My husband befriend this girl, the have known each other now for over 2yrs. He said he was upset with me one day, and saw this girl walking and got her #. At that time she was 16 she is now 18
he say he never had intest in this person. They both say they never had sex. Can I believe him. He did however give 2 cards for her birthday, the reason for that is because she brought him one for his b-day. Now at the point the have known each other for over a year. Do you also think if he had feelings for her he would have actually brought her a gift? I do know for a fact that they no longer talk. But I don't know for a fact if my husband was having affair of a fling with this person.
2006-11-29 02:15:11 · 11 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry for the mis-spelling Rushing,
2006-11-29 02:19:11 · update #1
i wouldnt trust em
2006-11-29 02:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by kraziiwhiteboy04 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some possibilities:
1) An "affair" does not always involve sex. He may have had some strong feelings for her but never acted them out.
2) This may have been a "daddy-crush" - he found someone that needed an older shoulder to cry on for a while, he enjoyed that (is he a nurturer personality?), and it has now played itself out.
3) He's a bare-faced liar, he let his anger at you take him into a whole new and exciting universe, he had sex with her, they both realized that it was a horrible mistake, and they are now trying to disengage.
4) You are overly suspicious and don't trust your husband for a number of other reasons, including this one.
Regardless, you need to see a counselor about this. First, go yourself. Sort out your feelings and clearly define what it is about all of this that really rankles you. Then, if the counselor feels it is necessary, have your husband join you. It would be best to have a referee present when you confront your husband about what is eating at you and placing your relationship in doubt.
(Good luck and God bless.)
2006-11-29 02:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men befriend other girls not necessarily for a fling or something to that effect, however a married man should know where he is standing and should avoid at all cost anything that could hurt his wife and vice versa. i'm not implying that he is/was have/had an affair with this girl but the only solution to your dilemma is to ask him better yet to talk to him and find ways to strengthen your relationship with each other. try to spend more quality time with your husband. i hope the two of you stay happy for as long as both of you shall live. take care always and cheer up!
2006-11-29 02:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by raddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of ever knowing unless one of them confesses. Why don't you give him the benefit of the doubt, and since he is no longer seeing or talking to her, let it go. If you don't it will always gnaw at you, and you might get mad enough to bring it up. What if there wasn't anything between them, and there probably wasn't by the way you describe it. Don't let something that really doesn't matter anymore destroy what you have. Give him the benefit of the doubt. If he does it again or hooks up with the same girl.....well then you might look into it. but let this one go, it will only screw things up for no reason.
2006-11-29 02:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband trustworthy? When I read your question I got a knot in my stomach. Call it what you want womens intuition but I would say yes he was having an affair. A wife usually knows if her husband is cheating if shes willing to admit it to herself.
2006-11-29 02:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by ~♥~ *CHEEKY* ~♥~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would he even talk to a 16 year old girl it sounds like he has a problem i would say more than likely he was doing something with her he is not going to tell you what he did because he is afraid that if he told you the truth the police would want to talk to him about his contact with her i would say leave the wierdo
2006-11-29 02:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by thomas h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really suspicious of it. That doesn't sound normal to me. If he did mess with her when she was 16 he has a big problem.
2006-11-29 02:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without some real, solid evidence to say otherwise, I'd say trust him. You can't go through life without trust.
2006-11-29 02:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any Man showing interest in a 16 yr old has SERIOUS ISSUES.
2006-11-29 02:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't actually give greeting cards to a fling, do you? :)
ask him straight up instead of asking six billion other people who don't know about your relationship. you deserve honesty for being in it.
2006-11-29 02:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by thomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋