How do i deal with people who want to break up my relationship?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 years is a very very nice guy. Hes also VERY handsome and very wealthy (if that matters somehow). Im a very relaxed girl, but constantly there are girls trying to get him, flirting with him in front of me (including some friends), making up rumors that were going to break up, telling him bad stuff about me, etc....
its getting really annoying..... how do i deal.. i dont want to be all jealous and possesive but i feel if i lay back, something might go wrong..

Answer 1

Try to stay away from the negative people in your life. Keep your relationship with your boyfriend very open and honest. If something bothers you let him know. When you're with someone too attractive sometimes those are the hardest relationships of all. You have to be a very strong and secure individual because there will always be someone trying to get their attention, good or bad. =)

Answer 2

First and foremost, do you trust your man? And is any of the "bad stuff" they're telling him true, do you have any reason to fear what they say (your man has to trust you too). If trust is not a concern then half the battle is won.
People are always going to be jealous and biitter, there's nothing you can do to change them.
If they're saying bad things about you then they must be some kind of acquaintence to you? Disassociate yourself with these people!!!
And how does your man react to the "flirting"? If he responds to it then he's encouraging it and that's really disrespectful of your feelings. Have a heart to heart and ask him to stop acknowledging the flirting. The girls will then learn their attention is unwanted and probably move on out of humiliation.
Bottomline, have faith in your relationship and don't let these catty women get to you. They are predators and take advantage of your insecurity.

Answer 3

Okay, I'll deal with each one separately. How do you deal with people who want to break up your relationship? Two things. First, if it's just to steal your fella away, I'd say it was kinda up to him as to whether or not he wants to go with them. You can't control him or where he goes. He stays with you because he wants to, not because you're making him. Second, if there's something wrong in your relationship, and someone is warning you, you might want to at least listen. When our eyes are clouded by love, it's hard to see reality. Okay, the girls who are flirting with him...again, nothing you can do about it. You can't punch out the lights of every gal who drools over your main squeeze. That would make you very insecure, and very unattractive in his eyes. You can't control them...and do you really want to waste your time on their pathetic efforts? I didn't think so. And the rumors...again, nothing you can do to stop them. All you can do is to continue to be seen with your fella every place you go, and that will show those rumors to be just plain lies. As for the bad stuff about you...does he ask you if it's true? Him coming to you with these accusations would be the best thing he can do for your relationship. It shows you that he's bringing these lies to your doorstep, so that you will know what's being said about you, and who's doing it. As long as you both talk about it together, then you're dealing with it just fine. Until you have that ring on your finger, you don't really have any claim on him. That's the plain truth. He can come & go as he wants. If he truly loves you, he won't purposely hurt you, and will share his personal life with you alone. Getting all bent out of shape just shows the competition that they've found your weak spot. Every time you see some little honey bee buzzin' around your honey, smile at your honey and tell him something sweet. Like, "Hey baby, see ya later at_____" and give him that wink. It makes the competition realize they haven't got a chance. He comes home to YOU, right? Keep that knowledge close to your heart, and learn to shrug off those wannabees. If your relationship is meant to be, it will happen. But, if he's one of those guys who enjoys all the attention, then it's best you know that now, than later. Here's a quote for you: "I've learned to not hold on so tightly to things that it hurts when God pries my fingers from around it". It means we need to hold things loosely, and cherish what we have because everything is temporary...except death (don't mean to be a downer here, just truthful).Just be yourself. If that's not enough, then nothing else you can do will be enough either. <*)))><

Answer 4

Anything where you realize that it isn't enough to deal with everyday for the rest of your life. Surprisingly, money is a big deal-breaker in relationships. Someone usually can't save and spends constantly, and the other person is more money-conscious. Cheating and infidelity is something that a lot of people can work through or are willing to work through. Another deal breaker is wanting to get married and wanting children and the timeline someone (usually the woman) is on. It also depends on the person you're with. I broke up with a guy once because he ate Starburst Candies with the wax wrapper on. It drove me nuts and made me gag, and I realized I couldn't be with someone who did that. It makes me sick to my stomach to think of now. :P I also put up with a lot more from other guys...

Answer 5

You need to work on your self confidence. Instead of being "annoyed or jealous", you should be flattered - he is with you! If you allow yourself to become "jealous and possessive", you may drive him away all by yourself.

The people who are flirting with him (and making up rumors) are NOT your "friends". Don't make the mistake of trusting them. That doesn't mean you shouldn't trust him. Concentrate on your relationship and enjoy your time together.

Attractive and successful people are always attractive to other people. If they weren't, you probably wouldn't be with them either!

Good luck.

Answer 6

But if you do get too possessive then it might push him away. The biggest issue in a relationship is trust and it HAS to go both ways. You have to trust him enough to know that if he really loves you, it's not going to matter what any one else says, it will fall on deaf ears. He has to trust you enough to disregard all he hears and come to you directly if he has a problem. Good luck :)

Answer 7

Just ignore the others and take care of your relationship by putting 100%+ into it. If it is really meant to bloom it will, and if he is the nice guy you say he is, the others might get a glance, but you will be the object of his love and affection. Watch your back, but keep your focus on him.

Answer 8

Talk openly with your boyfriend about what you feel, what your fears are concerning these events, and make sure he understands your feelings. Also, really listen to him when he tells you how he feels about what's happening and see if the two of you can come up with a solution to this before it gets out of hand and someone succeeds in causing you problems.

Answer 9

being insecure will do nothing but hurt the relationship. if he loves you then, he can deal with it, and no matter how the girl looks she won't be able to take him away. Start that jealousy junk and he's a goner. Relax, enjoy being together.

Answer 10

As long as you focus on your relationship with him, everything will be fine. If you continue to listen to all of the outside people you will just lose your mind. You dont have to be posessive or jealous. Just be secure knowing that you are the only one that he wants.