My husband found a new way to delete website history.?

Question

I know I shouldnt be snooping but when it comes to porn, now thats a little to much. I don't want to get rid of the internet, its a very helpful tool. I've been keeping track on the sites he goes to. And i know last night he was deleting some of the history he was visiting. And no one out there can tell me they have never done this before. I dont know what it is about this crap that men like so much. I give him all the sex he wants. He's very spoiled. I ask him why and he just says hes bored, or that he was just curious. But anyway. All I want to know is how to retrieve the material he was looking at.

Answer 1

oh for crying out loud. Give the poor guy a break. Look, it's not like he is going out and cheating on you. HE IS JUST LOOKING AT PICTURES!!! what's the big deal?... He is a healthy guy. Men do this.
I'll bet you would be pissed if he had no sex drive at all. Count your blessings.
And the reason he is hiding his history is because you harp on him about it. You should be accepting of his wants. As long as they are simple, and harmless. If fact you should be doing a little of this with him.
Doesn't he go shopping with you? I know he doesn't enjoy that. And I'll bet he seen NO sense in it either. But he does it for you, doesn't he?
As a matter of fact we can chalk it up to a little thing called hormones. You women have been using that excuse for centuries. Well now we can use it too. Your estrogen causes you to go freakin nuts once a month. You get to be a complete shrew and nobody is supposed to say anything about it.....
Well, we have a little hormone going through our bodies that is called testosterone. And it goes through our bodies 24/7/365. It causes us to want to sleep with the opposite sex. Oh, and to answer the question you are thinking...NO not all with the same one. It's our natural instinct to populate. That's why we are able to have sex, for procreation, continuously. And you are only able to conceive once a month. We have to fight our natural instincts every day because we love you women.
How about cutting us a little slack.

Answer 2

You have two history icons. Sometimes even if you delete the ones on one the icons. The other icon will still have the information. One icon you find is at the top of your screen in the shape of the earth with cicular arrows going around it. The other icon is in your view file which is at the very top. You click on view, then explore, then history. Also if you wait a few days after he has deleted the history it some times comes back. When you look in history you will see words that say today, Wed., Tues., Mon., Last week, and so on. Click any of those and it can take you to everything. Just a couple of days ago I deleted my History so that I can keep track of what my children did that day and today my history from last week is back in my history. Another way you can find out What website he is going to is punch in a letter from the alphabet. Stroll down every website it gives you. This will show you all the websites that has been used. You can then block the websites you don't want him or your children on from there. Any website you go to is always in the Yahoo search area and in the address bar, no matter what.

Answer 3

like others said, it can be hard to recover stuff if he deleted them for that very purpose.

I say communication cleared up many things in my couple... They never like talking about things like that because they feel envaded, like you're trying to control them. But make sure you let him know how you feel about it and why, rather than focusing on him. Tell him how it bothers you and what you are affraid of. You say you know you shouldn't be snooping but are anyway. It's like an uncontrolable urge to discover things even though you wish you found none. Now your question might only have been to find out if you can recover deleted history, but you added more which shows that maybe you need opinions on a little more than just that. It sure is frustrating not to be able to know everything he sees, i deal with the same thing. But we talked and he told me the porn was really because sometimes he needed either a quick fix or was just curious to see new things.-he also used the bored excuse which is LAME- And you should not worry too much about the girls he ses because really most of porn stars are not that attractive. I'd be more worried if he was always looking at topmodel photos. But he said that even if our relation was very healthy, that it was a once in while thing that seems to be "necessary" to men. Now i know it's what he says and it doesn't mean it's the truth but at least i have peace of mind that I did what i could to understand. So i've resigned myself to let him be without question but, that if ever i catch him doing something like cheating or sex-chatting, that there will be hell to pay. You gotta realise that no matter what you do, you can't keep him from doing what he wants to unless being together 24/7/365. Spying can only drive someone further away... even if it is damn tempting to KNOW everything. I believe that truth always finds it's way through no matter what. Sure i get crazy ideas and imagine the worst... as long as you keep your eyes and ears open.

About porn? I guess i have 2 opinions: 1.it's sick junk for pervs and can't see why someone is turned on by slutty strangers. 2.it's interesting to watch together and get a different kind of mood going on, explore different fantasies. -I mean, the porn industry is not about to shut down, so we might as well live with it knowing about it than pretending it doesn't exist!!-

Answer 4

I had been through this with my now ex-husband and I never really minded him looking at it except after he began cheating on me amongst some other issues. Needless to say I became very paranoid about his actions and used to be able to uncover what he was look at in a few ways...One way is to check the history (which I know that he has already deleted that..), another is to go to tools > internet setting> and look at the cookies and they will give you an idea of what he has been looking at, another way is to check the recycle bin and try and recover any items that were sent there. However, I think that you need to just give up on this one because I doubt that his looking at porn has anything to do with not finding you sexually appealing or wanting something else outside of the marriage. Like I said I used to waste my time worrying about what my then husband was doing and once again I had realized that it wasn't about his looking at porn that bothered me, it was self-esteem issues with myself. With his cheating and everything that I had endured, I was really insecure which drove me to do this spy bs that you are now doing with your husband. Now I have been where you are before so don't think that I am attacking you or saying anything of negative about your actions but you can't control him and I think that this is just a really small thing and that it could be worse. If you have a happy marriage and a healthy sex life and he has never done anything beyond this to make you think that he might be looking elsewhere to meet his needs, you need to give it up and start working on being more content with who you are. Don't use him as a basis as to whether or not you are worthy of love or affection and don't for one second compare yourself to these women because they aren't real. If this does bother you that much and he's still doing it behind your back, something needs to be done instead of playing spy games where he covers up his tracks and you find new ways of finding him out. What good is all of this doing if he won't stop no matter how many times you have caught him? I just don't want you to put yourself through this self-torture based on his actions because I did it to myself and it doesn't help and my catching him never caused him to stop just caused me to become more frustrated and be more self-conscious. I think that you either need to accept it and let it go and realize that he loves you and is very much attracted to you or go to counseling or something if he refuses to stop and it's impeding on you and marriage to such an extent. Take care and good luck:)

Answer 5

There are many programs available in the market which helps in snooping into what others are doing with our computer.You can use software's like net nanny. Its good for monitoring children. But if u use this software for monitoring ure hubby he might find it out and that might create problems. The pictures he views will be stored in C:/windows/temporaryinternet/ folder. U can check if there are any porn pictures in here, If he finds out to delete the temp folder too its better to get a key logger and install it.All the best

Answer 6

If you already know he was, why would you want to retrieve it?

Honestly, I don't have a problem with my husband checking out some pics or videos if he wants .. doesn't bother me in the least. I know who he comes to when he wants some fun, that's only eye candy. And I have no issue with watching some of the vids with him if he wants .. it's only entertainment, and can be great foreplay ;) However, I also recognize that this is something both parties have to be in agreement with, and you are obviously not. My problem is ... why is your husband expected to change his interests and turn ons because of you? He's still entitled to like and dislike things all on his own .. correct? Let the guy watch if he wants .. who is it hurting?

And just an FYI, you can't recover it. You could track his action online easily enough, but since I don't approve of spouses playing head games like miniature detective, I won't point out how to do it. It's a marriage .. not a dictatorship.

Answer 7

men have two emotions: hungry and horny.If he does not have an erection make him a sandwich. as far as porn....its a guy thing, you wouldnt understand. honestly, what harm is there in it? BUT if you are so insecure that you feel you have to spy on him JUST so you can start a fight and be a ***** and make a moutain out of a mole hill then here are a few for you to look at: http://www.webspy.com/
http://www.actualspy.com/
http://www.spectorsoft.com/
http://www.netnanny.com/p/page?sb=product
its like this: wome have the Lifetime channel and men have porn, so your husband likes to spank his wang while looking at some big breasted blonde teen take it up the rear form the pizza delivery boy, so what? LOL, hope that helped

-Doc-

Answer 8

STOP BEING A PRUDE..

if u wanna know what he's looking at, LOOK WITH HIM. men love sex. you know this. they love it even more if they could include their wives.

why are you being a narc in your own home with your own husband?

are you a republican?

maybe there's some things he wants to do with you that you most likely refuse to do. so he gets his thrills from the internet.

in my opinion, if you aren't willing to give him what he wants (and not what you think all men "should" want) then he should at least be able to "window shop" a little. but keep in mind, that if you aren't doing your job at home (and not the limits you probably place on your relationship), he's going to cheat. no telling at that point, what he'll bring home.

i wonder if you would be happy if he stopped lookin at internet porn. if i were you, i'd be worried when that day comes. if you haven't changed and he has, then a lot more has changed with him than you think.

Answer 9

Why do you feel the need to do this? You sound very controlling.

I could understand if you think he is cheating on you or his veiwing porn is effecting your marriage. But looking at porn is a pretty normal behavior for men.

Answer 10

Men need porn like woman need gossip. By "trafficing" his porn you are basically doing the same thing if he asked you "not to gossip anymore."

Woman are emotional creatures. Unlike men, relationships to us are emotional ones and we feel sex in emotional ways. Men are physical creatures and need stimulation. Woman gossip wheras men look at porn.

When a woman cheats it is because she is unhappy and a man when he is unfullfilled. By "trafficing" your husbands porn you are taking away his right to be a man. Now, if you husband is online cybering with woman... thats another story and thats the gateway to cheating. Why? Because cybering is not physical, he is stimulating his physical needs by emotional ones from having a inappropriate conversation with someone he doesn't know.

Porn is nothing to worry about, and he is most likely going to resent you for this. He might be spoiled... but its their natural way. EVERY MAN does this and EVERY WOMAN gossips about what they hate/like about their husbands.