We have a little girl together so we have to see each other regularly. She doesn't even like me, but I'm still in love with her for over 3 years now. How do I fall out of love with my daughter's mother without dating, forinicating, or having other women in my life.
2006-11-29 01:41:35 · 17 answers · asked by babydaddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you'll ever fall out of love with her. You'll always have love for the mother of your child. You may need to focus some energy on yourself. Do something you like doing, if it's taking a class, fishing or just hanging out with friends. Even if you joined a gym, take yoga, do something relaxing build up yourself learn about you and start to love yourself. It will make it easier to get past this in your life and you'll be able to move on. Stay strong.. =)
2006-11-29 01:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize there is NO off/on love switch. It's up to U to change the girlfriend love to fondness & respect for ur daughter's mother. Let ur daughter be the sole focus of ur relationship with her. Stop trying to win her love & affection what I think u were doing for past 3 yrs.
Your relationship with other women, has no bearing on your daughters mother. Just don't u another women to get a reaction. Sounds like u hurt this Mom so back off, let her live her life. Ur only contact and concern should be the daughter the two of u had together.
Be a man and make sure ur caring financially for your daughter. Time and realizing the mistakes u made with this women will change ur relationship. Good luck
2006-11-29 02:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough situation. I think all you can do is make a decision in your heart that it won't happen with her. I agree that you shouldn't try to forget by having recreational sex with a bunch of chicks you don't even like. The best thing you can do is build up your self-esteem by going solo for awhile to clear your head. Hang out with 'groups' of friends, take up a new interest like playing the guitar or something and give it your all. We always seem to 'fall in love' with someone when we're not even looking for it. So don't look for it...just concentrate on loving and being yourself.
2006-11-29 01:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying "time will heal all wounds". I think you 2 will always share a special bond, because of your daughter. And you should eventually move on, but right now focus your life on your daughter. She's the one that needs you most,now that her parents are no longer together.
2006-11-29 01:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make a conscious decision to fall out of love with someone, it just happens. I don't know if I could love someone who didn't at least like me but I'm sure it's not a nice place to be. My advice would be to conceal how much you love her until things change or you're ready to move on. Deal with her on a purely practical basis and save your love for your daughter.
2006-11-29 02:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bumsworth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard situation to be in. Sometimes mothers feel they made a mistake having your child. maybe your in love with her. the thing is your always going to be stuck together because of your daughter together she should understand that. you have to get along for your child sake.
theres no way to fall out of love with the person that helped create your own flesh and blood.
2006-11-29 01:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by lestai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you were in love with her to begin with?
Being your baby's mother does not necessarily warrant love.
Perhaps lust would be a better word.
A more appropriate question might be, why would you think that you love someone who doesnt even LIKE you. To like someone is the first step. Then getting to know that someone develops into feelings of caring and love..........or quite the opposite, uncaring and dislike.
2006-11-29 01:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you were truly in love, you can't just stop. Second of all, why are you cutting out dating and other women all together? That's not the way to go about things. You might be missing something great.
2006-11-29 01:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. learn how to separate love from respect and admiration.
2. start dating. maybe try other people with kids so you'll have something to bond over and you can share something with your daughter and another person that is not ur childs mother.
3. realize its over, sounds like she has.
you dont have to be IN love with someone to love them.
2006-11-29 01:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to move on. She doesn't even LIKE you? That says it all. Doesn't sound like you have a snowball in he%% chance of winning her over. Forget her and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Rebait your hook and try a different lake.
2006-11-29 01:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋