i have sincere feelings for my best friend. i think he sensed that and told me yesterday that he just sees me as a really good friend and nothing else. he loves someone else who he is currently having problems with and he looks to me for solace.
i am heartbroken but i think i will get over it. how to lessen the pain? should i continue to be supportive for that is what i am doing now... despite the hurt i feel.. or just cool off?
i have exams coming up, i cant study... i am too depressed
he told me, he would always be there as a friend and i should go study now... i appreciate his honesty
2006-11-29 01:59:08 · 14 answers · asked by L W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
study for your exams& be patient. you still have him in your life, and although you want him romantically, it doesn't sound like this is the right timing. If he did pursue something with you right now, it would be a 'rebound' thing. If you want something true, just embrace the friendship right now. Don't say anything about your feelings right now. He sensed it, but you shouldn't confirm. JUST BE THERE FOR HIM. In the end, he just may fall in love with YOU. I've been in this predicament before, and am in it again. The first time, I GOT MY MAN...(some very extreme unforeseen circumstances messed the whoe thing up, but...I still got my man!!) As I deal with it this time around, I am just embracing the joy of having such a good friend, and allowing our friendship to progress in its own time. I've not been disappointed yet!!!
2006-11-29 02:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by GO NAVY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that he has been totally honest with you. He has not led you on in any way. You have nothing to base false hopes on. The best thing you can do is to be honest with him now. Tell him that you cannot help him with his problems because you have problems of your own right now --- and that is true. Then you need to find someone who can share your feelings. This is not the right person for you and you need to marginalize him from your life. Instead of a close friend, he should become an acquaintance. Move on. There are many many good guys out there.
2006-11-29 10:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is do the best that you can to get over the fact that the person didn't like you back the same way you liked them. I have had this happen before, I know how it feels. After a while, I managed to forget about it and I found a whole new person to go out with, and it hasn't bothered me since
2006-11-29 10:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Murphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's all good. Some things are just not meant to be. You will be fine, just keep your nose to the grind stone and study hard, and before you know it, someone new will pop into your life. Look at it this way, it sounds like you have a very solid friendship with this guy. I suggest you value that with all your life. Friendships like that are hard to come by in this life. Good luck and happy holidays!
2006-11-29 10:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's all up to you. if it makes you happy by simply being a part of his life, then i guess you have to bear the pain.
it's still gonna hurt either way anyway. if you choose to end your friendship, it's also gonna take time to get over him. the only good thing about it is you also give him time to assess his real feelings for you.
at least you'll be able to move on from there, than be left stranded with someone who will only make you feel more alone.
2006-11-29 10:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by enki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study for your exams. Don't let some dude get in the way of doing well. Then get drunk. Get over him. He used "friend" too many times.
2006-11-29 10:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont see him for a while....and start studing. once your mind is into studing...you will slowly start to forget him and be interested in studing. I am sure you can think about this after your exams..dont let your personal life mess up your career life. Just pay more attention in studing....he is always there anywayzzz soo just think about it later....right now STUDY!!!!!
2006-11-29 10:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some space and study and do what you need to do first. if he cares he will always be there be true to your self first. He may come around!!!!
2006-11-29 10:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..i went through this same thing..actually im going through it now also i think..my case was worse cos my best frnd whom i had feelings for,was in love with another of my best frnds..it was painful to see them go around together..but as time went by i got over it and im sure u'll also..i tried stuff like distractin myself and hangin out with other frnds more often..it worked..................................and there are always other fish in the sea....good luck.. ;-)
2006-11-29 10:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he told you what he feels and not leading you on is good. Now you just need to move forward. Dont dwell.
2006-11-29 10:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by blites-of you 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋