What would you do? I had this close knit circle of five best friends. We have been friends since middle?

Question

school. We are now all 26 years old. Recently, one of my friends got married to a guy that none of us like. He is a heroin addict that has been in jail three times for about half of their relationship. But we have dealt with him for her sake. Recently, this friend and I had a falling out. Her and her husband said awful things to me in a discussion. They called me a bad mother, bad student, bad person...a liar and a manipulator. I was soo stunned by their attack I was basically mute. Didn't defend. I thought our other friends would have stuck up for me. But they have not. They are still friends with these people. I cannot stand it. It is eating me up inside that these friends would still hang around people that treated me this way. What should I do? I am so angry and sad. I have tried to tell them how I feel, but they say they are conflicted too. I just do not know what to do. Advice pleaase!

Answer 1

Stay friends with the rest of the group. Don't force your friends to take sides. If you do, they will probably pick her side, not yours, since she needs as much support as possible. It sounds like her husband has gotten her into the drug scene with him. So she's not thinking right, or even acting herself. Once she smartens up, though that may be a very long time from now, she'll dump the looser and come back to her friends.
Avoid the girl who is married to the junkie, but let her know that you are still there for her if she ever needs it. Then go on with your life, and be happy that you aren't in her shoes. She is someone to pity, not someone to obsess over.

Answer 2

First of all, and please don't feel offended by this, think about the place you are putting the rest of your friends in, try walking in their shoes, the same goes with the friend that is married to the nasty guy. Think about the day you fought and how the fight took place, if your friend has endured having a heroin addict for a boyfriend and now a husband it is because she is deeply in love and sometimes people who are in love act foolishly and are blinded by their feelings, on the other hand, I'm sure you feel hurt that the other friends still hang around the other couple, but try to see that they are not the ones who fought or were offended, you can't expect other people to stop being friends with someone you don't like anymore, even more so if you guys have been friends for a long time.
I know it hurts you and that you expect them to take your side, but you need to let them deal with the situation in their own way, if you have already told them how you feel and they say they feel conflicted enough has been said.
I would try to let time go by and speak to your friends one at a time, try to hear what they have to say, and if a reconciliation with your other friend doesn't happen you will have to start seeing your friends separately.
Good luck.

Answer 3

You're going to have to get used to the fact that people change. I had a close friend from my fourth school year all the way to my 11th. Then he grew distant from me, perhaps because he didn't want to be associated with certain political ideas I was developing, and at times he'd even act cold (not quite unfriendly) or as if he didn't know me. That's when I realized that our good days were done. It hurts a while, but you move on. Just be glad of the good memories, and go find some new friends.

Answer 4

They are all still angry obviously someone lied in the sittuation for them to still be mad . I really dont understand what the big deal was . So what they got mad and they called names . that is so kid stuff and maybe you need a new set of friends that are more mature than these people seem to be . Have you thought about that? good luck and god bless and happy holidays.

Answer 5

Make better friends.