I know a lady who I thought was my freind. She is about 47, she told me she wasn't gay. I told her I wasn't like that either, and I never would be. I became roomates with her, and she would invite me to sleep in her bed, just as freinds. Of course I never would. I started dating and I ended up staying the night at a guys house, I came home the next day and she started screaming telling me to get out!!! She said I was seductive towards her and was leading her on. She talked me into moving out because I was in a bad situation with my x-boyreind. My freinds say I was very vulnerable and she tried to take advantage of that. How could she just lie to me like that, I think she might be a little confused herself. After I moved out she tried everything to try to hurt me or get me in trouble. Did I break her heart?
2006-11-29 02:11:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sounds like she has some serious issues.
and she let herself get fooled - by herself.
there are people of any gender, any preference, any background like that.
2006-11-29 02:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question is misleading and derogitory at the start. NOT ALL LESBIANS are like your ex-roommate.
She was one wacky so-and-so, no justification there at all. Lesbian or not.
She herself could have just been Bi-curious and thought you'd be open to her curiosity, but then again, I could be wrong, she does sound nuts.
But please know that what happened to you is NOT a common occurance, I'd even hazard that it's not even an uncommon occurence but rather an isolated nut-job who tried to take advantage of you.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, it sounds horrible.
My partner went through a similar situation but reversed with an ex-roommate who was male and tried to convince my partner she was straight.
It's a psychological game that is terribly distructive no matter who's involved.
Again, I'm sorry you had to go through that, I do hope you've gotten some counceling and know that it was not your fault.
Oh, and to that jerk who says "its a proven fact that all lesbians are known man haters"
That's simply not true at all.
I LOVE MEN, especially the ones in my life, I just don't want them in my bed!
I love my son, my father, my Uncles, my male cousins, my male friends (of which most happen to actually be straight males)...I just have no sexual interest in them and they're all cool with that.
The ONLY male I have no patience for is my ex-husband..and he deserves it.
2006-11-29 03:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 22:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are people, regardless of sexual preference, it sounds like she saw what she wanted to see rather than what was actually there. I doubt you broke her heart, and if she was denying at first that she was gay then she was deceiving either herself or you. If the later, she might have just been outraged that her ploy didn't work, I've known people like that, the "woman scorned" and all.
2006-11-29 04:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being openly gay i would say the reason y true gay ppl try to change str8 females is one maybe they cought feelings and want to c if the str8 woman is down to c where it goes or they c one of god greatest gifts to the world being mistreated , abused or what not and want her to know that yeah the world might get mad at us but im here if u ever need someobody, and must gay female r not really try to change that person juz what they are going thru
and to answer u that woman was crazy u cant break a heart u never showd love to can u??? lol
2006-11-29 02:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think you broke her heart. I think that she saw an opportunity to get wit a straight chick then when ur proved her wrong she felt played so she took it out on u that was really messed up of her!!!!!!
If that was me I'd kick her ^ss
****MOST Lesbian are not man haters****
Dont make an example of her and hate all lesbian were are all not like that. She is just sick!
2006-11-29 02:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a lesbian thing its a human thing. Guys do the same thing to girls who arent interested. they just keep trying. i know a straight girl who went through almost the exact same situation with her male roommate (except she once accepted the invitation to sleep in his bed) even though they had the so called understanding she was nothing more than a roommate. some people have problems. u didnt do anything.
2006-11-29 02:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by jean grey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That woman is not a good friend. She behaved manipulative and mean towards you. I hope you can manage and pick up on your life.
Please don't allow this person to impersonate a typical lesbian.
There are many friendly and sometimes shy lesbian girls who would never behave that way.
2006-11-29 05:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you broke her heart- I think she's a manipulative woman who tried to take advantage of a younger person. It must be stressful for you that she is interfering with your life, but I think it must be fairly clear she is a hurt (unjustified) and angry woman, and I doubt most people will take her seriously.
2006-11-29 02:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she thought you were a lesbian and you just didn't know?? I actually had a friend go through that, the girl said she was helping her find herself
2006-11-29 02:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_g_grl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were living with my ex-wife =P
I'll bet she just convinced herself that you were 'her' str8 girl and she didn't like the notion of you being with someone else. She probably feels betrayed, though unless you were leading her on after all, it was all in her imagination.
How sad for her =(
I would stay away from her if she is being vindictive.
2006-11-29 02:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by saopaco 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋