you know from work, you'll be suprised how just getting out there forms brilliant friendships. Only time will heal you from your break-up. But hang in there! Get a few hobbies or do something in your spare time that you never would/could do before. I'm saddend to hear that you feel you get little support from your family, maybe ask them to be a bit supportive, show them how your gonna correct things, but remember being adult is all about being just that - an adult. It is possible - trust me.

Answer 5

I was were you are right now. What you have to do is actually take controll of the situation. Rather then ignore your debts, face up to them, tackle them, pay them off. This will take some time but along the way you will realise that you have picked up a few friends, become more assertive, independant and forgotten about the idiot who left you in your hour of need. Good luck x

Answer 6

first...start by being positive....then work your way through it...each day write yourself a "to do" list...nothing negative...if you have no one to depend on then this is a way to prove to yourself that you can go it alone....try being positive first though....try and sort out your finances...if you are in debt then call the people you owe money to and come to an agreement to pay so much off each week/month THEN start making plans about your life...if you feel the need to move away have a look on line for jobs abroad...there's lots on offer, as the saying goes, "pick yourself up, dust yourself down, start all over again" come on, life cant be that bad...start tomorrow make it your first priority to get back on track...good luck

Answer 7

if u don't have a college education go to college and since your parents can't help u get a part time job and go to school part time or at night then get a small apartment that u can afford and slowly start rebuild your life and if you do have and college education get a full time job that pays a little so u can pay your bills and get your necessary things

Answer 8

move away from all of them!!! outta town!! set yourself up in a little job and work to clear you debts off!!! it might take a few years to get out of debt,but you have the time afterwards ti live and have fun!!!! trust me im talking from experience...good luck!!

Answer 9

C.A.B thats a start for your debt. join clubs for your friendship. just show your family you are helping yourself then they will help i`m sure. then you will find your life restarts itself

Answer 10

clear your debts, then move out of your area, no bad reminders then, and then start from scratch.
you can be a whole new you and no one will ever know any different.
good luck what ever your decide.
xxx