i have sincere feelings for my best friend. i think he sensed that and told me yesterday that he just sees me as a really good friend and nothing else. he loves someone else who he is currently having problems with and he looks to me for solace.
i am heartbroken but i think i will get over it. how to lessen the pain? should i continue to be supportive for that is what i am doing now... despite the hurt i feel.. or just cool off?
i have exams coming up, i cant study... i am too depressed
he told me, he would always be there as a friend and i should go study now... i appreciate his honesty
2006-11-29 02:25:01 · 8 answers · asked by L W 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Anytime that you express your feelings and they are not accepted as you would like for them to be, it is difficult to handle. Being honest with yourself as well is with your friend may help to ease the situation. If you state that you appreciate your friend’s honesty, then it is only fair that you are also honest with him. If he does suspect your feelings (As you believe that he does) then it would be beneficial for you to sit down and speak with him. It is understandable that you want to continue to be a good friend and support him with his difficulties with the other individual. What is most important, however, is that you stay true to yourself and your own feelings. If you do not feel comfortable discussing other love interests with him, you should be honest and tell him that it bothers you. Any type of rejection is painful but you have to remember that you possess your own special qualities and just because one individual may not view you in a romantic manner, that doesn't mean that there are not many others that view you as a romantic interest. Just allow yourself time and find a close friend to talk with when you are feeling down. The most important thing, however, is to be honest with your friend and yourself and talk with him about your feelings.
2006-11-29 02:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jason H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do your best to put it out of your mind for now and do well on your exams. When that's over, you'll feel glad that you did and the time that has passed will make a big difference. Maybe he needs to see that you're not clingy/needy. Friends love to be appreciated---just like you appreciated his honesty.
2006-11-29 02:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by whadda-dingo-gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, accept the fact that he sees you as a friend. Second, explain to him that he needs to be sensitive to your feelings at this point. Don't allow him to seek solace in you for his relationship problem now. Explain that it makes you feel worse.
I suggest you concentrate on your studies, cut off contact for now until you can heal and he gets a grip on his situation. His honesty is good and just what you need right now.
2006-11-29 03:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time will heal you and I promise it will get better everyday. The first couple of weeks are harsh, but it does get better. Get someone to study with you and keep you on task. It will give you some much needed company too. If you have an advisor or a mentor, have a chat with them.
Good luck.
2006-11-29 02:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go about your studying then continue to be supportive because he appreciate you being there for him just give him time maybe he will feel the same about you soon
2006-11-29 02:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should be there for him but try limit your time with him and if he is a true friend than you should respect his feelings. You also need to get with it and study or you will end up regretting it later.
2006-11-29 02:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by SHEILA N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hang in there girl i personally married my best friend <26> years i had the exact same situation happen to me, believe me if he gets caught up with a couple of bad girls he'll come running begging for a chance to be with you.
2006-11-29 02:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look he might say that for a while but maybe he likes you. but if not try to forget it and someday mrs. perfect might come.
dont worry hunny, sara
2006-11-29 02:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋