I think I am highly emotional and it seems to be ruining my love life, my boyfriend thinks that when I burst into tears during or after sex that I don't like the way he makes love to me and that is so not true, he is a wonderful considerate lover. How can I stop this?
2006-11-29 01:56:58 · 35 answers · asked by Lucy P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My wife is the same. She loves me so much that the emotion comes spilling over when we make love. I feel extremely privileged that she reacts that way.
Ask him to read some of these answers so that he can understand why you are like this.
2006-11-29 02:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is just the way you are and explain it to your boy friend that it is an emotional release that you have no control over and it is not about anything he did or didn't do. Tell him you have always cried after sex and it will put him at ease. If you really want to stop this I do not know how to advise you. I don't think you can change something like this since it is so automatic and in your make up. It would be like trying to change the way you react when you orgasm. It is nearly impossible since it is a natural physical response.
2006-11-29 02:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by lefty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
This has happened to me too! First of all I want to reassure you this is very common. You have to realise that sex & love making can be an incredibly powerful experience one that is often underestimated, infact its quite possibly one of the most intense experiences in life. This is especially true if the sex is with someone you love & trust alot.
If you make love and then bust into tears its probably a sign of deep emotional release, its just cathartic because those feelings were deeply buried in the body. Feelings that we (you) dont let out very often. Actually, this is a very good sign of emotional health, it means your allowing out the deep feelings and its nothing at all to be ashamed of or to worry about. Its abit strange of course if its not happened before but its fine, your fine!! nothing for either you or your partner to be concerned about.
**Sometimes, if the love making is very powerful. Then the power of the release can bring on those intense feelings but you cannot stop this and please dont try too either. Just allow these feelings its quite OK. Perhaps your only conerned becuase you havent experienced this before or find these feelings abit over whelming which is understandable though.
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2006-11-29 02:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone handles sex in different ways...I love my boyfriend more then anything BUT when I have sex, its rough and it's just sex..No "love making" men don't see it as love making. It is sex no emotions nothing. If you have a fight and make up it may be more meaningful but you probably won't find many men that see sex as an "emotional thing" you can tell him how you feel. He may be able to work with you. Good luck
2006-11-29 02:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that its the way you are and you very much like the way he makes love with you and does tears are bcoz u r an emotional person and not bcoz the way he makes love. Ill be rather impressed with myself if I could make my girl cry during love making, it acts like a turn on and not turn off. Dont try to stop this, its just natural.
2006-11-29 02:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're normally emotional at other times and he's seen you in tears say during a movie, why wouldn't he understand that it's just an intense rush of emotions? Try talking to him again, plus the fact that you're still with him and having sex with him should be an indicator that he's definitely on the right track.
2006-11-29 01:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by foxiee_chic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can't and you shouldn't try to stop it, this is part of who you are. just explain to him how you are an emotional person and let him know a few nontraditional things that make you cry because you are so very happy. do this the next time you see him so it's not trying to be explained after the love making, make sure he knows how you feel NOW. he'll get accustomed to it, he shouldn't be upset...he should be proud that he makes you feel that way. it's an honor. explain that to him. what may even be better would be to make a tender joke out of it (after a while, of course) and say something like "hey, baby, wanna make me cry???" then after awhile it will be all forgotten and he may even cry after awhile, too, knowing how he makes you feel so satisfied.
2006-11-29 02:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How do I stop this"
Stop it, embrace it. The problem is not your spontaneous outburst of emotion (crying) the problem is his reaction. You need to talk to him about this.
The problem is his ego. OMG I am not doing this right.. she's crying. Tell him what its like, that the tears are tears of joy, and how he makes you feel. Make him feel proud of your tears. Then he won't mind them, in fact he'll be proud of them.
Or get a new boyfreind!
2006-11-29 02:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Vanchaser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope this dosent sound big headed(but i am) Ive seen this happen alot of times with girls Ive made love to,never asked but it seems to be a passion thing.You know crying with happines,letting go your emotions.Its a good thing you shouldnt feel you should need to do anything about it if your enjoying sex.
2006-11-29 02:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you try to hide, the worst it'll get. Just explain to him that crying is not necessaily related to sadness or pain, but more a way your body express high emotions, which include joy. It's a way to help your body going back to a "normal" state, or more precisely a rested state after any kind of stimulus. Hope it helps!
2006-11-29 02:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by loki_the_ferret 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋